So how exactly did I end up jobless living with my girlfriend in her college dorm

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I see a lot of people pre judge me, clown me, or just joke around, but don't really know the full story.

Let me introduce myself, I'm BrothaZay. 19 years old. And I live with my girlfriend in her college dorm.
But how did I get here?
Bad mistakes, mainly due from lack of guidance, wisdom and experience.
It started last fall. Matter fact, it started my senior year of HS.
Senior year 2012
When everyone is getting ready to go to their dream college, I really didn;t care too much. Plus my GPA was shyt. 1.7. But within the last 4 months I finally found my dream college. And applied to it. Now you may be saying "Zay its no way you're getting into college with a 1.7 GPA" and you couldve been right. I knew that, but I took the SAT and actually ended up scoring in the top 9% for the school I applied for. I ended up getting accepted.
Whewww, God is good right? Despite not doing shyt in HS, I still got a chance to not only go to college, but my dream college. That should have been a lesson or a sign right? Nope. Once I got accepted I went back to not giving a fukk. The summer went by and I didnt even check up on shyt, and the deadline for getting a dorm and all that shyt was too late. So I had to stay home. No biggie tho right? I can always go to a community college.
Fall 2012
So thats what I did.Went to a JUCO. But Zay, you're 17 years old, out of HS, in college don't you want a job, or a car so you can get out and start living life? Did I? Yes. Was i willing to work towards either? Nope. The first semester of college, I just cruised through it, and luckily for me, by the end of it, my moms ended up helping me get a job with a real estate agent she knows. This was good for me. I was getting pretty good money for a kid fresh outta HS. I was getting paid like 150 a week, but at the same time, i only worked like 6 hours a week. What more can a lazy nikka like me ask for? Eventually my mom got a new car, so she gave me the old one.
Ahhhh, everything is coming so easy for me. I only put in about 3 job applications in 2 years, didnt take school seriously this semester, but at the end of the year, despite not doing shyt, I end up with a good job and a car all too myself.I must be the luckiest person ever huh?
So now in 2013 I have money, a car, and starting to get girls. Im finally legal too. Since I wasnt focused on school, a lot of days I skipped and just went out every weekend. Spending money, driving all around the DFW, fuccing different girls. Around the spring time of that year, I contracted a STD. Luckily for me it was curable. This should have been a sign to slow down. And I did, sex wise I slowed down. But as far as making bad decisions with money and school, nothing changed. At the end of the semester my grades reflected my lifestyle. I was put on academic SUSPENSION. But me, I didnt give a fukk. I was getting money, had a car, had friends, and the summer was finna start.
Summer of 2013 was cool, the only thing was I slipped back into my ways, having sex with several different people the first night I met them. During this time I did not contract a STD but did get another urine infection which I assume was from having unprotected sex. One thing about the summer tho. Was my money was slowing down. Instead of getting 150-250 for 6-8 hours of work, i was getting around 80 bucks a week now, since my bosses business had slowed down.
Now Fall of 2013.
I'm on academic suspension. Can't go back to school. Don;t have as much money as I did, and alot of the "friends" I made earlier that year abandoned me.(seriously)
My funds were REALLY getting low, but one day while driving for my job, I got into a car wreck. Was rear ended from the back. So since it was the persons fault, i got a settlement.
I was givin 4500 for the car, and 750 for health.
I gave the 4500 to my mom, but kept the 750$ for myself.
Now you would think.
"Hmm, just when I was really low on money, I get 750$ out the blue. I got enough money to go back to school now, or put towards a new car"
But what did I do with my money?
Went right back to my old habits. Spent it on girls, food. Im talking spending 30 dollars at lil cesars.
The only difference was this time I didnt have a car. But I still had a job so i was still making a lil bit of money.
Eventually my boss had no more work. But even still i continued to spend it on girls and bullshyt til i started running low. I decided I was gonna buy weed with the rest of the money I had. (Mind you at the time I got the 750 I had about 250 dollars i was posed to pay back for my credit card, I didnt pay shyt but about 25 dollars.)
But yea anyway, I bought weed, went to the bank, withdrew every penny I had and jumped head first into the weed game. Luckily for me, I got lucky AGAIN and ended up selling all my shyt and doubling my money.
Wow, I caught ANOTHER brreak. I got money again, and school starts back in just a few weeks. So what do i do for december? Go back to spending my money on girls. Food. Clothes. Parties. Giving weed away for free to people i was close to. Giving away money to people who claim they would pay back.
2014
I end up with no more money, no more weed. My brother stole all my weed and some of my money.
I had around 50 dollars to my name and only 3 grams of weed.
I had to leave since my own house was stealing from me. My girl told me I can stay with her, so I came out ehre, with 50 dollar and 3 grams.My first few days out here tho, my old habits caught up with me. I had ANOTHER STD(actually the same one) And I had to have my girl drive me to the clinic so i can get cured. I been doing good so far tho. Been out here for about 2 weeks. Really focusing on music and me and my girl both do job applications online and offline every week.
Trying to get my shyt together.
This shyt is real, It hasnt even been 2 years since i graudated HS but my poor life decisions bought me here. Despite being lazy and just not caring about my life, I caught break, after break after break and still couldnt learn my lesson. Be wise,


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I saw ya girl, she's cute as fukk.

