Shouldn't more women propose to their man to avoid their "time" being wasted?

[ajnapoleon]

There has to be more to marriage than this. What about wealth transmission?

That the man will lose if she wants out soooooo

 

[the bossman]

I'm gonna have to disagree. Men know almost straight away if a woman is wife material, the same way Women know almost straight away if they're gonna give a man p*ssy.

what??
one situation is for 30 minutes of fun. Doesn't take much to decide on that. And if it doesn't workout the worst consequence is you had some bad sex

The other is for a Lifetime with big ramifications if you choose wrong. I don't thinj the two are comparable at ALL

I think it doesn't take more than a good 2 years to know tho

 

[BrehWyatt]

Right. Women love to throw out that “men should know within” line.

No. Every man should evaluate a woman through a variety of seasons and scenarios.

That can take time.

They're right though.

That doesn't mean he can't change his mind or contemplate based on what was discovered over time or through more in-depth vetting of the situation.

The way I look at it? I'd probably know within 2 years of being in a relationship (not counting how long we've just known each other) whether or not a chick I'm with has a chance to go the distance with me. That doesn't mean I won't continue to vet and observe TO MAKE SURE my initial assessment is right, because people change as time goes, and we have to be sure these changes are good ones/makes them better partners in the long run, etc.

That's the disconnect to me. Just because you're a year into it and decide "OK, she's got long-term potential." doesn't mean you can't change your mind about it as you get new information.

 

[Neuromancer]

Some thing something real man something something independent something something.

 

[mamba]

They're right though.

That doesn't mean he can't change his mind or contemplate based on what was discovered over time or through more in-depth vetting of the situation.

The way I look at it? I'd probably know within 2 years of being in a relationship (not counting how long we've just known each other) whether or not a chick I'm with has a chance to go the distance with me. That doesn't mean I won't continue to vet and observe TO MAKE SURE my initial assessment is right, because people change as time goes, and we have to be sure these changes are good ones/makes them better partners in the long run, etc.

That's the disconnect to me. Just because you're a year into it and decide "OK, she's got long-term potential." doesn't mean you can't change your mind about it as you get new information.

True. A man will have his initial gut feeling early on.

But, a lot of women interpret that to mean he should propose within that timeframe.

 

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[Honey Bee]

Yes, more and more will be doing this

I truly hope not.This just screams desperation and low self-esteem on so many levels

P.S. The woman in the op should have ended things a long time ago.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Um no women nag their man about getting married.. that's their way of "proposing".

Never lose sleep for what another woman will tolerate from a man if she ain't a friend, family member, etc.

There is no shortage of women that will accept being a man's sidepiece or part of his roster.

Gotta learn not to give a fukk

 

[colicolicoli]

She's an idiot for having a kid by a man that won't marry her.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

So that they man can waste their time in the marriage?

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Don't most women propose the idea of getting married? I mean they don't usually get on one knee with a ring, but I'd bet that most women bring up marriage before the man.

I know I ain't marrying no woman who doesn't bring it up first

 

[BaldingSoHard]

So that they man can waste their time in thenmareiage?

Exactly, except marriage adds legitimacy to a woman's life, so even if it ends, she still wasn't "wasting her time". Especially if she got kids and half his wealth out of it.

 

[Gold]

And that sentiment is exactly why so many marriages fail. Because you DONT know if someone is worth spending the rest of your life with as soon as you meet them.

The fact that you are trying to equate a lifelong commitment to a one night stand is tantamount to failure.

These brehs aint living in reality

I spent longer choosing what college to go to than some brehs did deciding who to wife

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

If a female propose to me we have to breakup. That’s wild disrespectful.

 

[peppe]

11 years in and not married

I don't believe in it, simple