She Should Know You Want the Cheeks...

[skylove4]

Oh it's still talking...

You can't be desperate and stupid nikka. Pick a struggle.

#blocked

Oh that's better.

This guttersnipe really likes to talk. I’ll post her lies in a few days and watch it backtrack .

 

[Kenny West]

This may be the first time in internet history a woman is giving legit good game advice

 

[LiveFromLondon]

Ask fish how to fish brehs

 

[Vodun]

The way I was taught the game. I’m a playboy and always like to be upfront and honest with my intentions because I never wanted to deceive anybody. It cuts out confusion and I get what I want. It has never failed me.

 

[Primetime]

I agree with OP on the principle of it. I think insecurity, fear of shaming, and just flat out deceitfulness (with one’s long-term intentions) are common causes for the ambiguity, which you could argue are all just traits of young-mindedness.

Spoiler

Example,

• a dude who “really” likes a chick but is afraid to offend her/lose her if he asks directly for sex. (Insecurity)
• A dude wanting to fukk a chick that is part of his social network/has mutual friends or coworkers. (Fear of shaming)
• a dude who has zero long-term interest in a chick that in-turn wants a relationship with him, so he’d rather them “fall into having sex” than have direct convo in what they both want and risk losing out on some ass (deceitfulness)

Same with females, probably greater insecurity and fear of shaming but the deceitfulness can be on the opposite spectrum, i.e. keeping things ambiguous to milk the free dinners, shopping sprees, gifts, etc., without having to commit to sex.

Now, if both are honest upfront with intentions and, let’s say a relationship/marriage is something both are looking for, then discussing sex is the least of concerns. But if the intentions are ambiguous (“we’re just talking”, “seeing where things go”, “y out relationship goals”, etc.,) then one or both of yall are probably just bullshyttin.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I agree with OP on the principle of it. I think insecurity, fear of shaming, and just flat out deceitfulness (with one’s long-term intentions) are common causes for the ambiguity, which you could argue are all just traits of young-mindedness.

Spoiler

Example,

• a dude who “really” likes a chick but is afraid to offend her/lose her if he asks directly for sex. (Insecurity)
• A dude wanting to fukk a chick that is part of his social network/has mutual friends or coworkers. (Fear of shaming)
• a dude who has zero long-term interest in a chick that in-turn wants a relationship with him, so he’d rather them “fall into having sex” than have direct convo in what they both want and risk losing out on some ass (deceitfulness)

Same with females, probably greater insecurity and fear of shaming but the deceitfulness can be on the opposite spectrum, i.e. keeping things ambiguous to milk the free dinners, shopping sprees, gifts, etc., without having to commit to sex.

Now, if both are honest upfront with intentions and, let’s say a relationship/marriage is something both are looking for, then discussing sex is the least of concerns. But if the intentions are ambiguous (“we’re just talking”, “seeing where things go”, “y out relationship goals”, etc.,) then one or both of yall are probably just bullshyttin.

I like your assessment.

The only thing I don't feel like most of the people in this thread are grasping, and I feel that also a bit with your post is the immediacy of the sexual desire conversation.

I think you guys are taking it very literally ie "I want to have sex with you and it should happen now." Which is part of what I mean but i'm more specifically mean, is having the conversation about where you want the interaction to go.

For example, using your examples:

Asking someone you are interested in for sex. It doesn't have to be that literal.

It could also mean expressing that you are interested in a sexual relationship, not just asking for and then expecting sex immediately.

The rest I agree with 100%.

 

[MegaTronBomb!]

It crazy how ya'll care about doing what some random women wants you to do instead of what's in your best interest.

I'm just saying, discernment matters.

The point is to develop your tool set, and know when it's appropriate to opt for a particular method.

Going Dikembe Mutombo every time while disregarding that other methods may work far better cause "best interest" isn't practical for most men.

 

[MajesticLion]

Ask fish how to fish brehs

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I'm just saying, discernment matters.

The point is to develop your tool set, and know when it's appropriate to opt for a particular method.

Going Dikembe Mutombo every time while disregarding that other methods may work far better cause "best interest" isn't practical for most men.

Being honest is practical for everyone.

What you're really saying is that getting coochie is more important than the possible consequences or negative effects that comes along with your inability to be upfront and honest.

I don't respect men who move like that but it seems like principles really aren't your main agenda.

Just as long as the same man who's scared to be upfront doesn't call himself a leader in the next sentence is all good to me.

 

[010101]

Being honest is practical for everyone.

What you're really saying is that getting coochie is more important than the possible consequences or negative effects that comes along with your inability to be upfront and honest.

I don't respect men who move like that but it seems like principles really aren't your main agenda.

Just as long as the same man who's scared to be upfront doesn't call himself a leader in the next sentence is all good to me.

it's like most men don't understand a woman can be giving you p*ssy & have no respect for you

watching cats sacrifice all honor for some cooch is shameful

y'all women need to stop confusing fools & hold the standard on character for who is getting to cut aHA

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[Scaaar]

I thought it was

 

[africngiant]

 

[bzb]

agree with bp on the point - closed mouths don't get fed. need to broach the topic of interest, respectfully and in advance. depending on intentions, there are ways to signal or discuss without seeming pervy or desperate. helps to not waste anyone's time.

the topic seems mostly directed at men though. and this is a male dominated board, but women need this message too. they won't always be the initiator, this does go both ways tho, especially when they do initiate. inviting themselves to stay the night after a date when yall aren't a couple, or inviting you over and acting aggy if you don't press for cheeks, backing up on you unexpectedly, initiating sex unexpectedly, etc.

women can be slick and demanding too though. in my experience i've never had 'the talk'. just read the signs and acted accordingly. to be fair i've probably missed a lot of signs because of that. just never been stressed about it.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

it's like most men don't understand a woman can be giving you p*ssy & have no respect for you

watching cats sacrifice all honor for some cooch is shameful

y'all women need to stop confusing fools & hold the standard on character for who is getting to cut aHA

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I already do

 

[010101]

I already do

you are one woman & you can't answer for all women

you need to do more birdwatching

aHA

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