Carter G. Hoodson
Tarik is my name ✊✊✊
Brotha, you're FULL OF shyt. The mother is the original, best caregiver. The first school of education for the child starts in the mother wombs.
So we gonna act like Fathers aren't better caregivers than Mothers?
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SuburbanPimp
Giving game to lames since the 90s
Too bad its a very small % of dudes who hold down that single parent role.
I have yet to meet a dude in real life who gets a child support check from their baby mamas...
And the females I know who mainly lived with just their fathers were the ones who really got loose when they got away from the nest.
The balance is necessary
I have yet to meet a dude in real life who gets a child support check from their baby mamas...
And the females I know who mainly lived with just their fathers were the ones who really got loose when they got away from the nest.
The balance is necessary
Children from mother-only families have less of an ability to delay gratification and poorer impulse control (that is, control over anger and sexual gratification.) These children also have a weaker sense of conscience or sense of right and wrong
In a longitudinal study of 1,197 fourth-grade students, researchers observed "greater levels of aggression in boys from mother-only households than from boys in mother-father households."
Fatherless children -- kids living in homes without a stepfather or without contact with their biological father -- are twice as likely to drop out of school.
Forty-three percent of prison inmates grew up in a single-parent household -- 39 percent with their mothers, 4 percent with their fathers -- and an additional 14 percent lived in households without either biological parent. Another 14 percent had spent at last part of their childhood in a foster home, agency or other juvenile institution.
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In a longitudinal study of 1,197 fourth-grade students, researchers observed "greater levels of aggression in boys from mother-only households than from boys in mother-father households."
Fatherless children -- kids living in homes without a stepfather or without contact with their biological father -- are twice as likely to drop out of school.
Forty-three percent of prison inmates grew up in a single-parent household -- 39 percent with their mothers, 4 percent with their fathers -- and an additional 14 percent lived in households without either biological parent. Another 14 percent had spent at last part of their childhood in a foster home, agency or other juvenile institution.
What were yall saying
yep
the mother of my son was the exact opposite..why i got full custody now...
fukked when u got daycare teachers n preschool teachers show up in court to be on ya side ...to go against everything she stood for as a mother on their own..
They dont hear me though
Dirty_Jerz
Ethiop
Same situation, although I feel the opposite.
What on Earth could your mother teach you that your father couldn't?
One good example; dealing with women, as a boy.
My father was a disgruntled divorcee. I asked him for advice (he kinda threw the advice on me--
you know how fathers are) about this girl is was talking to. Without goin' into specifics; he gave me the advice you'd expect a disgruntled man to tell another man about a woman, not advice you'd give a boy about a girl.
In hindsight, he sounded like a hurt SOHH poster in The Ladies Room.
Not to mention; to this day, I'm not really comfortable with affection. I'd rather dap a female, than hug her. Hugs don't really mean anything to me. That type of stuff is taught to a boy, from his mother.
Not sayin' it's impossible, but; being raised by one parent leaves you without knowledge of your other biological half, inside you.
Your partly your mother and father. A lot of my demeanor comes from my mother (laid back, stoic), but, my dad is the opposite (think Martin Payne like rowdy). So, it's hard to get on the same page, as my dad, on issues, such as; dealing with ppl bothering me, at school.
I love my father, and he was great at his job, but, I knew I couldn't take some of the advice he gave me (on certain issues).
Greenstrings
All Star
You finna breastfeed? 
It's a traditional role for women to be the caregivers. Even as lil girls they are taught to be nurturing and caring. Even going back on some ancient sh!t that role has been predominantly relegated to women.
Most dudes are not going to be some overly nurturing type of mufakka they prolly gonnah look like a fakkit. That is the way society looks at a lot of stay-at-home dads (talking only about the role as a "caregiver" not all the other sh!t that goes along with being a child's parent there is a difference in the terms)
At the end of the day a sh!tty parent is a sh!tty parent regardless of gender and two parents are always better than one (the trend is more and more kids are growing up in single parent households)
Men do make more money than women do in most cases, so if a single dad wanted to provide more "resources" to their young child as a straight up loving (doing the same sh!t the traditional female caregiver would + being a father) parent (I ain't talking about some un-involved neglectful doesn't give a fukk bout their kids dude) they would probably do a better job than a women would in meeting the child's needs.
Most dudes are not going to be some overly nurturing type of mufakka they prolly gonnah look like a fakkit. That is the way society looks at a lot of stay-at-home dads (talking only about the role as a "caregiver" not all the other sh!t that goes along with being a child's parent there is a difference in the terms)
At the end of the day a sh!tty parent is a sh!tty parent regardless of gender and two parents are always better than one (the trend is more and more kids are growing up in single parent households)
Men do make more money than women do in most cases, so if a single dad wanted to provide more "resources" to their young child as a straight up loving (doing the same sh!t the traditional female caregiver would + being a father) parent (I ain't talking about some un-involved neglectful doesn't give a fukk bout their kids dude) they would probably do a better job than a women would in meeting the child's needs.
Super TD Jakes
Banned
You finna breastfeed?
