She Should Know You Want the Cheeks...

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Yeah I'm gonna have to call bullshyt on this idea.

First off, shout-out to OP but she's only one woman, and she doesn't represent womandom in it's entirety.

More importantly, there's a huge fukking chasm between catching cases BECAUSE you refuse to see the warning signs, and going for the Hail Mary instead of running the ball and steadily moving the chains, taking what the "defense" gives you. Yeah there will be women who appreciate a more direct approach but they are in the minority. And the first time? Some tact is necessary IMO.

In my experience (I'm not no Don Quixote but I've had some encounters), even if the woman is gagging for it, they are conditioned to recoil at more direct approaches (the first time). However they are really good at indicating they're ok with you making that small next step. And then they give permission for the small next step. And on it goes until it's go time. Or she says, "let's not go beyond this point" which is cool, but you've made it some distance, and you've established some sexual tension that can be picked up on the next time (if there is one), and you didn't freak her out by jumping the gun and asking for coitus out the bat.

Now once the first time is out the way, and it was good for her, ain't nothing wrong with being more explicit. Deeds been done already, ain't nothing new. "Come over and sit on my face" is sexy to them now. It's crazy the first time, and I'm not Steph shooting from the logo

Is there room for communication? Of course. After the first move when she demonstrates that green light, nothing wrong with explicitly asking, "you want to do this"? Regular verbal check-ins to see her mood, before and during. Reading body and non-verbal cues. Having the willingness to walk away and jack off if for whatever reason she's anything less than enthusiastic at the prospect of fukking. Do that and you won't catch a case unless you just hooked up with a lying psycho (in which case you're fukked anyways).

I'm not getting the point of the OP at all.

It's so insane that ya'll still think this thread is about ease of access and what women want.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You are talking about 16 different things at once and think we don't see it.....

YES... when you first meet a woman, you should tell her your intentions......

YES... when you are trying to fukk TONIGHT, you should let her know your intentions.......

NO.... it is not a good idea to tell her each and every single time that you want to have sex with her, never leaving it up to how you or her feel that night.

Intentions to have sex when she's ready =/= intentions to have sex with her because I'M ready. So really, I only need to tell her that once and make sure she consents when I'm sliding it in.

shyt, my WIFE doesn't want me coming home and just informing her of the sex I want to have that night. She wants to be woo'd, kissed on, rubbed up, relaxed and into it herself. Not get a memo at 3pm about my daily desire for sex and my need for her to put consent in writing in case she wants to charge me later....



You are WILDING. Why not just have the consent form by the night stand so I don't give her 30 mins to 5 hours to change her mind?

I get where you was going. I get the premise. But you are really giving some 7th grade level advice here and you know it.

You don't understand the premise of the thread. Yet you just keep going.

Like you really don't understand while calling someone else elementary?



You should really actually read the thread and you might catch on.

I stated exactly the scenario I meant early in the thread. Idk why you are talking about 16 scenarios.



I'm kinda surprised by you. You're not normally this sloppy.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

It'll save you a lot of trouble and headaches in the long run too
Like rape allegations and wasted time
Cuz once we are alone and start having drinks
Imo get handsy and real aggressive
Communication is the key

Even before we link I'm talking extra nasty just to weed out those who not gonna be cooperative

nikka you gonna be the first to catch a case

You think flirting and talking nasty BEFORE THEY GET THERE... Is gonna save your drunk, handsy, real aggressive ass, when she decides mid stroke to "change her mind" or even before all that??

What get out of jail free card do y'all think that "ok we're having sex tonight" is gonna get you out of when she can change her mind about her consent at any second?

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

You don't understand the premise of the thread. Yet you just keep going.

Okie dokie... Let me guess... You're not going to explain it either

 

[Still Benefited]

And that’s basically what I said but she said it ruins the mood. But I know she bullshyttin just like most women and definitely childish. But now I ask do it really matter if a guy is direct or not if you already like him? Like does a guy that you are actually into have to verbally say lets fukk if the vibe is already there?

Why the hell yall in here asking women questions yall already know the answers too? Yall are here to teach the women in the peanut gallery as black men. You know damn well a man doesnt have to verbally say anything if a woman is attracted. Meanwhile half of the first page was discounting "vibes". I dont think people understand what vibes are

Vibe-"a person's emotional state or the atmosphere of a place as communicated to and felt by others."

Vibes are energy,you use energy to manipulate the atmopshere which will enable the other person to feel what your intention is.


If you are giving off best friend energy,it may cause confusion. If you are giving off "i want to fukk energy" the woman will respond according to how she feels based on the atmosphere.


I know alot of us are old and washed,but this thread is saddening. Remember who you are kings. Yall sound like yall forgot how to ride a bike in here. Yall know EXACTLY what to do,just like a peacock inherently knows its mating rituals. Its engrained in our nature. Even if your too scared to do it,you KNOW what to do. Being "direct" is for g.m.o'd cave men. Do your dance

 

[Conan]

Lets be serious here.. You know damn well most men, who have never slept with the girl yet, are not plainly stating "please come over here so we can have sex tonight."

