I can say this as a Haitian myself. YES, some of them either consciously or sub-consciously use ADOS men or even Americanized Black foreign descended men like myself as proxy for the hardcore patriarchy that they received being raised up under a “traditional” lifestyle to their home nations of origin. Doing all the cooking, cleaning, house duties, being kept inside, can’t date him, stay in church, get Straight As, don’t you dare think of becoming anything but a nurse, old school whoopings/beatings etc, berating words, infidelity of their fathers, side families, spousal abuse, etc etc. They take all of that resentment from being raised by a stern patriarch and unleash that pent up energy on to ADOS men. They embrace feminism and lgbtqi stances in revolt of how they were raised. But they know they can’t bring those ideologies in their homes. So the smoke is usually aimed towards ADOS patriarchy and Americanized Black foreign descended men. Even the ones who were raised by laidback fathers, still carry a certain level of resentment for black men and even men of their ethnicity. I’ve heard a Haitian woman say I can’t do Haitian men.alot to unpack in this, all of which i see and agree with.
i will say this, the reason most of these ados men are understanding is because they're either asleep, or don't know that these are females who come from immigrant families.
the problem i have with them constantly shytting on ados people is that they get their identity from us. it seems like some sort of envy/jealousy.
you're saying they use us as a proxy for their fathers?
do you think most of them realize they're regurgitating white supremacist talking points?

Yet there is NO ADOS patriarchy.I can say this as a Haitian myself. YES, some of them either consciously or sub-consciously use ADOS men or even Americanized Black foreign descended men like myself as proxy for the hardcore patriarchy that they received being raised up under a “traditional” lifestyle to their home nations of origin. Doing all the cooking, cleaning, house duties, being kept inside, can’t date him, stay in church, get Straight As, don’t you dare think of becoming anything but a nurse, old school whoopings/beatings etc, berating words, infidelity of their fathers, side families, spousal abuse, etc etc. They take all of that resentment from being raised by a stern patriarch and unleash that pent up energy on to ADOS men. They embrace feminism and lgbtqi stances in revolt of how they were raised. But they know they can’t bring those ideologies in their homes. So the smoke is usually aimed towards ADOS patriarchy and Americanized Black foreign descended men. Even the ones who were raised by laidback fathers, still carry a certain level of resentment for black men and even men of their ethnicity. I’ve heard a Haitian woman say I can’t do Haitian men.![]()
