Single mothers are way poorer than I thought.

[Scott Larock]

The best way to avoid putting yourself in a situation is to not have kids or date someone with a stable career. If the woman makes 15 an hour, and finds a man that makes 15 an hour, then their household income would be 60k a year.


I know there are hardworking black men in cities with a job as a janitor, bus driver, mechanic, UPS driver, construction worker, etc.
Some of them don’t want that. There was a viral video of 2 women saying they’d rather take a street dude who makes 25k over a banker who makes 500k working a 9-5. You’re destined to be a struggling single mother if you have a mentality like that.

True but that's not the mentality to have for women, dating someone who makes the same as them, might as well take care of a dude. Women want the fantasy, and security.

and 60k won't go far in most suburbs these days, you'd have to move to Tampa cuz that's nothing in SFLA... hell, it's nothing in Orlando too lol, you talking Jacksonville or Tampa and those cities are boring, so factor in age, how many young women wanna live in Tampa when they look good and dudes sweating them?

 

[Will Ross]

What black wealth, exactly? Give me a source that shows bp have any wealth to lose.

It’s plenty of sources of rich black men paying crazy amounts of child support. Hell melt ball players and rappers go broke because child support.

 

[YouMadd?]

Yes this is why you should be trying to get married and create a beneficial partnership with a man before having a fukking child....

 

[YouMadd?]

These stats can be turned around overnight with a huge increase in the marriage rate. I'm just not sure how you do that besides offering some kind of huge tax break. Maybe if the economy gets really bad more people will need to stick together. I just don't see how anyone can survive being a single parent if things continue to deteriorate.

Trump's tax plan benefits people who are married with children over single parents... and it WAS NOT AN ACCIDENT to make it that way. Theres your incentive...

 

[YouMadd?]

Now post those Asian stats......... Why is it always comparing black and white? Keep falling for the okie doke

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I'm not saying that at all, the reality is that most of the women are being impregnated by the same trifling men. Most men you would consider bums, deadbeats or degenerates have children with multiple women. I'm saying women have to avoid those men.

A smart, focused and ambitious man (husband material) doesn't have that problem because all the headaches and drama would slow him down mentally and financially. He might have 1 child from a previous relationship gone wrong, but he usually won't make that mistake again.

I'm talking about the men that will get a woman pregnant and she'll be making "I'm single" posts before the baby is born. The type of man to have multiple children the same age.

If "smart, focused and ambitious" men don't have these problems, why is getting hit with child support a top 5 trigger word in TLR?

Why is it that when I say, "if men don't want x problems, they need to do y", your first response is "WeLl WoMeN NeEd tO dO Z"

As a man, who is responsible for the outcomes of your life? You, or women?

 

[YouMadd?]

Being raised by a singe mother is the greatest indicator of generational poverty in the world.

There was a time where everyone knew this and therefore having a child out of wedlock was shamed...

But the people who profit off of your dysfunction have convinced you that this is sexist or somehow wrong...

So the rate of single mothers keeps climbing and black wealth keeps decreasing...

Exactly..... Women arent even supposed to be "Building wealth".... THey are supposed to be building a home and family and make it easier on the husband who goes out and builds the wealth... Its such a simple blue print....

 

[feelosofer]

This should kill the narrative that single Black mothers have it any type of easy.

 

[Diyhai]

Its complicated...

The simple answer is for women to hold off on having sex and children until a man proves with his actions that he is willing and, most importantly, able to protect and provide for her and any children they might have.

The problem is that women can and often do have sex with men out of their league. If women had to wait to have sex to weed out the men who just want a nut or men who have nothing going for them or no future ambitions, a lot of women would be disappointed at the actual level of men they attract for a long term commitment.

The reality is, a lot of women would rather be a booty call to a baller or have a handsome bum play househusband than to seek out the relationships on their level

Do realize you are putting all the responsibility on a woman?
So what is a man's role in this
How you expect to head a household but not assume responsibility

 

[HellRell804]

If "smart, focused and ambitious" men don't have these problems, why is getting hit with child support a top 5 trigger word in TLR?

Why is it that when I say, "if men don't want x problems, they need to do y", your first response is "WeLl WoMeN NeEd tO dO Z"

As a man, who is responsible for the outcomes of your life? You, or women?

