So I had to throw this chick in the bushes but @Yup has some qualms with it

[Yup]

@Turbulent
exactly Im not looking for a relationship
willing to try = unclear what that means in her mind
and than u add in an interpretation of what he said
the clear thing he said is im not looking for a relationship
why give the pussc up to a nygga that not sure what he wants
she is sure of what she wants "a relationship"

He is purposely being obtuse. I thought he was better than that.

 

[Yup]

the funny thing is, i think OP lowkey kinda liked her in that way.

i think she was attracted to him but mainly wanted attention and affection without committing to him. i think he originally wanted sex but after spending lots of time with her (4 meets), when she said the relationship thing he was taken by surprise cause he wasn't expecting that (cause he words and behavior didn't match so far) but actually considered it. and maybe she wasn't expecting him to say he was considering it, or maybe she interpreted it as a rejection (i personally didn't see it that way when i read the OP). whole lots of mis-communication. But OP will learn and overall, i think while a little clumsy (as we all can be from time to time), he did the right thing if he was true to himself.

And she didn't earn that shyt at all
We didn't have shyt in common and she fukkin loved spendin time with me
My attraction to her was purely physical

Yup that's what my older cousin (he in his 30s) told me when I told him about this shyt lol
He told me to keep it pushin and to go build up my roster so I don't get too invested in a single chick cuz they will use that shyt against you as leverage
That's some damn good advice when I think about it tho
I was like

Ya ok turbulent you are full of crap and you dapped that post too.

Dudes want to be so quick to avoid looking like simps that throw all sense out of the window.

 

[Turbulent]

yet you keep ignoring the points and questions i asked in my reply. please don't quote me again.

So whiny.

What does it mean he tried to f 3 times? He mentionnws he would try a relationship after she told him that she does nor have sex outside of a serious relationship. Fourth time...fourth time.

He tried to sleep her...implies that he did not have the conversation until the fourth time she came over.

Also a guy trying to sleep with you can run the gamut from him putting his arm around to having cheeky conversation fo flirting. but unless it is openly stated that he wants fo have sex...it is open for interpretation.

You created a whole scenario that does not even exist in his post. To suit your narrative and you claim i am dismissing your arguments and questions?

i made a respectful and polite request. granted you're free to do what you want, you chose to not only deny my request but also call me or my request whiny and then wrote a whole post after the fact expecting me to read it?

you officially made my ignore list. have a good one.

 

[Yup]

i made a respectful and polite request. granted you're free to do what you want, you chose to not only deny my request but also call me or my request whiny and then wrote a whole post after the fact expecting me to read it?

you officially made my ignore list. have a good one.

Ok. Bye! The time it took you to write that you could have ignored me already.

 

[Turbulent]

@Turbulent
exactly Im not looking for a relationship
willing to try = unclear what that means in her mind
and than u add in an interpretation of what he said
the clear thing he said is im not looking for a relationship
why give the pussc up to a nygga that not sure what he wants
she is sure of what she wants "a relationship"

what else could willing to try mean? we're playing semantics at this point. i really don't see how else this could be interpreted as besides i'm not particularly looking for a relationship but i'm willing to try it. you're saying she understood it as "im not looking for a relationship" period but then how does the second part fit in?

i never said she had to give the p*ssy. if dude is not sure than cool, don't give him the p*ssy. all she had to say was "well you don't seem too sure so let's just leave it alone" and that would have been respectable. or "well i don't want to be with you if that's not what you're looking for." all respectable answers. but instead, she informs him a relationship was never considered to begin with. now again, that's her right. matter of fact, she can do what she wants. but what was OP suppose to do or say exactly once she said that?

 

[At30wecashout]

You made yourself look bytchy by throwing a tantrum and kicking her out cuz you didn't get the bunz. Shoulda let her stay the night then lost her number

Doesn't matter how you look to a woman who isn't on the same page as you. Trying to keep up appearances is a losing man's game. The moment a lady isn't on
your team, she gets the same treatment as anyone else you don't know.

 

[Yup]

She LIKED HIM DUDE. And clearly was hoping he wasn't THAT dude and that he really liked her for more than sex. So, as many women do we keep giving chances and HOPING shyt changes (well ..some women do this).

The sad thing is women need to get the hint and believe a man when he says he doesn't want a relationship because SOME women really think they can change a dudes mind by giving time or having sex with them. And it doesn't work.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Breh get your head in the game you trying to force the action to much Netflix and chill is a known thing trying to shove alcohol down her throat at the house is a KNOWN thing Think outside the box she like cuddling and relationshipyyy shyt then provide that watch some emotional shyt cue love jones or notebook whatever her preference is don't text!! call her and leave a good morning message and a goodnight tell her you have a designated pillow for her and its lonely its 2015 and you had 60 days to work and things I'm talking can be done at the krib no effort involved. Write this down this message will be deleted in about a hour

SN. You might be able to spin this and say you was drunk all is fair in getting a nut breh depends on how much of the game you wanna play and if your playing to win to me I'm when its game time. This message has been brought to you by Gettingazzceazy.INC

This sounds like power simping to me

"Good morning "

"I have a designated pillow for u.... I have been lonely "

Love Jones

You are not thinking this through

 

[At30wecashout]

Right. In a perfect world that would be great but in all honesty it is what the vast majority want at the end of the day. I go into every situation assuming as such. If someone proves me wrong then it's a pleasant surprise which is very rare.

