Somebody please show me one positive thing about being married

[BuyandSave]

My point is that its rare to find a woman who would allow that. You can keep kicking logic if you like. Good luck finding a woman down for not going to the courthouse.

So why does she want those papers so bad if she loves you for you? What does it matter if you have them or not? Whose eyes is she trying to get married in front of? God's or the government's? Seems like my way of doing things would actually ensure that you find a woman that's worth marrying.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I'm against signing contracts. I am not against exchanging vows in a church, getting rings, and calling yourselves married. I don't see the point in the paperwork. Please show it to me.

I already told you it's what THEY want to do. But since it's not what YOU want to do you said it doesn't make sense, when it makes a lot of sense.

 

[Poitier]

What the fukk did I just click breh

The effects of "not getting married brehs" majority of the time

So why does she want those papers so bad if she loves you for you? What does it matter if you have them or not? Whose eyes is she trying to get married in front of? God's or the government's? Seems like my way of doing things would actually ensure that you find a woman that's worth marrying.

Women are emotional, irrational and based their self-worth on fairytales that say a paper and a ring is the ultimate validation.

 

[Flay Mayweather]

All of that? That's a lot less than what you would have to do if you get married for real. Do you really need a piece of paper in order to exchange vows and actually act on them? Answer me that.

Because I love the girl I would do that.

Because I want to marry her means idgaf about none of that "what if" pre-marriage bullshyt.

People have they own way of expressing how they feel about their significant other. Marriage is the most popular way of saying, I love you and I want to be with you till we die.

I don't want to go with a girl for 10+ years and her title says she just my girlfriend /baby mother.

 

[BuyandSave]

I already told you it's what THEY want to do. But since it's not what YOU want to do you said it doesn't make sense, when it makes a lot of sense.

So what sense does it make to them? I mean, I broke down how it makes sense to me so why can't you do the same? This isn't some magical rhetoric that only you and a few others can understand...this isn't an algorithm or an ancient language...so break it down for me. Unless of course it doesn't, in fact, make sense and you'e just trying to deflect with every post.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

came in to say this.

and if you actually marry someone whom you share a bond with, you can look forward to sharing a lifetime of great experiences. not every marriage is from hell.

i've been with my girl for almost 15 years.
we are not married but we live like we are.

 

[I'm Billy FUCO!!]

at all of these half-answers so far....."they do it because they want to do it"......

I'll bet there is not ONE nikka on here who can state a valuable, positive thing about being legally married (without some half-answer, run-around shyt). A positive thing about literally signing a damn contract and legally being some bytch's husband, and whenever she's tired of me, she can leave and take a chunk of my money and property

All of that love, romance, grown old together, live together, have a partner for life, combined finances shyt - ALL of that can be done without the damn contract/ceremony, and an official husband/wife title

I can find a chick, and we can get to know each other. Go out on dates and have fun, and enjoy each other's company. I can sleep with her, and both of us genuinely enjoy the sex. Decide to live together with her. Have kids with her and raise a family. The whole time, I'm sacrificing outside p*ssy and she's sacrificing outside dikk, out of genuine love and respect for each other. Watch our kids become adults and leave the nest, and grow old with her until one of us dies. I can do ALL of that without marriage. I'm not saying I'm likely to do that without the relationship going wrong and breaking up at some point (like many relationships do in general).....but I AM saying that it can be done hypothetically.....WITHOUT MARRIAGE. All without a contract, an expensive ceremony, and buying expensive rings and shyt

So we're all still waiting on the actual, EXCLUSIVE positives that come with being married.......

So far, we got tax benefits......

 

[BuyandSave]

Because I love the girl I would do that.

Because I want to marry her means idgaf about none of that "what if" pre-marriage bullshyt.

People have they own way of expressing how they feel about their significant other. Marriage is the most popular way of saying, I love you and I want to be with you till we die.

I don't want to go with a girl for 10+ years and her title says she just my girlfriend /baby mother.

Okay, that's a straightforward answer. That's all I asked for. So basically, fukk logic and statistics because you love her - fair enough.

 

[BuyandSave]

i've been with my girl for almost 15 years.
we are not married but we live like we are.

And in my world - that's marriage.

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

It is also a legal arrangement that is why paperwork is needed. The aversion towards marriage being displayed in this thread is cultural. Black Americans don't view marriage in the same way as other cultures do.

 

[Flay Mayweather]

Okay, that's a straightforward answer. That's all I asked for. So basically, fukk logic and statistics because you love her - fair enough.

fukk Logic? What do you mean by that?

Statistics are statistics, they are made in the favor of the maker and can say whatever you want them to say.

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

at all of these half-answers so far....."they do it because they want to do it"......

I'll bet there is not ONE nikka on here who can state a valuable, positive thing about being legally married (without some half-answer, run-around shyt). A positive thing about literally signing a damn contract and legally being some bytch's husband, and whenever she's tired of me, she can leave and take a chunk of my money and property

All of that love, romance, grown old together, live together, have a partner for life, combined finances shyt - ALL of that can be done without the damn contract/ceremony, and an official husband/wife title

I can find a chick, and we can get to know each other. Go out on dates and have fun, and enjoy each other's company. I can sleep with her, and both of us genuinely enjoy the sex. Decide to live together with her. Have kids with her and raise a family. The whole time, I'm sacrificing outside p*ssy and she's sacrificing outside dikk, out of genuine love and respect for each other. Watch our kids become adults and leave the nest, and grow old with her until one of us dies. I can do ALL of that without marriage. I'm not saying I'm likely to do that without the relationship going wrong and breaking up at some point (like many relationships do in general).....but I AM saying that it can be done hypothetically.....WITHOUT MARRIAGE. All without a contract, an expensive ceremony, and buying expensive rings and shyt

So we're all still waiting on the actual, EXCLUSIVE positives that come with being married.......

