SPIN: Do you keep your guard up when in a relationship?

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Has she ever been married

Theres levels to it but ultimately if u dont feel comfortable keeping it 100% with someone or trusting someone (within reason) u shouldnt be with them.

lol no she's never been married. I think she has this textbook idea of "wife" i.e. stepford, always smiling and perfect image that must be portrayed in front of husband.

What I wouldn't give to be there first time she farts in front of him

As well I mentioned about sharing your insecurities, even the bible says Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with the woman who lies in your embrace guard the words of your lips.

and it goes for both genders

I agree to an extent that you shouldn't share anything with anyone which you don't want multiple people to know and yes you should be okay to walk away from someone if push comes to shove....

but surely there is a line. This person is not a stranger or an acquaintance, at the very least they should know what your siblings know about you and maybe a bit more that your siblings and closest friends never will know. Isn't that intimacy?

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Yep, I've developed the ability to keep people just close enough that they don't feel like I have my guard up, but just far enough away that if they fukked me over somehow it wouldn't bother me too much.

It's kinda a double edge sword tho because although no one can really hurt me, I don't feel like I could really put my all into a person even if I felt they deserved it.

That's what I'm saying, then aren't you cheating yourself out of what could be the most incredible relationship of your life?

I never let anybody inside my head and I share what I want to share.It's not a guard, it's just maintaining privacy. I don't like to burden anyone else with my shyt

That's an interesting way to look at it

But it still has that same problem of @Smoke won't it be that you are in a relationship but in reality you are alone?

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

That's what I'm saying, then aren't you cheating yourself out of what could be the most incredible relationship of your life?



That's an interesting way to look at it

But it still has that same problem of @Smoke won't it be that you are in a relationship but in reality you are alone?

I wouldn't be in a relationship that I wasn't invested in, but it's still good to keep certain things and thoughts to yourself

 

[Jhoon]

mystery in marriage

Some ladies are quite crazy. Single people are always telling the world how they feel. I know a woman, cant find a "good man", yet always talking about folks in marriages.

 

[Easy-E]

:mjbats:Dont tell your wife and the mother of your kids that ur Batman, brehs

mystery in marriage

 

[KOOL-AID]

Yep, I've developed the ability to keep people just close enough that they don't feel like I have my guard up, but just far enough away that if they fukked me over somehow it wouldn't bother me too much.

It's kinda a double edge sword tho because although no one can really hurt me, I don't feel like I could really put my all into a person even if I felt they deserved it.

who hurt you...was she skinny :mjlupecry:

 

[-DMP-]

Lol why would you take advice from a single female.

That's like taking driving lessons from stevie wonder.

-DMP-

 

[HoloGraphic]

Letting your guard down is asking to get KO'd

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Lol why would you take advice from a single female.

That's like taking driving lessons from stevie wonder.

-DMP-

Why is the mystery thing so funny though?



Guys here asking if women do number 2, maybe you don't want to know for sure or have evidence that your wife really does. That's part of the mystery. It's a lot of work on her part but

 

[KOOL-AID]

Why is the mystery thing so funny though?



Guys here asking if women do number 2, maybe you don't want to know for sure or have evidence that your wife really does. That's part of the mystery. It's a lot of work on her part but

are u bald???

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

are u bald???

how did you know


Here, look

Spoiler

what kind of question is that

 

[re'up]

Yep, I've developed the ability to keep people just close enough that they don't feel like I have my guard up, but just far enough away that if they fukked me over somehow it wouldn't bother me too much.

It's kinda a double edge sword tho because although no one can really hurt me, I don't feel like I could really put my all into a person even if I felt they deserved it.

Thats more or less me, not exclusively in a formal relationship, but in dealing with people in general, and women specifically, I can be charming, vulnerable, do the self disclosure thing, mirror emotions, and bring people close to me, and genuinely like them….while not getting close enough, to really be hurt or disappointed, if they let me down….it's more then a little vacant and kind of apathetic, and quality that is valuable, but I definitely don't always like about myself. I kind of am dumbfounded and slightly envious of people who trust and belief in others so much, they are really hurt and shocked by their actions….but that kind of bond is really appealing to me in a lot of ways.

 

[KOOL-AID]

how did you know


Here, look

Spoiler

what kind of question is that

lmao srry, I was tryin to see if you had natural hair.

 

[Mowgli]

Keeping your guard up translates to making the person you claim to love leave you. If you're keeping your guard up dint get in a relationship.

Keeping your guard up means you're sleeping with your enemy. Which is stupid. Love hard or

 

[Groanman]

I remember an old man told me a long time ago that no matter the tone of the conversation, the MAN has to be stronger than the WOMAN.

He went on to explain that women are emotional creatures.
And if you're not careful, you'll find yourself wondering why the relationship didn't work out.





That being said, it reminded me of what I heard from a comedian.

He said that you not only have to protect your relationship from your woman, you must protect your woman from your woman.


In other words, NEVER behave like that fat fakkit McDonalds dude who wanted his money.