I saved a chick from her father(he was physical) back in HS, took her to my house to spend the night...months later she was shocked I didn't try to hit.

Sometimes I wonder what use is a good heart, cause people out here thinking and doing shyt real sneaky like.

 

[Mr Rager]

Doesn't matter how you look to a woman who isn't on the same page as you. Trying to keep up appearances is a losing man's game. The moment a lady isn't on
your team, she gets the same treatment as anyone else you don't know.

Maybe it's just me but I'd rather leave any situation with my pride intact...because you never know who that person may know...personal opinions though

 

[At30wecashout]

Maybe it's just me but I'd rather leave any situation with my pride intact...because you never know who that person may know...personal opinions though

Thats fine, tbhBut OPs pride should not be tied to that of a woman who was wishy-washy while being in his house.

To be VERY fair though, I can imagine at times she might have been on the same page and his aura was off-putting. Either way, unless she wanted to be friends, letting him
kiss up on her(and reciprocating) after very little time knowing him is a no-no. Whenever I wanted to get to know a chick, I took all the time I wanted, cause ultimately, I was
99% the exciting, random, captivating person of the two of us so if she wasn't down...someone else wanted my attention

If she wanted his attention but no sex, she would have been wise to suggest alternatives and draw a line, rather than halfstepping in the company of a man with his dikk
hard. I'm sure brehettes won't agree, but it is what it is. It seems all the burden is on men to be upfront and assertive, but when she isn't feeling something, she needs to say
that A.S.A.P. Even if she liked dude and wanted him around, tough titty. Risk the loss and tell him you aren't feeling it. I'm saying this as a dude who had 3 distinct situations in
which women liked me enough to always want me around, but did not see me romantically. They pump-faked all the fukking time to keep me interested.

 

[Sccit]

DID SHE TOUCH YOUR DICC? AN EX OF MINE TOLD ME HER FRIEND HAD A TEST SHE USED TO DO WIT DUDES SHE BROUGHT OVER....SHE WOULD FUCC AROUND WIT DUDE AND FEEL UP ON THE DICC. IF IT DIDNT MEASURE UP, SHE'D HIT CANCEL WIT THE QUICKNESS.

 

[Mr Rager]

Thats fine, tbhBut OPs pride should not be tied to that of a woman who was wishy-washy while being in his house.

To be VERY fair though, I can imagine at times she might have been on the same page and his aura was off-putting. Either way, unless she wanted to be friends, letting him
kiss up on her(and reciprocating) after very little time knowing him is a no-no. Whenever I wanted to get to know a chick, I took all the time I wanted, cause ultimately, I was
99% the exciting, random, captivating person of the two of us so if she wasn't down...someone else wanted my attention

If she wanted his attention but no sex, she would have been wise to suggest alternatives and draw a line, rather than halfstepping in the company of a man with his dikk
hard. I'm sure brehettes won't agree, but it is what it is. It seems all the burden is on men to be upfront and assertive, but when she isn't feeling something, she needs to say
that A.S.A.P. Even if she liked dude and wanted him around, tough titty. Risk the loss and tell him you aren't feeling it. I'm saying this as a dude who had 3 distinct situations in
which women liked me enough to always want me around, but did not see me romantically. They pump-faked all the fukking time to keep me interested.

Women are masters of deception. I'm sure we've all gotten played or strung along before, I know I have ()

With that being said, OP brought the L upon himself. After not getting play the second or third time she came over, he shoulda took the hint and cut off communications. We know females play games...But we as men get so blinded by the p*ssy we keep falling for these female tricks, thinking "Yeah this time it's gonna happen" then get butthurt when we get hit with the okie-doke like OP did.

 

[At30wecashout]

Women are masters of deception. I'm sure we've all gotten played or strung along before, I know I have ()

With that being said, OP brought the L upon himself. After not getting play the second or third time she came over, he shoulda took the hint and cut off communications. We know females play games...But we as men get so blinded by the p*ssy we keep falling for these female tricks, thinking "Yeah this time it's gonna happen" then get butthurt when we get hit with the okie-doke like OP did.

Exactly.The motto should be for a man to bush at will. fukk her feelings. fukk negotiations. fukk patience. If you are feeling a girl and the vibes are good
but she ain't on the same page...there is another girl around that will have a similar relationship with you and more. Very few chicks are so special that you have
to put your nuts in a blender for her. Run the numbers until you find one who is.

And don't explain shyt to them either. Just end it and live.

 

[satireprod]

I re-read the OP and i think the girl got kind of mad because The OP wasn't overly ecstatic or jumping out of his skin at the chance to cuff her, he was just like :meh: . That's girls for you

Ok so I wasn't tripping. It seemed like she threw that out there to see if he would bite..and wanted him to be 100% excited about it.