Sistaz are asking "why wont yall lead?"

[Marco Zen]

i was asked this by a group of black women at a dinner party. it was a "girls party", handful of women from 25 to 50, divorced, married , "fumbled" etc.. sitting around sipping wine and yapping. only reason i was there because im banging the host and had to help set up food and shyt..

i tried to stay away from the party, chilling downstairs on the PS5. i tried to covertly go upstairs quietly grab a plate and go but couldn't make it past the table without being called over to "give a black mans perspective" to their conversation

"soo whats wrong with the black man today" one asked

then i think all of them said collectively "why wont yall lead!!!?" (as in the relationship).. and started to give ridiculous examples

i had to tread lightly answering that dumb ass loaded question while at the same time playing dumb because shawty was turned in her chair like "nikka proceed with caution "


black women really need to take a break from the "life advice" they're getting from social media

 

[parallax]

anything other than walking away laughing is the wrong answer

 

[Womb Raider]

they tried to bait you into having a sexless night women aint shyt

 

[UpAndComing]

I mean this with no malice, but I realized over the years that a large number of Black Women are clueless on how to interact with Men. They grew up in such a gyno-centric society the past 50 years, they literally have 0 clue on what makes men tick, our likes or dislikes, how to validate our feelings, how to really get our attention. In their mind, it doesn't matter. They see through you, because Men are a utility and a means to an end

 

[Belize King]

OP

You got to move with finesse playa or create a distraction.

You should have thrown a bomb and said, why is Kandi leaving that great man, and left the scene.

 

[lowkey0z]

"soo whats wrong with the black man today" one asked

then i think all of them said collectively "why wont yall lead!!!?" (as in the relationship).. and started to give ridiculous examples

please provide any examples if you remember, i need a good laugh

 

[ReturnOfJudah]

Bird babble. Plenty of married black men leading their households. These birds just thotted their lives away, and ended up being bitter elderly women that nobody wants.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I had to tread lightly answering that dumb ass loaded question while at the same time playing dumb because shawty was turned in her chair like "nikka proceed with caution "

Not targeted at you OP, but this line of thinking fuels women to say and do the things they do

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

"sistaz".

 

[Belize King]

I mean this with no malice, but I realized over the years that a large number of Black Women are clueless on how to interact with Men. They grew up in such a gyno-centric society the past 50 years, they literally have 0 clue on what makes men tick, our likes or dislikes, how to validate our feelings, how to really get our attention. In their mind, it doesn't matter. They see through you, because Men are a utility and a means to an end

It’s wild. Women are becoming more “elevated” and expecting more. 50 years ago, you meet a partner, marry, have kids, go to church and the man provides and protects. Many women want more now. Many men dont want to give more.

Many women want “leaders” (you fill in the definition). How many men are capable of leading?

At the end of the day, all of us are trying to live comfortably and get through life. Let’s do this as a partnership. Not you following behind me while I do the backbreaking work as you critique in the background.

Let’s put these goals together and make it happen together.

 

[Uachet]

I am married and I am the head of my household. So my answer would be, "Ask the men you seek a relationship with. I lead my own family".

 

[jay83]

Not targeted at you OP, but this line of thinking fuels women to say and do the things they do

One of the best things my dad taught me is not being afraid to piss off your woman/Mom/sister/female coworker if what you are about to say needs to be said.

Lots of men think they will be struck down by God if they piss off women.

 

[Adebisi_Said]

It’s wild. Women are becoming more “elevated” and expecting more. 50 years ago, you meet a partner, marry, have kids, go to church and the man provides and protects. Many women want more now. Many men do want to give more.

Many women want “leaders” (you fill in the definition). How many men are capable of leading?

At the end of the day, all of us are trying to live comfortably and get through life. Let’s do this as a partnership. Not you following behind me while I do the backbreaking work as you critique in the background.

Let’s put these goals together and make it happen together.

And if you try to lead them, then they say you're controlling them.

 

[ORDER_66]

they the backbone of the democratic party, the 92% remember they dont need no men to lead they the boss bytches...

 

[RaspberryFitted]

One of the best things my dad taught me is not being afraid to piss off your woman/Mom/sister/female coworker if what you are about to say needs to be said.

Lots of men think they will be struck down by God if they piss off women.

more commonly in OP’s case, missing out on some p*ssy