Shouldn't more women propose to their man to avoid their "time" being wasted?

[ThrobbingHood]

Long story short, a friend of my sister has been in a relationship with her man for 10 years. Yes 10 YEARS! She confided in my sister and myself, asking if she should propose to him and of course my sister told her not to because that's desperate.

But isn't waiting ten years for a man to propose to you even more desperate? I told her straight she's got nothing to lose at this point. It's obvious she's afraid of rejection so she'd rather convince herself he will propose eventually. They already have a child together.

Ladies. Make it make sense. You get upset with men saying they string you along but choose not to break traditions despite living in an untraditional relationship.

Why continue to be in a long term relationship and not force the breh 's hand? Wouldn't you rather know whether a man wants to commit to you or not rather than waste your good years and egg to a loser?

 

[Umoja]

Unless he is against marriage as a concept, he should have asked her.

10 year relationship, with a youth? Get the paternity test and commit to it.

To answer your question, it should be discussed when assessing where the relationship is going. I don't really believe in proposals in the sense that it isn't something to create excitement over.

 

[Max Power]

10 years and a kid.

They're basically married in all but name minus the stupid expensive ceremony, ring and risk of losing half when she gets bored.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

10 years and a kid.

They're basically married in all but name minus the stupid expensive ceremony, ring and risk of losing half when she gets bored.

There has to be more to marriage than this. What about wealth transmission?

 

[Sterling Archer]

There is no time limit on deciding how you will spend the rest of your life.
If it takes 10yrs for a man to see if a woman is worth it, that says something about her as well. It means it took her that long to show the qualities of being a wife or he lowered his expectations of her and waiting for her to meet them.

That or he don't believe in marriage.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

I don’t think women need to propose in order to get a better sense of their time management in regards to relationships. I think women should do that when they actually feel they’ve found someone worth marrying...

 

[Orange cream shake]

Ladies don’t end up like Chrissy from love and hip hop.

 

[Spliff]

No.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Unless he is against marriage as a concept, he should have asked her.

10 year relationship, with a youth? Get the paternity test and commit to it.

To answer your question, it should be discussed when assessing where the relationship is going. I don't really believe in proposals in the sense that it isn't something to create excitement over.

I agree. People just kind of go with the flow when it comes to relationships. No one ever expects it to go the distance initially so planning for future is rarely done.

I should add some context. She's 38 and he's 30. They're both professionals. I've met him a few times and breh is just laid back. He doesn't seem like the kind of guy to so something like propose unless there is an incentive to.

10 years and a kid.

They're basically married in all but name minus the stupid expensive ceremony, ring and risk of losing half when she gets bored.

True. I'm just saying why wait on a proposal if you can just force someone's hand. It seems like an ego thing to me.

There has to be more to marriage than this. What about wealth transmission?

True. Especially other tax benefits.

 

[Diondon]

Nah they should date men that have plans to constantly grow and evolve.
And be prepared to leave if such growth doesn't occur.
A lot of nikkas will happily fukk you as long as you let them

 

[ThrobbingHood]

There is no time limit on deciding how you will spend the rest of your life.
If it takes 10yrs for a man to see if a woman is worth it, that says something about her as well. It means it took her that long to show the qualities of being a wife or he lowered his expectations of her and waiting for her to meet them.

That or he don't believe in marriage.

I'm gonna have to disagree. Men know almost straight away if a woman is wife material, the same way Women know almost straight away if they're gonna give a man p*ssy.

Of course in both circumstances, there may be factors that delay such decisions. But no man needs ten years to decide unless he's against marriage.

If a woman of Beyonce 's calibre gave up the p*ssy to a breh... do you really think he would have to scratch his head over ten years to decide if she's the one or not?

The amount of times I've seen brehs break up with their long time girlfriend and marry their next girlfriend in almost a year let's me know it's BS.

I don’t think women need to propose in order to get a better sense of their time management in regards to relationships. I think women should do that when they actually feel they’ve found someone worth marrying...

I hear that.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

A lot of nikkas will happily fukk you as long as you let them

No man would ever say no to free milk.

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

Yes, more and more will be doing this

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

yea nothing wrong wit it


they would be initiating the commitment

 

[Sterling Archer]

I'm gonna have to disagree. Men know almost straight away if a woman is wife material, the same way Women know almost straight away if they're gonna give a man p*ssy.

Of course in both circumstances, there may be factors that delay such decisions. But no man needs ten years to decide unless he's against marriage.

If a woman of Beyonce 's calibre gave up the p*ssy to a breh... do you really think he would have to scratch his head over ten years to decide if she's the one or not?

The amount of times I've seen brehs break up with their long time girlfriend and marry their next girlfriend in almost a year let's me know it's BS.

And that sentiment is exactly why so many marriages fail. Because you DONT know if someone is worth spending the rest of your life with as soon as you meet them.

The fact that you are trying to equate a lifelong commitment to a one night stand is tantamount to failure.