First and foremost, I don't go into having sex for my own self gratification. Helps me focus on my task.
I feed off the energy that comes from a woman when she is being sexually gratified so I'm completely vested in making her succumb under the weight of pleasure.
The first thing I learned a long time ago was how to properly give massages as the skin itself is the most erogenous area of a woman's body..I have a oil mixture containing eucalyptus, almond and lavender that I use specifically for this purpose, the scent is very relaxing. I usually have a soundtrack of a babbling brook playing softly in the background to help further put her into a trance after which I began focusing more on on the massage..typically after awhile, she is damn near incoherent and usually is very eager to remove any covering or clothing at this time. At this point, it's pretty much game over...I'll work the lower back, butt, inner thighs and calves..every once awhile slightly glancing her clit. I've made women cum off just a massage alone..
At that point, it's feeding time..p*ssy is typically soaking at this point so I take care of the mess which usually winds up with her cummin again. If I feel like actually fukking, I'll go ahead and enjoy the conclusion as she's typically trying to recover at this point.
Sex is nothing more an art, if you invest a little time in the craft rather than yourself..than you'll get much more out of it along with your partner.