I meant to explain further but didn't feel like it then, but since it popped up here we go...A lot of men who find themselves single after having had children are reluctant to enter into long term relationships with single women, especially if he doesn't want any more kids.
I prefer single mothers so I can check their parenting skills & see if I approve... If a chick can't handle, stand, be around kids she has no place in my life & for damn sure can't come at my kids like that... Also if she don't got nieces or nephews she helped raise I'm not trying to seed her up, with no experience... Too many worthless harlots out here already..
If I expect her to accept me, she gotta accept my kids & play her role... I gotta do the same for her & I can be a man about that...