She wants to have kids...but...

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

I am not ready...

I see kids as an expensive blessing...

Would you start having kids, and see where it goes?
Would you wait, until, more monies pan?
Would you leave chick and find someone else who is more with the program?

thoughts?

 

[ThumpDaddy]

I guess you two may be at different points in your lives. The question is, "is she worth having children with"? It may not be worth it to lose a good woman if you already have her.

 

[Rawtid]

Well one, do you want to be with her on the long term?

If so, then you should tell her that you aren't ready because of financial concerns and then you two can come up with a goal. Like say you want X amount in the bank before children then you two can save up the money and start having children once the goal is met.

 

[-G$-]

I am not ready...

/close thread

 

[Rawtid]

/close thread

Dude, that is not enough, especially if he's married. They need to both compromise on a time and all that especially if she feels her clock is ticking.

 

[-G$-]

Dude, that is not enough, especially if he's married. They need to both compromise on a time and all that especially if she feels her clock is ticking.

he didn't say they were married.

one of the options he presented was "Would you leave chick and find someone else who is more with the program?"

sorry, but the whole thing sounds like a giant mistake waiting to happen .

 

[Rawtid]

he didn't say they were married.

one of the options he presented was "Would you leave chick and find someone else who is more with the program?"

sorry, but the whole thing sounds like a giant mistake waiting to happen .

You're right. My ideal little world makes everyone happily married.

 

[Isaiah Bradley]

Leave if you are not ready. Don't string her along, especially if she's older chick whose bio-clock is ticking

She being a "good girl" is not a good enough reason to preg her because the pressures and responsibilities of raising a child place lots of pressure on the relationships. Those "good qualities" are gone, once financial reality seeps in

 

[-G$-]

You're right. My ideal little world makes everyone happily married.

i hear you.

unfortunately, this type of decision making process is what mostly contributes the statistics that reincar uses to argue against marriage and kids.

"i'm not ready for kids... so should i start having kids, and just see where it goes?"

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

I guess you two may be at different points in your lives. The question is, "is she worth having children with"? It may not be worth it to lose a good woman if you already have her.

she would make a good mother.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

I'm tryin to tell my girl this stuff. I need to strap up because she already said no abortions

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

Well one, do you want to be with her on the long term?

If so, then you should tell her that you aren't ready because of financial concerns and then you two can come up with a goal. Like say you want X amount in the bank before children then you two can save up the money and start having children once the goal is met.

yeah, I am having assist in some business ventures.

just so she see what the process is, and see what he goal is.

she feels is not about money, that there is enough to start having kids, I feel there are "wants" in life to get and more savings...before having kids.

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

I'm tryin to tell my girl this stuff. I need to strap up because she already said no abortions

There are ways to convince her ;)

but yeah, use a rubber, cuz girls wanna have their way and might trap ya

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

Yeah, I be thinkin I'm good since she empties me beforehand but I know any small amount can have me quick

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I'm not even thinking about kids till I'm atleast 35 and well established. If I ever do have kids they're gonna be pure black excellence