I empathize but it really isn't that serious after grade school if the family instills self worth. Shouldn't be so focused on the physical anyway nor seek outside validation, especially as an adult. They are not preteens/HS but adults. They need to man up.
The only sucky part about being dark is that people automatically assume you are impoverished, dumb or unrefined. You have to pull rank (with tact) when lighter complected peers, who are one generation from the projects/woods, say slick shyt. You are deemed
mean when you are assertive - a label a lot of dark skinned people falsely have. Even if you are sitting with a stoic resting face, reading or something people will ask you if you are mad. Also if you have stereotypically "non-black" features like loose hair texture, small nose/lips light eye color/hair you get borderline offensive questions on the origins of features from which insinuates dark skin people are homogeneous inbreds.
The bias is so bad that if you are an middle class multigenerational Black American reared in a two parent home, it is assumed you are African or product of Caribbean immigrants especially when articulate, courteous and multilingual. This can lead to social and economic inequality if you poor especially for women if they want move in certain circles or marry up. Light skin and White men equates stability. For some reason in the States dark females and dark males repel like magnets which I never understood, especially when the come up in income.
One thing for sure is declaring natural hair, dark skin while donning a beat face, Spanx and master copy Louboutins on social media
is not going to make any serious dents to standards of beauty which is based on the economics position of those in power.
Basically we (darkies) are "ugly" because of disproportionate poverty and vulnerability due to centuries of European and decades of American global imperialism. I'd rather have the guap and control than likes from random people or wanting to be the standard for
fukkable.
Even if you pressure beauty companies, advertisers et al to market these standards. It's only going to make capitalists more rich while you are still marginalized, though fukkable, if external validation if your end game.
Cute lil heart citrine ring set in 22K gold

not that bullshyt as factory cut diluted metal shyt in the States. This post is tasteless. You don't air family shyt. Her rant belonged in-house with the relatives.
We can't reverse childhood but we can correct those any damage incurred through re-education and correct current actions done to child relatives (i.e. when grandma only displays the "cute" grandkids photos in the living room or uncle and auntie give disproportionate gifts (even inheritance); darkskin kids split a three pack of Jockey socks while the "cute" ones are gifter bb guns and playstations for Christmas; that colorstruck relatives giving that all light skinned babies go to heaven propaganda). This also corrects generational dysfunction which we all have.
Aside Fair and Lovely is a good and cheap liquid face wash with that exfoliates - especially if you live in a city/industrial area. Helps remove impurities and hyperpigmentation(I think the niacinamide does it), especially if you have cystic acne(ladies) or razor bumps(men) as it opens the follicles.

Most people don't experience Michael Jackson 1970s vs. 1990s complexion dichotomy unless they are bleaching. Clear, even, poreless skin is a universal standard.
