Social Skills Improvement Thread

[LordLyons]

From what I've seen on this forum the past few months, the biggest issue men have with getting women is the lack of social skills. If you are grown at this point, it doesn't matter why you may lack them. You can't redo shyt so it's useless to even look back at your upbringing looking for a reason. My point is that there needs to be a thread on improvement of social skills amongst men that is free of any condescension and negativity. If you lack social skills, it's not the end of the world. It can be fixed. This thread should be stickied just like the quick gems dealing with women thread.

 

[the cool]

 

[BrothaZay]

Why

 

[Ahadi]

Public speaking class / Toastmasters helps.

Also improving your EQ, is very important to having great social skills as well.

But it all goes back to confidence at the end of the day. Once you’ve focused on building yourself, having a set of skills, purpose, etc, talking to people is easy.

& be open to trying new things outside of your comfort zone. This helps to converse with all kinds of people.

 

[Neuromancer]

Public speaking class / Toastmasters helps.

But it all goes back to confidence at the end of the day. Once you’ve focused on building yourself talking to people is easy.

Alot of young men aren't given any confidence at all. It's sad.

 

[Koba St]

Exercise, eat well and meditate. You’ll be calm in social situations with no anxiety which will help you open up to more people.

 

[Ahadi]

Alot of young men aren't given any confidence at all. It's sad.

Yes. Self-esteem starts at home. Gotta support your child and whatever activity they’re interested in even if it’s something “out of the box” and not normalized in our community. Helping them be more confident in their skin, there ability to accomplish anything. Help them understand their self worth.

 

[Fillerguy]

Treat everyone the same. It makes things simpler and its makes it easier to be your authentic self...ppl like authenticity. And if they dont, bush them or at the very least you know what to work on if the criticisms are consistent.

 

[2stainz]

Coli and social skills in the same sentence

But props to op for trying to help the brehs

 

[tuckgod]

Very much needed around here...

The 1st step is pulling the stick out your ass and learning to enjoy shyt strictly for the sake of enjoyment.

You don’t have to be serious 24/7.

 

[MajesticLion]

You don't only look back to see what to do, you also look back to get a clearer picture of what not to do.

 

[Chrome2279]

Be you, but also be considerate of how whatever you’re saying is being translated by the other person. The point of socializing is to communicate, and the point of communicating is to make sure that the other person hearing you understands what the fukk you’re saying. Sooooo try to articulate what you wanna say in a way where anybody can understand. Until you know the person and understand their true style. Only then can you refine it a bit more to suit you 100%.

Also, have confidence but don’t be arrogant. Don’t confuse the two, having a conversation with someone should never be hard and never try to be someone you’re not but be considerate of the person that is trying to understand what you’re trying to say and may not completely understand you. Just work through it it takes practice nothing to be intimidated about.

 

[UncleTomFord15]

nikkas really catching anxiety attacks when a stranger asks for the time

 

[XannyWarbucks]

I always recommend that people get into sales, even if it's just for a couple of months. It forces you to talk to people.

 

[XannyWarbucks]

nikkas really catching anxiety attacks when a stranger asks for the time

It's funny, because my ex swore she was extroverted, but if she wasn't the center of attention or in-charge, she'd freeze up at shyt like this. Some foreigners were asked her for directions and she was stuttering and mumbling like a three year old.