Don't her college have any rules about you staying with her long term ?
Yes, which makes it even worst. Just another reminder. Take life seriously, or you can end up like me. Having to sneak to take showers at 3am when everyone in the hall is sleep, so you don't get caught. :snoop:
 

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Yes, which makes it even worst. Just another reminder. Take life seriously, or you can end up like me. Having to sneak to take showers at 3am when everyone in the hall is sleep, so you don't get caught. :snoop:

what do you do when she goes class?

what's your plan for your next step ?

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I stay in her dorm til she gets back. Sometimes I go to the library.
And jsut find a job first and foremost

you're girlfriends a down chick tho.

stay by her...

when my parents first kicked me out at 17 an older friend in college let me stay with them for like a month, ill never forget it, staying in their room while they went class, those awkward convos with their room mates.

that's nice of her....
 

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you're girlfriends a down chick tho.

stay by her...

when my parents first kicked me out at 17 an older friend in college let me stay with them for like a month, ill never forget it, staying in their room while they went class, those awkward convos with their room mates.

that's nice of her....
What did u do, what do you do now
 

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I think we around the same age but I was told it's really about decisions and doing what you don't want to do now so you can do what you want in the future

I think you mentioned how you didn't check up on deadlines for the college you got accepted to, try to transfer to that college again and do that
 

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What did u do, what do you do now

Oh God, my stories long man I left home a good 3 times LOL. but erm basically when I first moved out at 17 was similar situation to yours, family snaking me issues. My mum called the police on me lol, long story but yh she called the police on me and snaked me lol I went jail for like 2 nights came out on bail and when I went back home she was still tryna talk crap in my ear so i left.

I left home that time, went to stay with the girl who was in college she was nice, med student, lived with her a month and believe nothing happened sexually she was a real friend. (@DaRealness will know St Georges in Tooting) some med school in London.

Trust me when you're back on your feet you'll never forget what your girls done 4 u. The girl who i stayed with I ain't seen her since 2009 and doubt ill ever see her again but ill never forget her

I was smart tho so I already had my university place. I went to study econ n maths and knew I was going into finance.

But breh I was just like u but I kept lucking out and I guess my luck brought me here

fukk ups I did when I was 17-19 that i somehow escaped from

- almost beat a dude to death ended up in jail beat the case
- was doing some scam thing that was when my mum called the police on me ...beat the case.

When I left home at 17 I was still in sixthform college (high school) so had to keep busy till I started school. I worked a retail job evenings and weekends and just hustled tbh cos my parents weren't talking to me so I legit had to make my own way.

18 I started university and I've been good since. I'm close with my parents and my family again but I went through a time where I wasn't talking to them age 17-19. I started talking to them again at 19.

My life now I'm 25...I'm with girlfriend (my ride or die), I work in Finance now, help my dad in his business and I own my own house. Everything came together but I wouldnt give back that time for anything cos it taught me persistence and hardwork.
 

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try to surround yourself with better people.

to me this is what it's alway been about.

"Your life and happiness is primarily determined by your choices. It’s not that difficult to live a great life – it’s first and foremost a matter of choosing your friends carefully. Awareness of how your brain builds friendships gives you the power to move from a life with random strong attachments, to ones which can raise the overall quality of the group you have a choice to be part of.

Want to make more of your life? Stop hanging out with losers."
 

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I see a lot of people pre judge me, clown me, or just joke around, but don't really know the full story.

