Spin: Are women more afraid of approaching than men are?

[Cynical Thoughts]

I mean that's cool and all, but what did that have to do with women approaching men?

And obviously I don't agree with you.

That was a ridiculous question.

Imo it just points to women be excused of responsibility and accountability in different aspects of life.

Now that I'm thinking about it. Knowing when a kid/ baby is tired and when a women is interested is very comparable. Cause both are subtle and can go unnoticed to the untrained eye. But what would we tell a kid who doesn't say "I'm hungry"? We say "open your mouth" or "a closed mouth doesn't get fed" or whatever.

In a woman case taking action on what's in her best interests is excused and the man is attacked.

What kinda weirdo gay nikkas are yall?


You want a female to come "holler" at you like you the bytch?? Man the fukk up and grow some nuts.
Yall nikkas sound like some real bitter hoe-boys on here.... scared to talk to bytches, so you tootin your ass up like a bytch, hoping a girl come talk to ya lame ass.
A woman should never have to go out of her way for a nikka.......
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Sounds exactly like what a women would say if you denied her.

 

[Blackout]

Based on what Ive heard yes they are.

Most arent used to it so as with any new thing you get uneasy.

 

[tater]

Imo it just points to women be excused of responsibility and accountability in different aspects of life.

Now that I'm thinking about it. Knowing when a kid/ baby is tired and when a women is interested is very comparable. Cause both are subtle and can go unnoticed to the untrained eye. But what would we tell a kid who doesn't say "I'm hungry"? We say "open your mouth" or "a closed mouth doesn't get fed" or whatever.

In a woman case taking action on what's in her best interests is excused and the man is attacked.

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Sounds exactly like what a women would say if you denied her.

Have you not been around children much? They will literally cry and fall out when they're hungry or tired. There's no subtlety in that.

Furthermore, a woman shouldn't have to be so forward with a man in the courting process. If you can't pick up on subtlety and nuance maybe your social skills are lacking. If that's the type of woman you want then say that, but it's not the majority and it never will be. Demurely seducing a man is something that women have been taught for centuries, just because these later generations seem to lack social skills doesn't change what's been ingrained into society.

That's what it is in my opinion, people lack social skills. Now I see there's a variance in what's considered approaching men in this conversation. But if a woman comes up to you and is engaging in conversation, smiling, flirting, etc. and you expect her to then ask you out on a date and tell you when to pick her up, .

You want this to happen, then want some woman who's going to be obedient and follow your lead all the time. How, when you're now following hers?

HOW SWAY?!

 

[Dominicansbelit]

Have you not been around children much? They will literally cry and fall out when they're hungry or tired. There's no subtlety in that.

Furthermore, a woman shouldn't have to be so forward with a man in the courting process. If you can't pick up on subtlety and nuance maybe your social skills are lacking. If that's the type of woman you want then say that, but it's not the majority and it never will be. Demurely seducing a man is something that women have been taught for centuries, just because these later generations seem to lack social skills doesn't change what's been ingrained into society.

That's what it is in my opinion, people lack social skills. Now I see there's a variance in what's considered approaching men in this conversation. But if a woman comes up to you and is engaging in conversation, smiling, flirting, etc. and you expect her to then ask you out on a date and tell you when to pick her up, .

You want this to happen, then want some woman who's going to be obedient and follow your lead all the time. How, when you're now following hers?

HOW SWAY?!

Hold dis L real quick..

Tell the man you like him and that's it.. job done

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

Have you not been around children much? They will literally cry and fall out when they're hungry or tired. There's no subtlety in that.

Furthermore, a woman shouldn't have to be so forward with a man in the courting process. If you can't pick up on subtlety and nuance maybe your social skills are lacking. If that's the type of woman you want then say that, but it's not the majority and it never will be. Demurely seducing a man is something that women have been taught for centuries, just because these later generations seem to lack social skills doesn't change what's been ingrained into society.

That's what it is in my opinion, people lack social skills. Now I see there's a variance in what's considered approaching men in this conversation. But if a woman comes up to you and is engaging in conversation, smiling, flirting, etc. and you expect her to then ask you out on a date and tell you when to pick her up, .

You want this to happen, then want some woman who's going to be obedient and follow your lead all the time. How, when you're now following hers?

HOW SWAY?!

The argument is that she's not smiling and flirting and engaging in convo. Don't move the goals mam.

My only point is, take the good with the bad if your a female. The problem is women get to pick and choose when their helpless and when they are capable. You want it 50/50 until it's not convenient to you, then you revert back to tradition.

I'm all for men courting a certain way. But sometimes when the shoe is on the other foot women take the easy way out and have women and programmed men at their defense at every turn.

Stop acting like this is an equal society. Most women aren't blamed for their short comings.

If your lonely it's cause it's not good men not cause it's something you could do better or different.

If you feel like you need the man to pay on the first date cool, you can pay on the second and tell him that. Or you set up the next date for someplace that he likes. Those actions would make you respect him less? Proly not.

But I guess none of those scenerios crossed your mind. That's my point about playing both sides. You become helps less to even think for yourself.

I know you on some bullshyt with that being obedient and following his lead all the times comment, so I'm not gonna address it.

 

[tater]

The argument is that she's not smiling and flirting and engaging in convo. Don't move the goals mam.

