SPIN: It is amazing to me how ILLOGICAL men are when it pertains to the opposite sex

[ndthentherewasx]

Some of us were programmed differently




In regards to that other thread, pay for the extra to hit and then split


Or bush the broad, that ship ain't going anywhere

 

[Turbulent]

If i invited a chick to do something free or very affordable (coffee, etc) for our first date and she told me no because it's not extravagant or expensive enough, i would instantly be turned off. If what I'm proposing isn't cool/fun enough for her that's alright, she can either propose something free or invite me somewhere. If i ask a woman out though chances are she's VERY attracted to me so very little chance she'd react that way. Women who like you a lot and feel a strong attraction are not trying to fukk everything up. Men need to go towards women who really feel them like that

 

[Emoryal]

Women date up men date whatever is comfortable

 

[The Fade]

Just noticed the only chicks I ever loved came from money and didnt care about this shyt. Always getting me stuff before I could tell them no, but I made sure to even it out quick. They even knew my background but damn.. good times .

Only broke women were nit picky about finances (but they're wired to because it's in their nature for a come up and for a man to elevate them) and they were flaky as shyt.

But it depends, women all have a type a of dude they would let coast for free, and another type they put through the ringer. If you the second type then you gotta ask yourself is it really worth it? Especially if you got to smash a chick who was in better standing and then hooked you up with breakfast too . This is why I refuse to serial date now, I've been with such quality women to let myself act like I'm on a job interview when we're just hanging out. We dont gotta smash but damn nikkas is human too

 

[Cabbage Patch]

Ummm duh! Who's trying to be uncomfortably married lol? Yall kill me with this nonsense. Both people need to be stable on several levels- emotionally, spiritually, and yes, financially.

Folks please get your life in order before dating. Then when you do find someone youll be able to spend the suggested 20 on the girl you claim you like but wont take out because 10 of that 20 would go towards her.

Folks please understand that if 10 is too much, for whatever reason, for you to spend on someone then its best not to ask them out. The only thing worse than #wastehistime is #wasteyourowntime

If everyone had to wait to be stable/life in order, no one would date. But I understand the point you're making.

I've never let a man pay for me on the first date. I've always gone dutch.

For long term relationships, sometimes the guy will pay for dinner, I'll pay for breakfast. Sometimes vice versa.

For those who are insistent on paying for everything, I cover the tip -- and I make sure it's generous.

My philosophy boils down to 'I am independent and I own myself.' I'm not worried about how much he spends. I'm worried about:

- how does he treat me? does he walk ahead, behind, beside? does he look me in the eye? is he there, or elsewhere?
- what does he talk most about? himself, his family, his goals, his dreams, his ex, his current? sex? us?
- how is his driving? is he a safe driver or reckless? can he concentrate with a hand down his front? does he obey traffic laws? does he run yellow lights?
- what is the condition of the inside of his car? (not the car itself) his home? (again, not the home itself)

- how does he treat other people? staff? his friends? his family? animals? (this is the biggest one) a man who treats you like gold but everyone else like shyt is fronting and needs to be avoided.

- does he notice things? what is his reaction when he notices them? (this applies to interracial as well as same race)

- does he drink? if he drinks, how much does he consume, and what does he consume? can he hold his liquor?
- does he smoke? is it casual or is he unable to function without a twig in his hands or mouth? how does he treat the ash?
- is his phone on or off?
- since all people lie, what are the nature of his lies? (each woman's threshold, like each man's, is different.)


All of this is more important than how much is spent on an initial date. Again, brehs, a woman has made up her mind within 3 seconds of meeting you about where she wants you to fit in her life. Spending a bill isn't going to budge that. Your chemistry with her is what gets you in or out.

OP do you really want this girl, or is she merely a challenge to be bartered down now that she's told you the price of her time? Do what you want, but realize no fruit is sweeter than the plum which can't be obtained, no flesh more bitter than the worms infesting it all along.

 

[DjBhaled]

Most nikkas don't equate the social conformity aspect of relationships with the logical aspect of relationships essentially meaning as a man you are expected to fund the dates, but logically this doesn't make sense because if I'm going to spend my money for entertainment purposes I should ENJOY it, nikkas is spending money on Broads they can't spend 10 minutes of in depth conversation with but have no problem throwing away bread. As a man who's not rich or middle class you really have no stock in the dating market unless you have high tier looks or clout your options will be limited instead of looking at it as a obstacle look at it as a motivation to get where you want to be in life

 

[The Fade]

- how does he treat other people? staff? his friends? his family? animals? (this is the biggest one) a man who treats you like gold but everyone else like shyt is fronting and needs to be avoided.

My biggest as well.

I dont even mind paying for dates to be honest, if she drove out of her way fair enough. If my budgeting is good and shes really into me, I'll do it for some bonus points. Depends on what type of vibe I'm picking up. It's just when it becomes more about money and finances, rather than good experiences together (outside of sex too). But If i'm low on funds I tend to not date anyway, unless I know someone who is insistent on seeing me and doesnt care

But I know to carry myself as best as possible because that's how I want the woman I date to be. I'd rather not date at all than be a burden to someone

 

[Westcoastnative]

Women have a lot of conditions when it comes to unconditional love.

All men need is to feel attraction or chemistry.

That's pretty much what it boils down to.

I don't know a single man who rejected a woman for being broke.

A rich man would date a broke chick if he found her attractive enough. A lot of men like the idea of 'saving' a woman and 'giving her the world and everything she wants'.

A rich woman would NEVER date a broke man; most women date men within their income bracket or higher.

 

[Cabbage Patch]

Women have a lot of conditions when it comes to unconditional love.