Let me introduce myself, I'm BrothaZay. 19 years old. And I live with my girlfriend in her college dorm.
But how did I get here?
Bad mistakes, mainly due from lack of guidance, wisdom and experience.
It started last fall. Matter fact, it started my senior year of HS.
Senior year 2012
When everyone is getting ready to go to their dream college, I really didn;t care too much. Plus my GPA was shyt. 1.7. But within the last 4 months I finally found my dream college. And applied to it. Now you may be saying "Zay its no way you're getting into college with a 1.7 GPA" and you couldve been right. I knew that, but I took the SAT and actually ended up scoring in the top 9% for the school I applied for. I ended up getting accepted.
Whewww, God is good right? Despite not doing shyt in HS, I still got a chance to not only go to college, but my dream college. That should have been a lesson or a sign right? Nope. Once I got accepted I went back to not giving a fukk. The summer went by and I didnt even check up on shyt, and the deadline for getting a dorm and all that shyt was too late. So I had to stay home. No biggie tho right? I can always go to a community college.
Fall 2012
So thats what I did.Went to a JUCO. But Zay, you're 17 years old, out of HS, in college don't you want a job, or a car so you can get out and start living life? Did I? Yes. Was i willing to work towards either? Nope. The first semester of college, I just cruised through it, and luckily for me, by the end of it, my moms ended up helping me get a job with a real estate agent she knows. This was good for me. I was getting pretty good money for a kid fresh outta HS. I was getting paid like 150 a week, but at the same time, i only worked like 6 hours a week. What more can a lazy nikka like me ask for? Eventually my mom got a new car, so she gave me the old one.
Ahhhh, everything is coming so easy for me. I only put in about 3 job applications in 2 years, didnt take school seriously this semester, but at the end of the year, despite not doing shyt, I end up with a good job and a car all too myself.I must be the luckiest person ever huh?
So now in 2013 I have money, a car, and starting to get girls. Im finally legal too. Since I wasnt focused on school, a lot of days I skipped and just went out every weekend. Spending money, driving all around the DFW, fuccing different girls. Around the spring time of that year, I contracted a STD. Luckily for me it was curable. This should have been a sign to slow down. And I did, sex wise I slowed down. But as far as making bad decisions with money and school, nothing changed. At the end of the semester my grades reflected my lifestyle. I was put on academic SUSPENSION. But me, I didnt give a fukk. I was getting money, had a car, had friends, and the summer was finna start.
Summer of 2013 was cool, the only thing was I slipped back into my ways, having sex with several different people the first night I met them. During this time I did not contract a STD but did get another urine infection which I assume was from having unprotected sex. One thing about the summer tho. Was my money was slowing down. Instead of getting 150-250 for 6-8 hours of work, i was getting around 80 bucks a week now, since my bosses business had slowed down.
Now Fall of 2013.
I'm on academic suspension. Can't go back to school. Don;t have as much money as I did, and alot of the "friends" I made earlier that year abandoned me.(seriously)
My funds were REALLY getting low, but one day while driving for my job, I got into a car wreck. Was rear ended from the back. So since it was the persons fault, i got a settlement.
I was givin 4500 for the car, and 750 for health.
I gave the 4500 to my mom, but kept the 750$ for myself.
Now you would think.
"Hmm, just when I was really low on money, I get 750$ out the blue. I got enough money to go back to school now, or put towards a new car"
But what did I do with my money?
Went right back to my old habits. Spent it on girls, food. Im talking spending 30 dollars at lil cesars.
The only difference was this time I didnt have a car. But I still had a job so i was still making a lil bit of money.
Eventually my boss had no more work. But even still i continued to spend it on girls and bullshyt til i started running low. I decided I was gonna buy weed with the rest of the money I had. (Mind you at the time I got the 750 I had about 250 dollars i was posed to pay back for my credit card, I didnt pay shyt but about 25 dollars.)
But yea anyway, I bought weed, went to the bank, withdrew every penny I had and jumped head first into the weed game. Luckily for me, I got lucky AGAIN and ended up selling all my shyt and doubling my money.
Wow, I caught ANOTHER brreak. I got money again, and school starts back in just a few weeks. So what do i do for december? Go back to spending my money on girls. Food. Clothes. Parties. Giving weed away for free to people i was close to. Giving away money to people who claim they would pay back.
2014
I end up with no more money, no more weed. My brother stole all my weed and some of my money.
I had around 50 dollars to my name and only 3 grams of weed.
I had to leave since my own house was stealing from me. My girl told me I can stay with her, so I came out ehre, with 50 dollar and 3 grams.My first few days out here tho, my old habits caught up with me. I had ANOTHER STD(actually the same one) And I had to have my girl drive me to the clinic so i can get cured. I been doing good so far tho. Been out here for about 2 weeks. Really focusing on music and me and my girl both do job applications online and offline every week.
Trying to get my shyt together.
This shyt is real, It hasnt even been 2 years since i graudated HS but my poor life decisions bought me here. Despite being lazy and just not caring about my life, I caught break, after break after break and still couldnt learn my lesson. Be wise,


@yo moms @kp404 @Crakface

My dude, the pizzas cost $5 :mindblown:
 
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