Single, 30, She Decided To Marry A Homeless Man (PHOTOS)
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Confidence didn't have her return to a park bench, wait half an hour on Saturday to meet a stranger. It was "tall, handsome and brown eyes". The initial interaction was "what's the time" and "come back next week". Attraction cannot be bargained! Its evident during the second meet. In-spite of his lateness, a simple "sorry" melts her heart as "he was even more handsome than I remembered". Its comical if not outright retarded to think confidence is what captured her. Vic's outright admits doubt and non-confidence. Dating's not generous to older women - thus by late 20s most desire stability (marriage / long-term relationship). She was 30 and single.
This article is from 2018 and the woman is 42, the story had happened 12 years ago. 2006!! Within 6 years her options would've gone from Facebook to Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, Twitter, Instagram. Society understates the scope of unfairness and it extent to the social market (dating/friends/family). We're made to believe positive mindset and confidence is impenetrable armor. This is where men run into problems. Vic who woes a career woman or Meeks who get modelling contracts and bed billionaires, aren't the average. Thus, a poor indicator for those without height, handsome looks or innate qualities - charisma, humor, conversation. The solution for other's is approach as many women and face as many rejections. All in the hopes of getting a modicum of success. This is what confidence absent of soft skills and physical presence accomplishes.
This article is from 2018 and the woman is 42, the story had happened 12 years ago. 2006!! Within 6 years her options would've gone from Facebook to Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, Twitter, Instagram. Society understates the scope of unfairness and it extent to the social market (dating/friends/family). We're made to believe positive mindset and confidence is impenetrable armor. This is where men run into problems. Vic who woes a career woman or Meeks who get modelling contracts and bed billionaires, aren't the average. Thus, a poor indicator for those without height, handsome looks or innate qualities - charisma, humor, conversation. The solution for other's is approach as many women and face as many rejections. All in the hopes of getting a modicum of success. This is what confidence absent of soft skills and physical presence accomplishes.
It is a true reflection of what a subgroup of men go through from age 18-25. Moving through the motions, surviving strictly off of charisma, not understanding their purpose in the world, and getting themselves into life-altering situations (children with multiple mothers, crime, etc).
Baby Boy came out in 2001… shyt is amplified now. We can speak on the desperation and self esteem of the women put up with this, but I don’t care about them. There’s two particular men in this scenario.
Hobosexual: the entire plot of Baby Boy is centered on this. Easy ass, access to the crib//food/entertainment, no complaints from anybody. It’s the perfect paradise and this is echoed by his peers and society…. but is he fulfilled in his life? Is being a dikk in a glass all he can amount to? Some men jump off the porch and decide to become their own man, while others don’t. Those who don’t are exactly the men these women are babysitting and the ones who are responsible for these children causing chaos.
The Other Guy: he reads posts, stories, and sees real life scenarios of this playing out. Despite his certifications, degrees, salary.. despite building himself to the best version he can be.. despite getting himself into a position that breeds a stable relationship… he simply lacks the IT. Whether that’s soft skills, genetics, gift of gab.. whatever it may be. He tries to take in the advice to better himself but it amounts to nothing (in his eyes). Essentially, he has to work twice as hard for what he wants when someone else is barely putting in work for it. This boils to resentment, self-pity, or bitterness.
If I had children, I would tell them the world’s unfairfrom a race, class, professional, academic, and relationship standpoint…. It’s the last one we (some people) have trouble understanding.
I agree wholeheartedly with the bolded and that let's me know you'd be a great parent, because the one complaint I have in aggregate from childhood, is people (parents, teachers, etc.) didn't fully explain the DEPTH behind the "life's not fair" I'd also add being a good person doesn't mean life will treat you as such, if anything you might get treated worse, as people take you for a fool/lick
Aye man it's ok to be jaded, I know because I am. I'm out the game, but make no mistake I'm not bitter. If other people find happiness and it doesn't affect me directly, all the best. I told you in another thread there aren't winners without losers. Salvage what you can from life, and try to bush expectations, but keep your standards
Haliax
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Homeless alcoholics are pulling successful career women while Coli brehs are posting in threads called 'quick lil gems on dealing with women'
nikkas in that sub regurgitate the same basic concepts that have been known since the beginning of time. Not all obviously, some useful stuff in there. But some brehs in there get dumbfounded when they learn of these concepts.