All men need is to feel attraction or chemistry.

That's pretty much what it boils down to.

I don't know a single man who rejected a woman for being broke.

Women need to feel attraction/chemistry as well, but most women are not in a position to marry down. They have to marry up.

After marrying up, they can get their Victoria Gotti/Kris Kardashian on and fukk the Dominican groundskeeper/hairdresser.

If they choose to marry 'down' ... but neither of those Rothschild chicks ever married their Negroes, and Diana was murdered before she could tell Dodi 'I do.' I think Elizabeth Taylor, Halle and Britney are the only ones to go all the way. Cher, Toni Braxton and Vivica just dated publically and with no fukks given.

 

[Cabbage Patch]

A rich man would date a broke chick if he found her attractive enough. A lot of men like the idea of 'saving' a woman and 'giving her the world and everything she wants'.

A rich woman would NEVER date a broke man; most women date men within their income bracket or higher.

Depends on how they got their riches, and their goals.

Boy toys and gigolo lifestyle is real, and real sweet. I have a feeling it is much more lucrative than female sugar babying, longer shelf life.

I think you may be right about remarrying, though. I don't have stats. It's just suspicious to me when a Gloria Steinem type doesn't marry equal or down. Rich people marrying other rich people is like poor marrying other poor --it's all they know.

 

[rbksNgirbauds]

If everyone had to wait to be stable/life in order, no one would date. But I understand the point you're making.

I've never let a man pay for me on the first date. I've always gone dutch.

For long term relationships, sometimes the guy will pay for dinner, I'll pay for breakfast. Sometimes vice versa.

For those who are insistent on paying for everything, I cover the tip -- and I make sure it's generous.

My philosophy boils down to 'I am independent and I own myself.' I'm not worried about how much he spends. I'm worried about:

- how does he treat me? does he walk ahead, behind, beside? does he look me in the eye? is he there, or elsewhere?
- what does he talk most about? himself, his family, his goals, his dreams, his ex, his current? sex? us?
- how is his driving? is he a safe driver or reckless? can he concentrate with a hand down his front? does he obey traffic laws? does he run yellow lights?
- what is the condition of the inside of his car? (not the car itself) his home? (again, not the home itself)

- how does he treat other people? staff? his friends? his family? animals? (this is the biggest one) a man who treats you like gold but everyone else like shyt is fronting and needs to be avoided.

- does he notice things? what is his reaction when he notices them? (this applies to interracial as well as same race)

- does he drink? if he drinks, how much does he consume, and what does he consume? can he hold his liquor?
- does he smoke? is it casual or is he unable to function without a twig in his hands or mouth? how does he treat the ash?
- is his phone on or off?
- since all people lie, what are the nature of his lies? (each woman's threshold, like each man's, is different.)


All of this is more important than how much is spent on an initial date. Again, brehs, a woman has made up her mind within 3 seconds of meeting you about where she wants you to fit in her life. Spending a bill isn't going to budge that. Your chemistry with her is what gets you in or out.

OP do you really want this girl, or is she merely a challenge to be bartered down now that she's told you the price of her time? Do what you want, but realize no fruit is sweeter than the plum which can't be obtained, no flesh more bitter than the worms infesting it all along.

Bro I nexted the chick when she told me she wasn't going on a free date. This thread isn't about her per se, but how logical women are in relation to men and how illogical we are pertaining to them. Generally speaking of course.

 

[Fandroid]

Ummm duh! Who's trying to be uncomfortably married lol? Yall kill me with this nonsense. Both people need to be stable on several levels- emotionally, spiritually, and yes, financially.

Folks please get your life in order before dating. Then when you do find someone youll be able to spend the suggested 20 on the girl you claim you like but wont take out because 10 of that 20 would go towards her.

Folks please understand that if 10 is too much, for whatever reason, for you to spend on someone then its best not to ask them out. The only thing worse than #wastehistime is #wasteyourowntime

who the fukk is talking about marriage?

Are you saying men should give women things in a supposed marriage, while not actually being married?

dating is NOT marriage.

A man should spill his bank account for someone he doesn't even know like that.


Don't pretend you had this level of entitlement when gushing over the local pretty boy.

 

[Fandroid]

The hell? How am I in my feelings? Im giving good advice. And you definitely inplied Im only married for finances like I cant finance my own fine dining habits. Im just saying youre partially correct. Finances are a MAJOR part of marriage and should be treated as such. No shame in that.

who the fukk is talking about marriage?

OP talking about a casual stroll in the park with some chick and you talking about a fukking marriage.

Goddamn.

 

[DjBhaled]

who the fukk is talking about marriage?

OP talking about a casual stroll in the park with some chick and you talking about a fukking marriage.

Goddamn.

Of course she lined up a simp nikka and she only speaking from her experiences she can’t speak for the average man when the average female finnesses nikkas for their next meal

 

[Luke Cage]

Ummm duh! Who's trying to be uncomfortably married lol? Yall kill me with this nonsense. Both people need to be stable on several levels- emotionally, spiritually, and yes, financially.

Folks please get your life in order before dating. Then when you do find someone youll be able to spend the suggested 20 on the girl you claim you like but wont take out because 10 of that 20 would go towards her.

Folks please understand that if 10 is too much, for whatever reason, for you to spend on someone then its best not to ask them out. The only thing worse than #wastehistime is #wasteyourowntime

See? A man would never make a statement like this. Finance isn't part of the equation. That is conditional love through and through. But that being said. I don't really disagree with this attitude. I just think it's impossible for a woman to love anyone but their children unconditionally. True love is only possible for a male but true love has also been romanticized in Hollywood to make us think that it's the best kind of love. Not always the case.