[ame=http://youtu.be/DiXp_See_Bs]Breastfeeding Men - YouTube[/ame]
The man, from the central town of Walapone, lost his wife during childbirth.
My eldest daughter refused to be fed with powdered milk liquid in the feeding bottle.
I was so moved one evening and to stop her crying I offered my breast. I then realised that I was capable of breastfeeding her, the man admitted.
Dr Kamal Jayasinghe, deputy director of a Sri Lankan government hospital, was quoted as saying it was possible for men to produce milk if the prolactine hormone became hyperactive. Sapa-AFP
Milkmen: Fathers who Breastfeed | Unassisted Childbirth
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I trained Sheng Long and Shonuff
You can't just compare the ideal version of a father to the average hoodrat single mother and then say fathers are clearly better caregivers. FOH
I'll guess before post 50 this'll become an I hate black women thread
Super TD Jakes
Banned
The Nursing Father
If you've read the rest of this website, you know just how important I feel breastfeeding is for both mother and child, but what about the father? Did you know fathers can breastfeed as well? Women and men have exactly the same physical apparatus for making milk, it's just that the mother's milk glands might be slightly larger. Women often ask me, "Can I make enough milk for my baby if I have small breasts?" They think that size has something to do with production. But I am happy to be able to tell women that the amount of milk they produce has to do with how much the baby sucks at the breast, not with size. This goes for the man as well.
When a baby suckles at the breast, hormones are produced which cause milk production to increase. The more the baby sucks, the more milk is made. Your body responds to what the baby needs. If the baby steps up the amount of time it is spending at the breast, the body figures the baby is growing and needs more milk, so it makes more. As simple as that. All a man has to do to get his breasts to produce milk is to let the baby suck at them.
Pregnancy is not a pre-requisite for making milk. Many women who adopt babies have a desire to breastfeed them and are successful in creating milk by this simple method of letting the baby suck. If a woman who has not been pregnant can get her breasts to make milk, so can a man.
Why would he want to? many people ask. Well, the primary reason that men have desired this is because of expediency. In ancient times, before there was formula, a woman breastfed her baby, or if the woman died, a wet nurse was found to suckle the child until it was grown. But what if a man and his wife were on a journey and the wife died, out in the middle of no where - how would the child survive? There have been recorded historical accounts of the man simply picking up where the wife left off, and with great success.
On November 1, 2002 a news story was published about a man in Sri Lanka, Mr. B. Wijeratne, who began breastfeeding his daughter after the death of his wife. He tried to feed the baby powdered milk, but the baby would not accept it. In desperation he simply put his daughter to his own breast, and she began to nurse. Click Here to see the article.
David Livingstone, the traveler and explorer, notes an instance in Scotland of the male breast yielding milk. In this particular circumstance, a man's wife had been put to death, and in his extreme desperation the man put his son to his breast. To his surprise, the man found that his breast produced the needed milk (1).
See Laura Shanley's page Milkmen: Father's Who Breastfeed
Why do people feel this is so unusual? It has been done since ancient times. Even the Bible speaks of it:
Numbers 11:12 "Have I conceived all this people? have I begotten them, that thou shouldest say unto me, Carry them in thy bosom, as a nursing father beareth the sucking child, unto the land which thou swarest unto their fathers?"
Obviously, a nursing father is a sight that must have been at least occasionally seen during those times or else there would have been no point to the metaphor Moses was trying to construct.
Isaiah 49:23 "And kings shall be thy nursing fathers, and their queens thy nursing mothers: they shall bow down to thee with their face toward the earth, and lick up the dust of thy feet; and thou shalt know that I am the LORD: for they shall not be ashamed that wait for me."
Sharing the breastfeeding of a child is a wonderful way for mother, father and child to nurture their shared relationship. According to the above passage, it was good enough for kings and queens. When a woman exclusively breastfeeds a child, often the father will feel left out, and begin to resent the close relationship of the mother and baby. Even when a father does not participate in the actual breastfeeding act, he is still very important to the breastfeeding relationship. A woman cannot properly enjoy and nurture her child if she feels the father is resentful of the time and attention she gives the baby.
Fathers, when you bring a child into this world, you agree to put that child's needs first above your own. That means one of two things. You can allow your wife to breastfeed and nurture the child without any reservations, recognizing that the meeting of your child's needs in a sensitive and timely manner is privotal to his or her normal emotional development. Or, you can share the breastfeeding and nurturing responsibilities with your wife, and give your child the benefit of both a male and female attachment role model.
In either case, I hope men breastfeeding will catch on all over again. It has taken some time for breastfeeding to once again attain a favored status among mothers, and it seems our society is still a bit backward about the acceptance of women nursing in public. Even in their own homes, some women feel it necessary to cover up when nursing. Perhaps when courageous men and women begin to step out of the darkness and nurse in the light of day for all to see, it will finally, once and for all become the preferred infant feeding solution, and not something we need cover up by hiding behinds privacy drapes and in public restrooms.
Here's one more verse: "One dieth in his full strength, being wholly at ease and quiet. His breasts are full of milk, and his bones are moistened with marrow" (Job 21:24). In this verse, breasts full of milk signify good health and full strength. Men, how is YOUR strength?
