My gf does divorce cases for lots of Indians since and is kinda becoming known in the community for it. So I get to sit shotgun on the sham that this really is. Let's get the myths straight about stats vs reality. First thing I learned in India was that my gf's mom is just plain naive about modern India. Lots of married people have someone on the side. Married men with gay partners. Women with boyfriends. Dudes sleeping with prostitutes on the regular. India has a healthy HIV rate. Its just culturally unacceptable to the older generations to divorce so these people are staying married. A couple of her female cousins actually commited suicide(India has a high suicide rate). I met one of her male cousins at a restaurant with another dude. I assumed this was some friend or another cousin. Nope, dude had been planning for years to escape and finally did this year only to get to London and marry some Korean chick, lol.
Here, there is the same sort of pressure. Since the communities are smaller, some of these families are really selective and get behind these couples. They get great support but man, it made my boy Wil(he aint ashamed) crack. He was given a dime and he couldn't believe it. Beautiful, subservient to him and really, really smart. But she wanted lots of kids and had a couple really quick. Dude was sweatin bullets and started messing with white girls on the side. He left too. His wife was pissed as hell. That was nasty. But you know what? Their families kept pushing them back together and they got back together. He still aint happy but he's like
, still kind a wildin' out on the side. One big problem you are having is the girls seem very unwilling to be ordered around eventually, and the dudes end up pissed off as hell. A lot of them will run back to India and try to blow up the spot. Trying to take property and shyt, lol. This one former Iranian couple was crazy. Dude tried to take the lady back to Iran, lol. She wasn't havin it. He was trying to take most of their savings though she was makin a lot more money. Based on her cases overall they seem to have the same problems any young(or older couple) would, but there's an extra dose of some
dudes trying to boss up to women that are in reality way out of their league. One divorce my girl had was this angry assed little George Jefferson. I thought dude was some family friend's kid or something. I saw the wife and she was a grown assed woman. Big titties, curly long hair and professional as hell. I asked my gf where the guy was, and she was like its that kid lookin dude. I was
. His parents thought he could handle that woman, lol. Dude was trying to go scorched earth on her as if she would just take it. She was givin him that
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Its all funny because her dad used to talk shyt about how marriages fail because of cultural differences, like right in front of his brother and law and his Dutch wife. His BIL would always happily exclaim, I guess I'm a Goddamned coconut!(His wife is a 10 for real) Anyways, they often don't work but people just stick it out. Its a contract to many and its a logical financial arrangement, so shut up and do what's best financially and socially. Americans used to do that too back in the day. I've seen plenty of qualitative data about American women being unhappy in the 50s and 60s and still sticking it out because of the position women were in back then. There was a lot more religious pressure then as well. Divorce rate seems to my trained opinion as a reaction to a lack of faith that the institution has their best interest in mind. In a place like India or the American Indian community, even if the actual marriage isn't working, many think its the best place for them to be. Once that fades and there are options, the divorce rate goes up.
I have plenty of stories both ways. One where the parents harrassed their son's white wife because she was white basically until the girl left. They thought their son would get the kids and stuff. Nope. Dude just wanted his wife back. Same parents and their 40-year old daughter who was business savvy, moving up in her company quickly and living all around the world on her own, but her parents basically harrassed her. She eventually found a dude who they thought was white, to which they started talking about harrassing him, until they found out she had indeed been arranged by his family to get married and he was just a northern Indian that grew up in the midwest. Upon finding out he was a millionaire, they not only left them alone, but moved to another city to "let them find their legs as a married couple" LOL
