But apparently by guys they often don't like.
Spin: Are women more afraid of approaching than men are?
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Women approach men in a passive aggressive way (eye contact, touching, random/stupid questions , etc.)
I'm anti-social and self consiousI'm not scared of rejection lol. I was also taught not to chase men. Never seen anything good come from it either.
I hear you as far as traditional gender roles... but i've seen plenty of good come from a woman approaching a man.
I know you're speaking from personal experience, but you brehettes gotta stop propagating the bold... its just not true.
If my sister-in-law didn't approach my brother, they would have never have gotten married, and I wouldn't be an uncle
To answer the question in the OP, I get approached all the time, far more than I approach.
If I don't get approach, i just get the eye flirt "come talk to me" look.
Its a different time now, more women know what they want and are learning how to get it
For the life of me, I can't understand why parents teach their daughters to advance & take more control of every aspect of like EXCEPT meetin' men. It's bafflin'.I'm anti-social and self consious
I'm even more baffled by experience not teachin' women to be more active in this aspect. How many men gotta be not about shyt (not sayin' you say that) before y'all try another method?
Societal norms. Tradition. In general, women are attemptin' to conquer everything except this. Why is this the one thing most women refuse to take any responsibility for?
I don't know, I am just myself. I don't try to do things to attract people. The times I have been approached it's been by guys I'm attracted to and those I'm not. I don't look at it like something to be mad about, I look at it as part of being a woman. Only have problems when they cross the line or make me uncomfortable.
Most of my relationships have been from people I went to school with, worked with, or talked to before online and off. 90% of the time in those I was approached.
yupI hear you as far as traditional gender roles... but i've seen plenty of good come from a woman approaching a man.
I know you're speaking from personal experience, but you brehettes gotta stop propagating the bold... its just not true.
If my sister-in-law didn't approach my brother, they would have never have gotten married, and I wouldn't be an uncle
To answer the question in the OP, I get approached all the time, far more than I approach.
If I don't get approach, i just get the eye flirt "come talk to me" look.
Its a different time now, more women know what they want and are learning how to get it
I can only speak from experience, I am speaking on chasing men not just making the first move. I have taken initative before but I didn't walk up to dude and holla at him. The situation was, I already knew somethings about him. I felt comfortable enough to. He gave me a sign aslo where I gaged he my have been attacted.
It's worked for me
Regardless if you are active approaching men or not you will run across "ain't sh*t" people it's all about what you do after you find out what they are. I think a woman who will stay with an dude that's bad for her will do so whether she approach him or not. Hence me saying nothing good come from chasin men. Just how dudes approach, get with, and have babies with trash women. Approaching doesn't equal dating or relationship. Like I said in another post my relationships even come from cold approaches.You can be active in the process and not approach men. I am a believer of if something isn't working for you, you might need to switch it up tho.
Oh ok, I feel you. That's an important clarification.
Yea
It is perceived totally differently when its a woman doing the approaching. Women don't want to get labeled as desperate, aggressive, non feminine/ladylike or just in need of a casual sexual fix.
Assuming a more cold approach type situation :
It is perceived totally differently when its a woman doing the approaching. Women don't want to get labeled as desperate, aggressive, non feminine/ladylike or just in need of a casual sexual fix.
Assuming a more cold approach type situation :
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I think OP is talking about cold approaching vs. making the first move I could be wrong. That's why the first part of my response was being anti social and self conscious. I'm simply not the type of person to do that.
Women dont like to be rejected at all, plain and simple. If a women approaches you or lets you know she's legit interested then you better hop on it if she is cute or good people.
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If a man really likes you he will go after you. Men usually go after what they want.
Well, it's not for everyone. Can't fault you there.
Even when i've been approached, most of the time there was a substantial amount of eye flirting and smiling leading up to it.
Its not like i'm walking down the street and I get grabbed like "nikka i'm tryna holla at you!
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This.
shyt. Its hard for some women to even take the slightest criticism/critique. Whether it's in their professional life, social life, hobbies (i.e. cooking, arts, video game playing, etc.)
So if you deny them flat out, in public...
Some will never recover from certain rejections.
A lot is changing in society within the constructs of "role playing" and whatnot.
They need to approach more and acquire thicker skin.