References:
1. Livingstone, David. (1858). Travels and Researches in South Africa. New York: Harper Row, p. 141.
The Nursing Father
...it is your own job to unlearn everything taught by western civilization...
If you've read the rest of this website, you know just how important I feel breastfeeding is for both mother and child, but what about the father? Did you know fathers can breastfeed as well? Women and men have exactly the same physical apparatus for making milk, it's just that the mother's milk glands might be slightly larger. Women often ask me, "Can I make enough milk for my baby if I have small breasts?" They think that size has something to do with production. But I am happy to be able to tell women that the amount of milk they produce has to do with how much the baby sucks at the breast, not with size. This goes for the man as well.
When a baby suckles at the breast, hormones are produced which cause milk production to increase. The more the baby sucks, the more milk is made. Your body responds to what the baby needs. If the baby steps up the amount of time it is spending at the breast, the body figures the baby is growing and needs more milk, so it makes more. As simple as that. All a man has to do to get his breasts to produce milk is to let the baby suck at them.
Pregnancy is not a pre-requisite for making milk. Many women who adopt babies have a desire to breastfeed them and are successful in creating milk by this simple method of letting the baby suck. If a woman who has not been pregnant can get her breasts to make milk, so can a man.
Why would he want to? many people ask. Well, the primary reason that men have desired this is because of expediency. In ancient times, before there was formula, a woman breastfed her baby, or if the woman died, a wet nurse was found to suckle the child until it was grown. But what if a man and his wife were on a journey and the wife died, out in the middle of no where - how would the child survive? There have been recorded historical accounts of the man simply picking up where the wife left off, and with great success.
On November 1, 2002 a news story was published about a man in Sri Lanka, Mr. B. Wijeratne, who began breastfeeding his daughter after the death of his wife. He tried to feed the baby powdered milk, but the baby would not accept it. In desperation he simply put his daughter to his own breast, and she began to nurse. Click Here to see the article.
David Livingstone, the traveler and explorer, notes an instance in Scotland of the male breast yielding milk. In this particular circumstance, a man's wife had been put to death, and in his extreme desperation the man put his son to his breast. To his surprise, the man found that his breast produced the needed milk (1).
See Laura Shanley's page Milkmen: Father's Who Breastfeed
Why do people feel this is so unusual? It has been done since ancient times. Even the Bible speaks of it:
Numbers 11:12 "Have I conceived all this people? have I begotten them, that thou shouldest say unto me, Carry them in thy bosom, as a nursing father beareth the sucking child, unto the land which thou swarest unto their fathers?"
Obviously, a nursing father is a sight that must have been at least occasionally seen during those times or else there would have been no point to the metaphor Moses was trying to construct.
Isaiah 49:23 "And kings shall be thy nursing fathers, and their queens thy nursing mothers: they shall bow down to thee with their face toward the earth, and lick up the dust of thy feet; and thou shalt know that I am the LORD: for they shall not be ashamed that wait for me."
Sharing the breastfeeding of a child is a wonderful way for mother, father and child to nurture their shared relationship. According to the above passage, it was good enough for kings and queens. When a woman exclusively breastfeeds a child, often the father will feel left out, and begin to resent the close relationship of the mother and baby. Even when a father does not participate in the actual breastfeeding act, he is still very important to the breastfeeding relationship. A woman cannot properly enjoy and nurture her child if she feels the father is resentful of the time and attention she gives the baby.
Fathers, when you bring a child into this world, you agree to put that child's needs first above your own. That means one of two things. You can allow your wife to breastfeed and nurture the child without any reservations, recognizing that the meeting of your child's needs in a sensitive and timely manner is privotal to his or her normal emotional development. Or, you can share the breastfeeding and nurturing responsibilities with your wife, and give your child the benefit of both a male and female attachment role model.
In either case, I hope men breastfeeding will catch on all over again. It has taken some time for breastfeeding to once again attain a favored status among mothers, and it seems our society is still a bit backward about the acceptance of women nursing in public. Even in their own homes, some women feel it necessary to cover up when nursing. Perhaps when courageous men and women begin to step out of the darkness and nurse in the light of day for all to see, it will finally, once and for all become the preferred infant feeding solution, and not something we need cover up by hiding behinds privacy drapes and in public restrooms.
Here's one more verse: "One dieth in his full strength, being wholly at ease and quiet. His breasts are full of milk, and his bones are moistened with marrow" (Job 21:24). In this verse, breasts full of milk signify good health and full strength. Men, how is YOUR strength?
References:
1. Livingstone, David. (1858). Travels and Researches in South Africa. New York: Harper Row, p. 141.
The Nursing Father
...it is your own job to unlearn everything taught by western civilization...
Texas2step
H-Town it's NOT our year
What I don't understand is how us men are the lawmakers and yet we made it so hard for ourselves to gain custody of our kids 
What I don't understand is how us men are the lawmakers and yet we made it so hard for ourselves to gain custody of our kids
Court system favors women in most of those cases historically
We forgot to look out for ourselfs 100% when we wrote some laws
