spin off: if your best friend tells you he is gay
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It's different breh.
90% of my conversations with the guys I developed friendships with in college and when I was early in my 20's revolved around females and sports. I mean, now it's different and we talk about a host of other shyt, but back then, our relationships were formed talking about women we fukked, wanted to fukk, or sports banter.
So if all of a sudden, my good friend is telling me he's not into women, I'll be like, breh, you've been bullshytting me all these years. WTF.
If the guy is a good person, I know he'll remain a good person. But
if you think I"m gonna look at him the same.
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this happened to me once. the friend wasn't gay though, he was bisexual. and what's worse is that he told me he was attracted to me 
we're still friends, but definitely not as close. it was a weird conversation when he decided to "come out". it was always one of the things i wonder how i'd respond to, like if a gay guy you know already tells you he has feelings for you. i actually handled it a lot better than i thought i would. but at first i could believe what he was telling me. in the back of my head, i was thinking "is this guy trying to tell me he likes me sexually? no no, that can't be it!" i simply told him i'm not attracted to men and we left it at that. i didn't expose his secret to anyone minus you guys and a close female friend of mine. but i definitely had to keep him at a distance after that...
we're still friends, but definitely not as close. it was a weird conversation when he decided to "come out". it was always one of the things i wonder how i'd respond to, like if a gay guy you know already tells you he has feelings for you. i actually handled it a lot better than i thought i would. but at first i could believe what he was telling me. in the back of my head, i was thinking "is this guy trying to tell me he likes me sexually? no no, that can't be it!" i simply told him i'm not attracted to men and we left it at that. i didn't expose his secret to anyone minus you guys and a close female friend of mine. but i definitely had to keep him at a distance after that...
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The Man in the Mask
One of my best friends is gay. I knew him for like a year and a half before I found out (how he came out is a craaaazy story for another time).
He's one of the realest/most loyal nikkas I know. When I was going through a difficult time in my life, and he was one of the few people who reached out and helped me through it, so it would be wrong for me to dip out on him just because I found out he's gay
So nothing has changed, but I'd be lying if I said being around him wasn't a little weird after I found out. Only because it's still hard to believe. He's not obvious/flaming/flamboyant. He has a lot of straight friends, played football at my school, and I've never heard him talk about/hit on a man. If anything, he came across as asexual. The only reason I thought he was straight in the first place was because he always had girls on him like
before he came out, and I just assumed he was knockin most of them off 
He's one of the realest/most loyal nikkas I know. When I was going through a difficult time in my life, and he was one of the few people who reached out and helped me through it, so it would be wrong for me to dip out on him just because I found out he's gay
So nothing has changed, but I'd be lying if I said being around him wasn't a little weird after I found out. Only because it's still hard to believe. He's not obvious/flaming/flamboyant. He has a lot of straight friends, played football at my school, and I've never heard him talk about/hit on a man. If anything, he came across as asexual. The only reason I thought he was straight in the first place was because he always had girls on him like
before he came out, and I just assumed he was knockin most of them off 
For real.
Dude might be plotting for your ass.
Waiting for you to be mad about a chick and you on some "...Damn, these females are fukking crazy..." shyt and he start rubbing your thigh and whispering soft nothings in your ear.....
wtf is Beasley doing?!!!
Ol "It'll be alright, baby" knee rubs ass nikka
He did. Came out in our junior year of high school. I stopped talking to him for months 
Eventually I let it go. Not only do we go back to the sandbox, his parents are my godparents. Our older sisters & brothers were tight growing up too.
It helps that he's isn't flamboyant. When we out & about, bytches be thinking he straight & be choosing & I be like
Eventually I let it go. Not only do we go back to the sandbox, his parents are my godparents. Our older sisters & brothers were tight growing up too.It helps that he's isn't flamboyant. When we out & about, bytches be thinking he straight & be choosing & I be like
HelgaPataki
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this happened to me once. the friend wasn't gay though, he was bisexual. and what's worse is that he told me he was attracted to me
ever met frank ocean
i recently discovered one of my close friends has been fukking transsexuals.... dude doesnt know that i know......
i know that one shouldnt go by stereotypes but hes an armed robber/stick up kid thats known for putting in work.....smh dudes married with two kids.... last person i would have suspected
i know that one shouldnt go by stereotypes but hes an armed robber/stick up kid thats known for putting in work.....smh dudes married with two kids.... last person i would have suspected
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As long as he treats me the same and he doesnt turn into a over the top, out there homo then how can i not still be friends?
i had this happen to me 
....dude came out to me like 2 weeks after we graduated from hs...there were some signs starting after winter break senior year but i ignored them because he talked about p*ssy so damn much and had a gf...anyways he came out and we had been friends since for about 5 years or so at the time..this was prolly one of the most adult decisions i had made up to that point but i was like "its whatever its not going to change things" but i told him if he ever came on to me in any way, consciously or unconsciously, it was a wrap..to his credit he never did but he had other issues and drama that i had to remove him from my personal circle altogether later on down the line
....dude came out to me like 2 weeks after we graduated from hs...there were some signs starting after winter break senior year but i ignored them because he talked about p*ssy so damn much and had a gf...anyways he came out and we had been friends since for about 5 years or so at the time..this was prolly one of the most adult decisions i had made up to that point but i was like "its whatever its not going to change things" but i told him if he ever came on to me in any way, consciously or unconsciously, it was a wrap..to his credit he never did but he had other issues and drama that i had to remove him from my personal circle altogether later on down the line
this is unfortunately true...because i didnt dismiss my ex-best friend cuz he was gay...he started to talking about dudes like we would talk about women
...i unfortunately learned homo slang and their meanings from him talking about it...thank the lord i never seen him do anything gay in front of me before i dismissed from my personal circle ...i did end up hooking him up with his first bf though inadvertently
HelgaPataki
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this is unfortunately true...because i didnt dismiss my ex-best friend cuz he was gay...he started to talking about dudes like we would talk about women
Way i look at it is, I dont got a problem with gay dudes. I got a problem with flamboyant dudes. My homie looks like a typical college frat dude. He could've hid that shyt for years and I NEVER would've guessed.
That don't mean I'm looking to add any more homos to my circle though