Now after the first time, yea you might flirt your way into saying it, or implying it. But still, the least sexy thing you will ever say to a woman is, "make sure it's known BEFORE you get here, that I want sex."


And most women, when talked to like that, BEFORE ever giving up sex, aren't going to rush over to give it to you when you're talking like that. They also want to be enticed and romanced into the sex. Not have it scheduled or first thing on your brain before they even put makeup on.

Again, if you been sleeping with her already, it's different.... But still, they want some sweet talking with this.



Any woman you can call up, anytime, and say "come over here cause i'm trying to fukk" and she just hops right up and comes over......... Will never been seen as anything more than that. And women and men know it and act accordingly

On God breh

Like I'm willing to acknowledge that I ain't Supernikka like some of these brehs

But bringing up sex off rip? Straight out the freezer?

Man I took a chick on a date once, it was real friendly, she went home afterwards. A few days later we went out, she came to my house and changed into lingerie and I smashed it out the park... I am definitely sure if I mentioned sex that first date it would have been over...

I'm completely willing to remain in this mediocrity and defer on this topic to the Supernikkas

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Okie dokie... Let me guess... You're not going to explain it either

Why would I explain a conversation to you that's been going on for 18 pages because you're too lazy to read through it?

You're absolutely right. I won't be explaining it to you. You seem committed to misunderstanding so I'll leave you where I found you.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Why would I explain a conversation to you that's been going on for 18 pages because you're too lazy to read through it?

You're absolutely right. I won't be explaining it to you. You seem committed to misunderstanding so I'll leave you where I found you.

Thought so

I read every post in here and responded to what I responded to

I got the premise

Hoe babble

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

On God breh

Like I'm willing to acknowledge that I ain't Supernikka like some of these brehs

But bringing up sex off rip? Straight out the freezer?

Man I took a chick on a date once, it was real friendly, she went home afterwards. A few days later we went out, she came to my house and changed into lingerie and I smashed it out the park... I am definitely sure if I mentioned sex that first date it would have been over...

I'm completely willing to remain in this mediocrity and defer on this topic to the Supernikkas

Super nikkas in here talking about avoiding rape charges

I'll stay a regular nikka and out of prison

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Thought so

I read every post in here and responded to what I responded to

I got the premise

Hoe babble

Oh that makes it even worse



I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt.



I literally stated the premise precisely at least 2 times in this thread. I guess your keen cognitive skills missed it.

Bless your heart lol

 

[DrexlersFade]

nikka you gonna be the first to catch a case

You think flirting and talking nasty BEFORE THEY GET THERE... Is gonna save your drunk, handsy, real aggressive ass, when she decides mid stroke to "change her mind" or even before all that??

What get out of jail free card do y'all think that "ok we're having sex tonight" is gonna get you out of when she can change her mind about her consent at any second?

That's only small meat gang babble/problems not once has a female had a changed of heart once I entered her

 

[Still Benefited]

Lets be serious here.. You know damn well most men, who have never slept with the girl yet, are not plainly stating "please come over here so we can have sex tonight."

Now after the first time, yea you might flirt your way into saying it, or implying it. But still, the least sexy thing you will ever say to a woman is, "make sure it's known BEFORE you get here, that I want sex."


And most women, when talked to like that, BEFORE ever giving up sex, aren't going to rush over to give it to you when you're talking like that. They also want to be enticed and romanced into the sex. Not have it scheduled or first thing on your brain before they even put makeup on.

Again, if you been sleeping with her already, it's different.... But still, they want some sweet talking with this.



Any woman you can call up, anytime, and say "come over here cause i'm trying to fukk" and she just hops right up and comes over......... Will never been seen as anything more than that. And women and men know it and act accordingly

Quoted for emphasis.

 

[Conan]

The Detroit nikka was wylin by the way

Pants down dikk out off rip is crazy

Yeah it's 4:30 am and yeah what did she expect and bla bla

But come on my nikka, at least engage in some light conversation for a bit, touch her and shyt and see how she responds, if she's with it it's a fast ramp up, if she's not apologize and say you misunderstood the vibe and off ramp softly with an option to ditch or try again next time

This approach was only ending one way once she said no

Yeah he could have asked her in the beginning "it's fukking hours you know that right" and save the stress... That's just a Hail Mary though. The occasional success doesnt mean it's the high probability move

 

[kwazzy100]

Thank the Me Too movement. Could've stopped with actual abusers, but nope.

Even saying a woman is hot makes you look like your face is gonna be on Frontline NBC

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

That's only small meat gang babble/problems not once has a female had a changed of heart once I entered her

They've had sex before. She just wanted more than he did and instead of having a conversation about it he kept skating the line.

Y'all do realize i'm talking about not only stating you want sex, but stating your intentions behind the relationship, right?