So far, we got tax benefits......

since you cant google this on your own
Whether or not you favor marriage as a social institution, there's no denying that it confers many rights, protections, and benefits -- both legal and practical. Some of these vary from state to state, but the list typically includes:

Tax Benefits

• Filing joint income tax returns with the IRS and state taxing authorities.
• Creating a "family partnership" under federal tax laws, which allows you to divide business income among family members.

Estate Planning Benefits

• Inheriting a share of your spouse's estate.
• Receiving an exemption from both estate taxes and gift taxes for all property you give or leave to your spouse.
• Creating life estate trusts that are restricted to married couples, including QTIP trusts, QDOT trusts, and marital deduction trusts.
• Obtaining priority if a conservator needs to be appointed for your spouse -- that is, someone to make financial and/or medical decisions on your spouse's behalf.

Government Benefits

• Receiving Social Security, Medicare, and disability benefits for spouses.
• Receiving veterans' and military benefits for spouses, such as those for education, medical care, or special loans.
• Receiving public assistance benefits.

Employment Benefits

• Obtaining insurance benefits through a spouse's employer.
• Taking family leave to care for your spouse during an illness.
• Receiving wages, workers' compensation, and retirement plan benefits for a deceased spouse.
• Taking bereavement leave if your spouse or one of your spouse's close relatives dies.

Medical Benefits

• Visiting your spouse in a hospital intensive care unit or during restricted visiting hours in other parts of a medical facility.
• Making medical decisions for your spouse if he or she becomes incapacitated and unable to express wishes for treatment.

Death Benefits

• Consenting to after-death examinations and procedures.
• Making burial or other final arrangements.

Family Benefits

• Filing for stepparent or joint adoption.
• Applying for joint foster care rights.
• Receiving equitable division of property if you divorce.
• Receiving spousal or child support, child custody, and visitation if you divorce.

Housing Benefits

• Living in neighborhoods zoned for "families only."
• Automatically renewing leases signed by your spouse.

Consumer Benefits

• Receiving family rates for health, homeowners', auto, and other types of insurance.
• Receiving tuition discounts and permission to use school facilities.
• Other consumer discounts and incentives offered only to married couples or families.

Other Legal Benefits and Protections

• Suing a third person for wrongful death of your spouse and loss of consortium (loss of intimacy).
• Suing a third person for offenses that interfere with the success of your marriage, such as alienation of affection and criminal conversation (these laws are available in only a few states).
• Claiming the marital communications privilege, which means a court can't force you to disclose the contents of confidential communications between you and your spouse during your marriage.
• Receiving crime victims' recovery benefits if your spouse is the victim of a crime.
• Obtaining immigration and residency benefits for noncitizen spouse.
• Visiting rights in jails and other places where visitors are restricted to immediate family.

 

[BuyandSave]

at all of these half-answers so far....."they do it because they want to do it"......

I'll bet there is not ONE nikka on here who can state a valuable, positive thing about being legally married (without some half-answer, run-around shyt). A positive thing about literally signing a damn contract and legally being some bytch's husband, and whenever she's tired of me, she can leave and take a chunk of my money and property

All of that love, romance, grown old together, live together, have a partner for life, combined finances shyt - ALL of that can be done without the damn contract/ceremony, and an official husband/wife title

I can find a chick, and we can get to know each other. Go out on dates and have fun, and enjoy each other's company. I can sleep with her, and both of us genuinely enjoy the sex. Decide to live together with her. Have kids with her and raise a family. The whole time, I'm sacrificing outside p*ssy and she's sacrificing outside dikk, out of genuine love and respect for each other. Watch our kids become adults and leave the nest, and grow old with her until one of us dies. I can do ALL of that without marriage. I'm not saying I'm likely to do that without the relationship going wrong and breaking up at some point (like many relationships do in general).....but I AM saying that it can be done hypothetically.....WITHOUT MARRIAGE. All without a contract, an expensive ceremony, and buying expensive rings and shyt

So we're all still waiting on the actual, EXCLUSIVE positives that come with being married.......

So far, we got tax benefits......

You noticed that shyt too? Thank god I'm not crazy. A lot of, "Well if you don't want to settle down that's on you, but I blah, blah, blah..." going on in this thread, as if anybody even alluded to that.

 

[Ashley Banks]

So what sense does it make to them? I mean, I broke down how it makes sense to me so why can't you do the same? This isn't some magical rhetoric that only you and a few others can understand...this isn't an algorithm or an ancient language...so break it down for me. Unless of course it doesn't, in fact, make sense and you'e just trying to deflect with every post.

you have to be trolling....seriously. -_____-

 

[BuyandSave]

fukk Logic? What do you mean by that?

Statistics are statistics, they are made in the favor of the maker and can say whatever you want them to say.

Nah, they actually reflect the reality of the divorce rates in America and who they're initiated by...not sure how the so-called "maker" would spin that or why.