i'm from the bayDamn. I didn't even read through the whole thread but a LOT of people have 3+ hour round trip commutes and it was Even more common before COVID hit and made work from home or thing.
I know for a fact it's super common in Seattle and San Francisco.
when I worked in oakland, the office manager would do a 3+ hour commute 1 way into the office 4 days a week. I forget what town she lived in, but she lived in the central ass valley.
I could not do that kinda commute daily. I have no idea if she went home every night, but she was in the office by 9.