Because people will fear things they have no experience with.

The nikka with 5 baby mamas doesn't give af about child support.

The type of dudes who dwell on child support on this site are the type of men who would be better off on child support if they ever had a kid out of wedlock. their lack of knowledge about women and experience dealing with them means the child's mother would run over them and they'd end up paying more money to keep her quiet than the judge would order.

You seem to think I'm targeting women but look at it like this. There has always been men whose primary purpose in life is to indulge in as much sex as possible. Back in the day these men were called "rakes". Fathers took it upon themselves to keep these men away from their daughters because they knew that these men would get what they want, have their fill, and move on to the next conquest. Oftentimes juggling multiple women at the same time.

Whatever is going on in these men's heads is preprogrammed. They develop high level language skills and naturally develop manipulative tendencies and the ability to lie convincingly to get what they want. You can't "teach" these men to be better anymore than you can teach a lion not to ultimately be a vicious predator, ask Roy from Siegfried and Roy.

 

[Diyhai]

Women women women

It takes two to tango and it takes two to raise a child.


You do realize that more men are probably dead beats because they expect women to make all the decisions when it comes to a child? Because they put all the responsibility on a woman once they impregnate her?

Once both parties realize that it takes two to make a child and two to raise a child than maybe some parties will stop thinking that only one is responsible for taking care of a child. That goes for both women and men.


There’s no pointing fingers at one parent... it’s takes both.

you’ll probably come back with well if women chose better and etc etc... but a child is innocent.. to take it out on how you feel a mother should act on a child you created is selfish.

Its takes two to tango is dumb
It only takes one person to be responsible
People are responsible for having a child 100% its not 50/50 on either end (Unless you are raped or some other extreme circumstance)
If the child is unwanted or the dude is unsure/bum and you decide to have the child you gotta hold the L

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Because people will fear things they have no experience with.

The nikka with 5 baby mamas doesn't give af about child support.

The type of dudes who dwell on child support on this site are the type of men who would be better off on child support if they ever had a kid out of wedlock. their lack of knowledge about women and experience dealing with them means the child's mother would run over them and they'd end up paying more money to keep her quiet than the judge would order.

You seem to think I'm targeting women but look at it like this. There has always been men whose primary purpose in life is to indulge in as much sex as possible. Back in the day these men were called "rakes". Fathers took it upon themselves to keep these men away from their daughters because they knew that these men would get what they want, have their fill, and move on to the next conquest. Oftentimes juggling multiple women at the same time.

Whatever is going on in these men's heads is preprogrammed. They develop high level language skills and naturally develop manipulative tendencies and the ability to lie convincingly to get what they want. You can't "teach" these men to be better anymore than you can teach a lion not to ultimately be a vicious predator, ask Roy from Siegfried and Roy.

What does any of this have to do with regular dudes avoiding child support?

 

[desjardins]

Use birth control and get an abortion when you make a mistake. This shyt really ain't rocket science
Honestly the type of woman that would willingly have a baby when she isn't financially secure, too young, or in a relationship with a bum is the exact type I'd expect to be broke her whole life

Someone I know has a 18 yr old daughter who is pregnant, they reacted like I was crazy when I asked if she having an abortion. This girl still act like a lil kid to me, still live at home too. It's just dumb decision after dumb decision

 

[Diyhai]

40% of blk women are childless.

Only 4 out of 22 million blk women are single mothers. And roughly 1/2 of those are divorcees. 68% of single moms got multiple baby daddies.

Multiple men keep going back to the same trash ass women b/c they chasing easy p*ssy.

It’s all about a phat ass and who will let u nutt in them easily with blk men in this equation.

with 2 million blk women engaging in this lifestyle it’s all about either being stupid enough to believe Rodney when he said he loved u just so he could hit it raw, or thinking u can “trap a nikka” and finesse a family just cuz he fukking u.

At either end it’s about low self esteem and using sex as a means to an end.

only 4 of 22 thats close to 20%
almost 1/5 is a crazy number

 

[xCivicx]

This isn’t surprising but the coli always want to make it seem like black women have it easy.

Its not black men calling black women "the weakest links" and lording their borderline useless degrees over them