Shouldn't more women propose to their man to avoid their "time" being wasted?

[Swirv]

like The older folks say, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

 

[Silky Johnson]

The most appropriate thing to do would be to have a discussion about it. Proposals shouldn't really be a surprise. It's a huge life decision and everyone should be on the same page.

Her obvious lack of communication is the reason she's in the situation she's in.

Seriously...this is it. People out here moving like life is some romcom teens when they should be adults and talk. You need to do a whole bunch of recon before you even get to that point. Do you understand the legal ramifications of marrige? What type of band does she like? Type of stone? What's her mf'in ring size? The surprise shouldn't be IF, but when you decide to ask. For the brehettes, communicate your intentions early so you don't end up like the dumb ho in the op playing the side chick role for a decade. If he's not going to marry you after 3 or 4 years with a kid, he damn sure aint gonna do it after 10.

like The older folks say, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

Older folks made a ton of bad decisions that lead to these misguided and toxic households we have now. Look at this why...why tf would I buy an entire cow when I only want some milk ? Their horny asses went and started whole lives together just to find out the sex is trash and they don't even like each other.

 

[Swirv]

Seriously...this is it. People out here moving like life is some romcom teens when they should be adults and talk. You need to do a whole bunch of recon before you even get to that point. Do you understand the legal ramifications of marrige? What type of band does she like? Type of stone? What's her mf'in ring size? The surprise shouldn't be IF, but when you decide to ask. For the brehettes, communicate your intentions early so you don't end up like the dumb ho in the op playing the side chick role for a decade. If he's not going to marry you after 3 or 4 years with a kid, he damn sure aint gonna do it after 10.



Older folks made a ton of bad decisions that lead to these misguided and toxic households we have now. Look at this why...why tf would I buy an entire cow when I only want some milk ? Their horny asses went and started whole lives together just to find out the sex is trash and they don't even like each other.

At least they tried to make it work. People need to have serious conversations about life before exchanging bodily fluids.

 

[TNC]

This ain't gonna go the way you think its gonna go....

 

[Silky Johnson]

At least they tried to make it work. People need to have serious conversations about life before exchanging bodily fluids.

wtf for? You can nut and keep it moving without learning about a bytch life goals.


Don't let these old folks fool you with the way they romanticize about the past. A lot of yalls grannies and great-grannies were weekend pu$$y and hoes looking for a comeup. Agatha knew Otis was smashing Betty Mae across town but she "made it work" because he had the factory job and paid the bills.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Proposing to a man won’t change anything people get engaged, and still be engaged 15yrs later.

Like someone else said, Jim Jones girlfriend proposed to him 8 years ago and they STILL not married so

 

[DaPresident]

The most appropriate thing to do would be to have a discussion about it. Proposals shouldn't really be a surprise. It's a huge life decision and everyone should be on the same page.

Her obvious lack of communication is the reason she's in the situation she's in.

EXACTLY!!

The only "surprise" is the timing of it! But both parties should at least be THINKING/aware that it's coming...

 

[Ziggiy]

So, it's fair to say you think men and women aren't equals? Cause why should my equal be absolved from proposing to someone they want?

And these questions are also for all individuals in here who stated no and/or voted no.

I’ll speak more for myself than in generalities.

I believe that men and women are equals in most everything, however i DO believe also that there are certain things that define men as “men” and women as “women”. For instance, i believe that if we are on a date, i’m expected to pay for the date if i’m the one who asked the woman out on said date. I have no problems paying, especially if we are in the “courting” stage. As we progress to a relationship I personally believe that conversation and communication regarding marriage is important, so that we are both on the same page. If we were together for 2-3 years and the woman felt like it was “shyt or get off the pot” time then COMMUNICATE that to me so we can talk about it. I really do believe its on the man to decide if the woman he’s with is the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, and he owes it to the woman to let her know if she is or is not. I would NEVER want to waste any woman’s time for upwards of 10 damn years, having kids, living together, with ZERO intention of marrying. But for me, its on the man to pick out that ring and make the gesture of asking her to marry him.

I would be down right appalled if a woman felt it was on HER to propose to ME. I wouldn’t be happy not one bit. I wouldn’t condone it, and i’ve expressed that sentiment to women i’ve dated before.

 

[African_brehda]

She's 38 and he's 30.

She fukked up breh. Tell her to hold the L and move on before it's too late. He's never going to marry her

 

[Ghost Utmost]

Y'all are being obtuse

Dude doesn't want to get married

If he did he knows how to make it happen within 10 years

 

[Crude]

Women might hold the power in deciding if they are going to have sex with a man or not, but men hold all the power in determining if they want to be in relationship with a woman or not.

It shows in these situations, if he hasn't committed to you after a few years either you aren't the one or he doesn't want commitment.

 

[number21]

I’ll speak more for myself than in generalities.

I believe that men and women are equals in most everything, however i DO believe also that there are certain things that define men as “men” and women as “women”. For instance, i believe that if we are on a date, i’m expected to pay for the date if i’m the one who asked the woman out on said date. I have no problems paying, especially if we are in the “courting” stage. As we progress to a relationship I personally believe that conversation and communication regarding marriage is important, so that we are both on the same page. If we were together for 2-3 years and the woman felt like it was “shyt or get off the pot” time then COMMUNICATE that to me so we can talk about it. I really do believe its on the man to decide if the woman he’s with is the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, and he owes it to the woman to let her know if she is or is not. I would NEVER want to waste any woman’s time for upwards of 10 damn years, having kids, living together, with ZERO intention of marrying. But for me, its on the man to pick out that ring and make the gesture of asking her to marry him.

I would be down right appalled if a woman felt it was on HER to propose to ME. I wouldn’t be happy not one bit. I wouldn’t condone it, and i’ve expressed that sentiment to women i’ve dated before.

So, all that to say you dont truly believe that men and women are truly equal to each other.

 

[Memorial Stadium Piru]

I think a commitment-minded person, man or woman, should ask a prospective partner how they feel about marriage before they continue dating.

 

[The Fade]

Gender Roles

How about I get ring

 

[ultraflexed]

10 years and a kid.

They're basically married in all but name minus the stupid expensive ceremony, ring and risk of losing half when she gets bored.

"Common law" marriage....is the definition of their situation, she can still get half