Somebody please show me one positive thing about being married

[Youseenmywork]

The funny thing is that I agree with you even after seeing my parents' marriage(31 years and current). This is gonna sound a bit misogynistic, but it's pretty accurate. Most successful marriages are based on the principles of "taming, breaking a b****h, or more modestly articulated, the art of getting a women to submit. Sadly, not every male has this skill. Women, even in the days of yesteryear, would only submit to men that can continuously satisfy their most basic of desires, even when it seemed like there were more quality men and women that believe in the principles of "character, personality & being able to maintain a in-tact family structure." You can conclude(or at least, I can... open to opinion)that those core principles mean less in modern society where marriages are less common and subjected to end in divorce at any given moment in addition to the state of the modern (black)family.

Let me clear up that when I mean getting a woman to submit, I mean that in a positive manner... not by physical/emotional abuse, ect. I think(or hope) we know that generally women submit to men that are attractive, have status, provide security, and... to put it shrewdly, make her cum. If you can't do this things, then your significant other WILL CHEAT or not submit in the first place. It's not even a possibility, rather an inevitability.

The main goal(and mines, as well) is to find the women that will submit, subscribe and adhere to the core principles I stated above and finding a woman that we find attractive(on our own personal level..... beauty, is subjective, after all). A healthy balance(for me) would be suitable.

Day by day, that is becoming more & more difficult. With this and the unfair marriage laws, these are the reasons men are opting out.

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

at all of these half-answers so far....."they do it because they want to do it"......

I'll bet there is not ONE nikka on here who can state a valuable, positive thing about being legally married (without some half-answer, run-around shyt). A positive thing about literally signing a damn contract and legally being some bytch's husband, and whenever she's tired of me, she can leave and take a chunk of my money and property

All of that love, romance, grown old together, live together, have a partner for life, combined finances shyt - ALL of that can be done without the damn contract/ceremony, and an official husband/wife title

I can find a chick, and we can get to know each other. Go out on dates and have fun, and enjoy each other's company. I can sleep with her, and both of us genuinely enjoy the sex. Decide to live together with her. Have kids with her and raise a family. The whole time, I'm sacrificing outside p*ssy and she's sacrificing outside dikk, out of genuine love and respect for each other. Watch our kids become adults and leave the nest, and grow old with her until one of us dies. I can do ALL of that without marriage. I'm not saying I'm likely to do that without the relationship going wrong and breaking up at some point (like many relationships do in general).....but I AM saying that it can be done hypothetically.....WITHOUT MARRIAGE. All without a contract, an expensive ceremony, and buying expensive rings and shyt

So we're all still waiting on the actual, EXCLUSIVE positives that come with being married.......

So far, we got tax benefits......

Honestly it means more to the female. If you love a chick, then dudes will marry her to give her that gift. Women love the whole wedding show and want the ring, so it's more of a gesture by the man for the woman.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

Not to side-track this thread, but the fairest point of view I have found on human/gender rights is by this Canadian Karen Straughan, who ironically, is a woman that is a MRA(Male Rights Activist) and a voice women and feminist alike detest.

 

[BuyandSave]

That's already been answered. It is also a legal agreement as well. As a woman, I find that the character of BM raised by married parents is totally different than those that are not. BM raised in single parent households tend to hold Black females in general and the Black community in particular in a negative light. Their only experience in the Black community tends to be one of seeing a Black woman, their mother, work like a mule with no man around or a revolving door of low quality men then he grows up to view BW as unfeminine and nonBW as the ideal to be attained and cherished since he did not see that happen with his Black mother. This is why you see so many athletes dating and marrying other races because these men came from single mother homes that was full of struggle so they want to escape that with a trophy wife. After all, they see other races of women being cared for and supported and put on a pedastal by their men and that is what they want for themselves. So marriage definitely makes stronger and more culturally aware men. I found a good one

Look, congrats on your good man - not that it's relevant. And no, you actually haven't answered the question. Saying that it's a legal agreement is stating the obvious. The question was whether or not it's necessary, and if so, why?

 

[BuyandSave]

Honestly it means more to the female. If you love a chick, then dudes will marry her to give her that gift. Women love the whole wedding show and want the ring, so it's more of a gesture by the man for the woman.

She can have the ring, the big wedding, and the honeymoon...but what is the contract for? It's not necessary - that's the point of my OP.

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

For me personally I dont want to get married or have kids. Im 30 and just got out of a relationship that even thoe it didnt end bad it takes a toll on men and even me psychologically. Add the fact that women run society along with gay people. Men on a daily or emasculated by women and the media ...hell the world just look at tv. One thing I have found out the older you get it gets harder to pick up those pieces EACH falied relationship. Nobody really believes in the king and queen system ...which is a wonderful system. It just so many women wanna be men and think they can do what a men do which is crazy cause if you didnt havecthe system that men setup you wouldnt have anything to ...aspire to. Thats why being a house wife is looked down upon now...every women wanna get their's and do what men do. So I dont wont to get married but I do wanna help the young black males and females one day from whatever they may being going threw..one of thesecdays hopefully I can build a foundation that I and those kids I wanna help can pround of .

