You see this as a bad thing but honestly I think you just saved yourself from future headache. I see red flags all throughout your post.
A woman got to know him.
OP already dug her (emotionally)
She's been patient with him.
Slowly progresses to ask him to hang out.
He agrees.
They kick it.
He doesn't even try to smash, and she accepts it.
The fukk am I missing? What red flags are you talkin about?
and I somehow backed myself into a corner I can’t get out of that could possibly make it worse. Like I haven’t even looked at porn at all ever since my confidence left, that’s how bad it is.So deadass y’all can clown me whatever idc I just need you guys advice, women can chip in as well on getting me out of this situation I fukked up and put myself in frfr. There’s this woman who is a close associate to someone else in my immediate circle, she is attractive, curvy,outgoing and people seem to gravitate to her(most likely because of her looks). When I first seen her I immediately thought she would be one of those social media type chicks but, come to find out she’s very low key and to top it off when we met each other we find out we have so much in common that we exchange fukkin numbers.(I hate fate for this) I don’t know why the fukk I did that thinking we would just be friends when I knew that we had strong chemistry with each other. So after going out to different places together I notice I make her really happy whenever she sees me, she even admitted to bragging about how much I make her happy to other people so I know she doesn’t just see this as a regular friendship smgdh!
Fast forward to today and now she’s wondering why I never bothered to go in her apartment with her or why I never invited her to my crib, so she takes matters into her own hands and wants to invite me over to hang out with her.(why me lord?) I can’t tell her no because that would be suspicious asf for a high esteem heterosexual man to turn down an attractive woman with a banging body and I know she could possibly go back and tell everyone in our immediate circle about it which would bring more attention to me. I hesitated and told her let me think about it and that’s when she tells me to not worry too much nothing serious was going to happen and that we are just going to enjoy classic soul/r&b music, get high , and talk about anime & shyt. So my anxiety slowly went away and I told her yeah I’m down….. big ass mistake because right after she sends me a text saying….
“you know you set yourself up right?*insert demon emoji*”
I lol and tell her to stop playing and she responds that the true playing ain’t happen yet and now my anxiety is at high right now. I regret I ever got too close too her and I know she’s going to possibly hate the fukk out of me because she’ll think I wasted her time. I really wish I could just runaway to a farm and live the remainder of my life alone in peace. Life is a straight bytch for this mayne
1) he was wrong about her being the social media type.
2) They went out to a 'bunch of different places together' and she realized she liked him.
3) "You know you set yourself up" is called flirting.
4) 'The true playing aint started yet' means she tryna throw hints that she wanna fukk.
What am I missing here.
Anybody?
Anybody?
OP don’t let nobody shame you for being human. Plenty of people get nervous or anxious prior to sex. Therapy can help you deal with anxiety.
The thing about anxiety is that it doesn’t even have to be over major shyt. But if you don’t get it under control it can affect every single decision you make. Self doubt is insidious. Just confront the source of your anxieties.
Is it ED? If so, what factors are causing it?
Is it your body? If so, keep in mind outside of a corset, clothes don’t really hide much so if she liked you enough inside of them, unless you got a talking head or something under your clothes, she’s still like you out of them too.
Is it dikk size? Then stop feeling inadequate. We do a shytty job making dudes think they gotta be 10 inches. Use your fingers, tongue, and just ensure you both enjoy it.
Also don’t do shyt you not comfortable doing. Sometimes the more restraint a man shows, the more the female desires him. I know smashing is the ultimate goal for some but take your time.
Otherwise, try not to live too much in your head!
Happy Humping!
I'm going to guess that OP's body just ain't on shyt right now,I am 99% sure. If he was a virgin he wouldn't have ever had "sexual confidence" w/e that is.
I first had sex at 13,had 0 confidence,but was trying to fukk even before then. Confidence has nothing to do with trying to fukk.
OP let me give you a little advice,this is what I've always done when I didn't want to see the body or the face of the women I was smashing.
Turn the t.v on,Turn off the light,Invite her into your bed. Maybe watch the t.v for a good 10-20 minutes before turning it off.
Cuddle her from the back,as she feels the dikk in her back she will make the next move by reaching for it if she's interested.
This will also help you avoid being Cosby in 2021#WeCanAllBeCosby. From there do whatever foreplay comes to mind if you choose.
Turn off that t.v and then go to town. You are now in the dark and neither of you have any inhibitions or insecurities,just two spirits in the night
Its a win win,women are more sexually confident in the dark as well because they don't feel judged.
I see those things as red flags breh. You see it as an invitation to have fun but I see it as a setup with the wrong woman as your potential baby mama in the future. I'll agree to disagree with you.