My only point is, take the good with the bad if your a female. The problem is women get to pick and choose when their helpless and when they are capable. You want it 50/50 until it's not convenient to you, then you revert back to tradition.

I'm all for men courting a certain way. But sometimes when the shoe is on the other foot women take the easy way out and have women and programmed men at their defense at every turn.

Stop acting like this is an equal society. Most women aren't blamed for their short comings.

If your lonely it's cause it's not good men not cause it's something you could do better or different.

If you feel like you need the man to pay on the first date cool, you can pay on the second and tell him that. Or you set up the next date for someplace that he likes. Those actions would make you respect him less? Proly not.

But I guess none of those scenerios crossed your mind. That's my point about playing both sides. You become helps less to even think for yourself.

I know you on some bullshyt with that being obedient and following his lead all the times comment, so I'm not gonna address it.

None of those scenarios crossed my mind because if those conversations are being had, I would gather you've moved on from the approaching stage. If I get to the point where I need to make some changes to my dating style, I will. So far I've been doing just fine. I also didn't read the original thread that this is a spin of, so I don't know what her scenario was, but like I stated there are seemingly different approach definitions dependent on your perspective. I'm not going to ask you on a date, but I will flirt, smile, etc. If at some point that no longer works, I'm sure I'll be able to adapt.

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

None of those scenarios crossed my mind because if those conversations are being had, I would gather you've moved on from the approaching stage. If I get to the point where I need to make some changes to my dating style, I will. So far I've been doing just fine. I also didn't read the original thread that this is a spin of, so I don't know what her scenario was, but like I stated there are seemingly different approach definitions dependent on your perspective. I'm not going to ask you on a date, but I will flirt, smile, etc. If at some point that no longer works, I'm sure I'll be able to adapt.

I know (to the bolded). Your whole post proves my point.

I actually was addressing your quote/post. I'm responding to your words. So the original thread means nothing, I didn't read it either. (Lack of Accountability I was speaking of)

Society is geared to you having it easy. But you not admitting that is what's going on is insulting peoples intelligence. If that dating approach fails you, best bet that the alternative will be just as easy.

I don't blame you, you don't know any better.

 

[iBrowse]

Idk about all that OP but I'm going to be eating chicken for a long time.

 

[semtex]

Uh well considering it's not something they traditionally do....yeah

Black girls don't give a fukk tho

 

[Ronnie Lott]

I approached guys in high school. I got called ugly so many times. But all I did was take my glasses off and get my braces removed...nothing changed clothing wise....still wore my Dragonball Z shirts, still rappin and selling mixtape singles , still drawing anime on the science lab boards and so forth. Once that happened then I got hit on in high school. Sh*t made no sense so I turned them all down. I looked the same with or without my glasses. Same hazel eyes, same clothes, the same chick in the school orchestra. Hell I noticed the black guys in school wanted the black girls that were fast, dressed like grown women and would f*ck anyone and had children. I remember getting made fun of for not having children or having sex in high school and that played a role in me not even wanting to go up to guys.
Fast forward I'm honestly tired of making that effort, but it's good to feel wanted you know? Now that my body has matured and I got the red lipstick thing going men straight up :newdaye:...........but don't say sh*t and lick lips and giggle and show their teeth lookin like Stevie J n sh*t......

But if Jason Mamoa came into an Aldi grocery store or while I'm working squats at Snap Fitness hell I'd be all :beyoncethirst:.........................:freakroman:....I would DEFINITELY APPROACH!!!

So basically you were on some spiteful/vengeance type of shyt

I sense that you primarily date non black men, am I correct

 

[philmonroe]

The argument is that she's not smiling and flirting and engaging in convo. Don't move the goals mam.

My only point is, take the good with the bad if your a female. The problem is women get to pick and choose when their helpless and when they are capable. You want it 50/50 until it's not convenient to you, then you revert back to tradition.

I'm all for men courting a certain way. But sometimes when the shoe is on the other foot women take the easy way out and have women and programmed men at their defense at every turn.

Stop acting like this is an equal society. Most women aren't blamed for their short comings.

If your lonely it's cause it's not good men not cause it's something you could do better or different.

If you feel like you need the man to pay on the first date cool, you can pay on the second and tell him that. Or you set up the next date for someplace that he likes. Those actions would make you respect him less? Proly not.

But I guess none of those scenerios crossed your mind. That's my point about playing both sides. You become helps less to even think for yourself.

I know you on some bullshyt with that being obedient and following his lead all the times comment, so I'm not gonna address it.

Yeah I agree with bold. Only a complete moron would think some random chick taking time out of her day to talk to him for any extended time if she don't have to didn't want him to ask for the info. Now if a dude don't do nothing with that that's on him but the scenario ole girl you quoting making up isn't unlike some of these other dudes that get too stupid with their points and make you not take them seriously.

 

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So basically you were on some spiteful/vengeance type of shyt

I sense that you primarily date non black men, am I correct

I don't see anything spiteful about it. Why would you date someone who turned you down from the get go? To me that makes no sense. And dating no I haven't dated anyone yet. Haven't met anyone that has really caught my eye

 

[Trapperman Dave]

I don't. I don't want to be rejected, men are used to it lol.

So thats y u aint pm me them digits

 

[Trapperman Dave]

They have no reason to approach unless you a celeb of some fashion