Just talking shyt lol. Idgaf anymore
meanwhile coli brehs got 38 tabs of pornhub open fukking off
I remember that thread. This should be the new slam ass reference
LunaticVillage415
All Star
This been going on. Hella my old school patnas were perpetually homeless but always found an older or fat bytch to hole up with. But they fukked up when they started messing with younger chicks and got caught. Perpetual cycle of scrambling. As soon as their lives started to get better (i.e. promotion at the warehouse or mickey d’s) they were out on the street because the older or fat chick they were cupcaked up with got a thrill out of having that much power over a man. 
But these dudes grew up unstable. Foster home to foster home. Never had any stability, so that life was all they knew. It’s easy to judge when all you’ve known is stability all your life because your parents were middle class and life worked out for you when in America literally tens of millions of people are set up to fail since birth.
And these nikkas never looked homeless. They always rocked some fresh kicks, changed their clothes daily, kept their hair cut etc.
But these dudes grew up unstable. Foster home to foster home. Never had any stability, so that life was all they knew. It’s easy to judge when all you’ve known is stability all your life because your parents were middle class and life worked out for you when in America literally tens of millions of people are set up to fail since birth.
And these nikkas never looked homeless. They always rocked some fresh kicks, changed their clothes daily, kept their hair cut etc.
RaspberryFitted
Boyz In Motion Member
It’s difficult to convey that to young children because you look at them and see a ball of vibrant, naive, and innocent energy. Why should a kid care that they’repoor, or will grow up to perceived ugly by society, or that there a minority if Minecraft and Peppa Pig is their only priority? I’m not a parent, and don’t think this doing this is easy. For me personally — middle school would of been the crucial time to explain life to me. I needed it, and not to be misogynistic but I understand why mothers ship off their sons to their pops around 12 or 13.
In previous generations (Civil Rights, Great Depression, multiple wars) that was an incentive to sit your kid down and give em the truth because they couldn’t avoid it. In this iPad, peaceful time we’re in? What’s the point?
You want to protect them from the world, but the world comes at you fast.
Once again you're spot on, innocence and naivete is cool, but at some point (roughly middle school, jr. high at the latest) you need to at least have a light framework of the real before you end up getting severely hurt/played/finessed and that shapes your perspective. My parents are Nigerian so none of their dating advice applied neither culturally or generationally. Around middle school/jr. high is when I started to see the coldness/reality of the game. Not having to crack it for myself definitely could have grealy aided my HS years.
RaspberryFitted
Boyz In Motion Member
and that aide in your HS years could of enhanced your adult life. We all start the race at different times, it’s all about finishing.
At the bolded…
mannn I’m Nigerian too and the non-existence of gems were hilarious. Compounded with having only my moms… only “game” I got are the scumbag stories my mom told me about my pops. From a mamas boy POV it’s 
but from a #HOH POV it’s 
and that aide in your HS years could of enhanced your adult life. We all start the race at different times, it’s all about finishing.
At the bolded…
My pops gave me the bare minimum on self respect, but the courting process, approaching etc. all obsolete, N/A info. Game go how it go
KingFreeman
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I think men are thinking like women now the way they brag on what a female has. What kind of power can a man who slept on the street have dealing with a career woman. He's in house dikk/guard dog. He's a pet. A pet project. The woman's hoping he's a loyal dog who will pleasure her in gratitude for a place to live.
What kind of woman who has made a way for herself picks a man who can't even put food on the table without begging for it.
Wouldn't be shocked if she had an STD and was looking for the perfect man to infect. When bytches get burnt they try to scramble and settle down with someone they can burn.
Wouldn't be shocked if she was a cokehead.
"We gonna be together anyway. What's a little herpes. Why does HPV matter if we love each other.".
Its a come up for him but as a man with a home I don't know why you'd want to think like a bum
He's probably the best looking dude she's ever had give her serious attention. Genetics >>>> Most things. Take the Jeremy Meeks felon for example.
As long as he's beating her wallks in and he's masculine as hell, thats enough for her to be in her feminine as ling as dude eventually gets his shyt togetherm
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