Should you love your spouse more or your kids more?

[Falcon]

Spouse.

The question is MORE. From the responses you guys seem to be latching onto the idea that if you love your spouse then the kids are neglected for some reason.
I think its one of those things where loving your kids more unintentionally hurts them.
Honestly you are going to love your kids regardless, but you need to put an emphasis on your spouse in order to lead by example and form a strong family structure that will be better for the kids in the end.

Also, throwing relationship with the spouse to the wayside can end up leading to arguments, divorce, etc that can be really really damaging for kids.

 

[Costanza]

Discussion I had a while back with some of my homies

I'm vehemently against my girl even entertaining the notion that she should put our kids before me. It's a fukked up mentality in my mind. Of course I'm a man, a woman may feel different, but I'm tryna understand y'alls mindset if so

What y'all think?

Honestly dog, you got fukkin issues...

Your girls love towards you just like any love in a romantic relationship is conditional... she fukks another dude... you still gonna love her??? and vice versa.

the love for your children is unconditional... and thats pretty much all you need to know.

 

[Costanza]

Kids of course but the love for both is still supposed to be unconditional .

No it isnt... your wife cheats on you... thats not a condition for you to stop loving her?

 

[KinksandCoils]

No it isnt... your wife cheats on you... thats not a condition for you to stop loving her?

But that's not what I mean when I say unconditional love. I'm referring to .....let's say your husband or wife got into a car accident and couldn't walk....you should stick by them and not leave them just because things have changed....

 

[FemiO]

Honestly dog, you got fukkin issues...

Your girls love towards you just like any love in a romantic relationship is conditional... she fukks another dude... you still gonna love her??? and vice versa.

the love for your children is unconditional... and thats pretty much all you need to know.

i think you have the question confused, and also your definition of love is confused

if i love somebody because she's smart, talented, passionate, e.g i love her for who she is, nothing she can do will change that. of course i still will love her. does that mean I won't break up with her? NO. the fact that you even call it conditional means that YOU have issues

furthermore the love you have for your children is inherited, inherent love. you're telling me that hands down, that love is superior the kind of love you can spend a dozen years building? no.

i can't even see myself loving a child that doesn't exist right now over a woman that i'm planing on spending the rest of my life with. so fukk off with that "you got issues" bullshyt, cause you're off base

 

[FemiO]

Kids easily. Your kids will love you no matter what as long as you're a decent human being and a decent parent. Your bytch could change her mind or get it changed at any moment

if you love somebody, how would their opinion get "changed at any moment"? you must be talking about some high school relationship shyt

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

I dont have kids and I'm not married so I may not know wtf im talking about. But I think the love one has for their child and spouse is very different. the love of either doesnt .. or shouldnt over power the other.

 

[el_oh_el]

i think you have the question confused, and also your definition of love is confused

if i love somebody because she's smart, talented, passionate, e.g i love her for who she is, nothing she can do will change that. of course i still will love her. does that mean I won't break up with her? NO. the fact that you even call it conditional means that YOU have issues

furthermore the love you have for your children is inherited, inherent love. you're telling me that hands down, that love is superior the kind of love you can spend a dozen years building? no.

i can't even see myself loving a child that doesn't exist right now over a woman that i'm planing on spending the rest of my life with. so fukk off with that "you got issues" bullshyt, cause you're off base

This is exactly why you have that opinion. The feeling that resides inside of me for my son is so STRONG that i get angry at the mere THOUGHT of somebody doin him dirty....

 

[kp404]

Discussion I had a while back with some of my homies

I'm vehemently against my girl even entertaining the notion that she should put our kids before me. It's a fukked up mentality in my mind. Of course I'm a man, a woman may feel different, but I'm tryna understand y'alls mindset if so

What y'all think?

What kind of stupid fukking question is this? :wtfcosbysmoke: you love them all equally because they are your family.

 

[FemiO]

This is exactly why you have that opinion. The feeling that resides inside of me for my son is so STRONG that i get angry at the mere THOUGHT of somebody doin him dirty....

you may be right

but even then i'm not a strong family-oriented person so idk

 

[Fmju]

if you love somebody, how would their opinion get "changed at any moment"? you must be talking about some high school relationship shyt

So adults don't cheat?
Divorce isn't a common thing nowadays?
Some people are boring as shyt and can't maintain an exciting relationship?

 

[FemiO]

What kind of stupid fukking question is this? :wtfcosbysmoke: you love them all equally because they are your family.

you must live in fantasy land

nobody loves their kids equally. nobody loves their siblings equally. you might say you do but there's always one you have a stronger bond with

i think it's a fair question

 

[Costanza]

But that's not what I mean when I say unconditional love. I'm referring to .....let's say your husband or wife got into a car accident and couldn't walk....you should stick by them and not leave them just because things have changed....

well i get your referring to that... but uncondional means there are no conditions aka theres nothing that person could do to make your love for them change...

there are plenty of things your wife could do... mainly adultery... but regardless you are going to have conditions on that relationship that arent the same as the ones you'd have for your children.

 

[KinksandCoils]

well i get your referring to that... but uncondional means there are no conditions aka theres nothing that person could do to make your love for them change...

there are plenty of things your wife could do... mainly adultery... but regardless you are going to have conditions on that relationship that arent the same as the ones you'd have for your children.

Even if one cheated that doesn't mean that you stop loving them

 

[Costanza]

i think you have the question confused, and also your definition of love is confused

if i love somebody because she's smart, talented, passionate, e.g i love her for who she is, nothing she can do will change that. of course i still will love her. does that mean I won't break up with her? NO. the fact that you even call it conditional means that YOU have issues

furthermore the love you have for your children is inherited, inherent love. you're telling me that hands down, that love is superior the kind of love you can spend a dozen years building? no.

i can't even see myself loving a child that doesn't exist right now over a woman that i'm planing on spending the rest of my life with. so fukk off with that "you got issues" bullshyt, cause you're off base

nah im on base breh... you got issues.. you should get some help for that dude.