So i'm meeting my dad today...

[Kane1]

Lot of ways to be angry. Especially if they left the custodial parent in a lurch.

If you don't give a damn, means you had a substitute who was your real father figure, your moms had support, and the sperm donor's absence was irrelevant.

Nothing to ask them.

Anger will do nothing..... No point of it


Ask your questions.... Wish him well in life and keep it pushing.

 

[flea]

I kinda get the "go with the flow" thing since I'm the same way but I can't say I'd never see my child if I ever have one. He can still go with the flow by being apart of your life. Very odd response.

 

[John Mayer]

No offense but why go out of your way or try to know a man who helped give you life but made very little effort to know you or help raise you.

Get to know your family but why would you want to know him?

Sounds like Stockholm syndrome.

 

[LEEeveryday]

Usual story, parents divorced, lingering resentment etc. I'm 30 and will be meeting him for virtually the first time, he was a rolling stone. We've talked on the phone throughout the years but never in person. I pretty much have an idea of what I plan to ask but was wondering if any of you have been in a similar situation. I bare no ill will towards the guy, I just see him as another family member; how can you be angry at something you never had? Any suggestions on questions or stories of absent parents? What were their reasons for staying away?

If you have no ill will...tell him that...But be honest with yourself.

Tell him to not feel guilty, because you have a let go.

Tell him, if he wants to repair things, be the man he wishes he was from now on...

 

[Kane]

No offense but why go out of your way or try to know a man who helped give you life but made very little effort to know you or help raise you.

Get to know your family but why would you want to know him?

Sounds like Stockholm syndrome.

You obviously have no idea what this term means.

 

[egsteel]

He paid child support and avoided confrontation.

Your mama did something he'd rather not have been a part of. Or she was fukking multiple nikkas and there was no guarantee you were his blood kids even though he let his name be on the certificate.

He was man enough not to talk dirty about your mama to you, a complete stranger. That means something.

So your mama took them checks but didn't try to let y'all develop a relationship with him? And he's trying to tell you something by saying he's not confrontational, without placing blame on her?

We all love our mamas, but son your mama was a ho with an attitude and a knife collection and/or better lawyer. The more you dig, the more the shine might come off your mama's halo.

lolwhat?!? Coli brehs got me laughing early today.

I kinda get the "go with the flow" thing since I'm the same way but I can't say I'd never see my child if I ever have one. He can still go with the flow by being apart of your life. Very odd response.

His reasoning was that once we got older, we could just come to him and he wouldn't have to deal with any drama.

 

[JasonSJackson]

What were their reasons for staying away?

mother