Patrice O'Neal: "I generally don't like living in a world where being what a man is, is a horrible thing; and no matter what a woman is, is a wonderful thing." Taken from his interview with Marc Maron.

There's nothing wrong with not wanting kids and marriage. It's not for everyone.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I just want my girl to know that my natural instincts stopped once I said I love her. I made a decision to be a “good guy”. I know that fukking a lot of women is bad for her. She don’t want it. She wants commitment and she wants monogamy and I give it to her and I just want her to know that, I want her to value the sacrifice. All I want is for women to understand what we are. We want a lot of fukken women.

Women Strip Their Men of Attractive Qualities
- patrice oneal

 

[I'm Billy FUCO!!]

She can have the ring, the big wedding, and the honeymoon...but what is the contract for? It's not necessary - that's the point of my OP.

Was JUST about to say something similar to this before seeing your reply

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

Look, congrats on your good man - not that it's relevant. And no, you actually haven't answered the question. Saying that it's a legal agreement is stating the obvious. The question was whether or not it's necessary, and if so, why?

I just answered it. People who are reared in households headed by married parents tend to make better partners. This became really evident to me when I was in the dating world.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I just answered it. People who are reared in households headed by married parents tend to make better partners. This became really evident to me when I was in the dating world.

http://karmajello.com/lifestyle/dating-sex/patrice-oneal-strong-women-monogamy.html#_

 

[BuyandSave]

I just answered it. People who are reared in households headed by married parents tend to make better partners. This became really evident to me when I was in the dating world.

Cool, cool - so again, what is the contract for? I mean, you're either not getting the question or avoiding it on purpose. You can get married in a church, go on a honeymoon, and exchange vows without ever signing a piece of paper. You will be married. People will consider you married. Nobody will ever know that you didn't go to the courthouse and put both of your signatures down on a marriage license. However, just to reiterate my point (I feel like I should state this twice since your reading comprehension is lacking, imo), YOU WILL BE A MARRIED COUPLE. But hey, let me ask you this again, what is the contract for?

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

I just want my girl to know that my natural instincts stopped once I said I love her. I made a decision to be a “good guy”. I know that fukking a lot of women is bad for her. She don’t want it. She wants commitment and she wants monogamy and I give it to her and I just want her to know that, I want her to value the sacrifice. All I want is for women to understand what we are. We want a lot of fukken women.

Women Strip Their Men of Attractive Qualities
- patrice oneal

http://karmajello.com/lifestyle/dating-sex/patrice-oneal-strong-women-monogamy.html#_

That's a comedian who didn't even take care of his own health so how can he give advice on marriage?

 

[BuyandSave]

Hey, @observe, do me a favor breh? Neg @OatmealCreamPie for me.

 

[Remote]

There are benefits to being married.
Some people have posted them here.





But let's cut the bullshyt.

99.9999% of everyone who gets married in America gets married because they love the person they are with and getting married is the next step that society expects of them.

It's all part of that Western culture.

Highschool > fukk around > College > fukk around > Job > fukk around > Settle down > Get Married > Have kids > Buy a home > Divorce > Retire > Die.

Somewhere in between there you got travel...pumpkin patches...day care...mistresses...tv...and the occasional sex with your spouse ...all of which serves as a light sugary coating on the rotten apple that festers with un-fulfillment because even after you get all those things, you think to yourself "There's got to be more to it all than THIS."

But I'm not jaded or anything.

 

[The_Sheff]

at all of these half-answers so far....."they do it because they want to do it"......

I'll bet there is not ONE nikka on here who can state a valuable, positive thing about being legally married (without some half-answer, run-around shyt). A positive thing about literally signing a damn contract and legally being some bytch's husband, and whenever she's tired of me, she can leave and take a chunk of my money and property

All of that love, romance, grown old together, live together, have a partner for life, combined finances shyt - ALL of that can be done without the damn contract/ceremony, and an official husband/wife title

I can find a chick, and we can get to know each other. Go out on dates and have fun, and enjoy each other's company. I can sleep with her, and both of us genuinely enjoy the sex. Decide to live together with her. Have kids with her and raise a family. The whole time, I'm sacrificing outside p*ssy and she's sacrificing outside dikk, out of genuine love and respect for each other. Watch our kids become adults and leave the nest, and grow old with her until one of us dies. I can do ALL of that without marriage. I'm not saying I'm likely to do that without the relationship going wrong and breaking up at some point (like many relationships do in general).....but I AM saying that it can be done hypothetically.....WITHOUT MARRIAGE. All without a contract, an expensive ceremony, and buying expensive rings and shyt

So we're all still waiting on the actual, EXCLUSIVE positives that come with being married.......

So far, we got tax benefits......

Key word.

You not getting a good woman to stick with you forever without that ring. You are arguing a hypothetical point against real world situations. It's pointless for anyone to oppose you if the conversation remains there.