Signs that she's a good woman

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if it's too clean though, that can also be a red flag.
if i get yelled at every time i have a drink without using a coaster you getting cheated on.

oh yeah that’s annoying. If it bothers her so much she can just grab a coaster herself.

This is kind of related but I can’t stand people that are crazy about how you decorate, like everything has to be perfect/be specific. Takes the fun out of it. :unimpressed:
 

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These are mainstream indicators. I'm talking about signs people generally don't think about.

And if a woman is only doing stuff you like in an attempt to make you happy that can be suffocating. She should have her own interests that she can enjoy that don't involve other people or getting attention in some way e.g. making visual arts, writing, playing sports, crafts, watching films and TV, cooking as an artisan and challenging herself to come up with new recipes and mastering existing dishes.

ok. Very few people on this earth are given the ability to read minds. What we are given is the ability to deduce information based on available facts. If a dog is barking at U with a stiff tail, that indicates you’re likely to be attacked. If a man charges at u with a fist, that means you’re likely to engage in a brawl.

a woman who does many of the things I listed in my original post, is telling u something. She’s a giving person. A motherly woman. A woman who’s likely to stand by u if things get rough. When a woman buys u things, or spends her money on u, u should take notice.
 

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if it's too clean though, that can also be a red flag.
if i get yelled at every time i have a drink without using a coaster you getting cheated on.

If your is completely spotless everytime I visit I don't trust it. I've lived with enough women to know there's always something on the floor or whatever. If it's always super clean and I never see something on the floor in your room. I don't trust.
 

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like this but I got one even better:
Her car isn’t dirty

I got a ride home from a coworker (I got a concussion so I didn’t drive for a while) and her car was so dirty like the back seat was piled with trash, it smelled like a dumpster. I was grateful for the ride so of course I didn’t say anything but oh my god. Idk how she drove thing around.
 

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If she knows how to keep ya’ll business WITHIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Stop telling everybody everything!

If she brings something valuable to your life. Can help you improve in some way.

If she can teach you something new and help you grow.

If she can build with you.

Doesn’t take more than she gives.

Matches your hustle.

Is a good and effective communicator. Probably one of the most important ones on this list. Communication is about balance. You may not know it yet but you don’t want any of the following:

1.) The “I think being loud and angry is cute” communicator-These types looking for any excuse to re-enact a scene from Love and Hip Hop. It’s not about resolving the conflict. It’s about drama b/c they view it as power.

2.) The “miserable fukk” communicator. They just mentally spent and depressed. They literally just wanna unload piles of negative shyt on you. Don’t want any solutions. Don’t want any answers. Just wanna wallow in negativity and marinate in it. It’ll break your spirit.

3.) The Spiteful One-These keep count of everything you do so they can use it on you in the future. Once again, it’s not about resolving anything. Communication is just a vehicle for control. They just waiting to catch you fukkin up. So you always feel uncomfortable.

4.) The silent sufferer-These types are addicted to suffering. They may have grown up in oppressive or abusive situations and don’t know how to advocate for themselves. So they’ll just take whatever bullshyt you put out and never say anything until they are standing over you with a machete in the middle of the night.

5.) The Sneaky Amen Choir-To your face, she agrees with anything you say. Wanna cheat? Sure honey. Wanna open relationship? No problem. You are always right. But that’s because she already plotting what she is doing behind your back, so she ain’t gotta have a back and forth with you.

Instead, you want somebody who has the emotional maturity to communicate her needs and what she will not tolerate, without being disrespectful or manipulative or an emotional black hole of despair and victimization.

Choose your own adventure and choose wisely.
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If she knows how to keep ya’ll business WITHIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Stop telling everybody everything!

If she brings something valuable to your life. Can help you improve in some way.

If she can teach you something new and help you grow.

If she can build with you.

Doesn’t take more than she gives.

Matches your hustle.

Is a good and effective communicator. Probably one of the most important ones on this list. Communication is about balance. You may not know it yet but you don’t want any of the following:

1.) The “I think being loud and angry is cute” communicator-These types looking for any excuse to re-enact a scene from Love and Hip Hop. It’s not about resolving the conflict. It’s about drama b/c they view it as power.

2.) The “miserable fukk” communicator. They just mentally spent and depressed. They literally just wanna unload piles of negative shyt on you. Don’t want any solutions. Don’t want any answers. Just wanna wallow in negativity and marinate in it. It’ll break your spirit.

3.) The Spiteful One-These keep count of everything you do so they can use it on you in the future. Once again, it’s not about resolving anything. Communication is just a vehicle for control. They just waiting to catch you fukkin up. So you always feel uncomfortable.

4.) The silent sufferer-These types are addicted to suffering. They may have grown up in oppressive or abusive situations and don’t know how to advocate for themselves. So they’ll just take whatever bullshyt you put out and never say anything until they are standing over you with a machete in the middle of the night.

5.) The Sneaky Amen Choir-To your face, she agrees with anything you say. Wanna cheat? Sure honey. Wanna open relationship? No problem. You are always right. But that’s because she already plotting what she is doing behind your back, so she ain’t gotta have a back and forth with you.

Instead, you want somebody who has the emotional maturity to communicate her needs and what she will not tolerate, without being disrespectful or manipulative or an emotional black hole of despair and victimization.

Choose your own adventure and choose wisely.
:francis:


Who ever this woman is books

She not a

Libra sag aries capricorn

Leo


They never do this lol
 
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