SPIN-OFF: Is Marriage The Next Level In A Relationship?
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Goes deeper than just a law thing
permissable, but is it ideal? Permissable but is it painting a portrait of God's love for the church?
Brings your wife into constant jealousy, lack of union, etc etc.
Meh not finna turn this into some debate..I stated why i take marriage seriously, so thats all that needs to be said on my part.
Super TD Jakes
Banned
Inspired by the thread about Enrique and Kournikova.
Personally, I think that the idea of marriage as the next level in a relationship is horseshyt. People who believe it is - mostly women - are just buying into what society tells them.
Where did this idea originate? Why do we believe in it? A relationship is a relationship. Registering your commitment to each other with the gov't doesn't change anything. It just creates an illusion of stability and removes the stigma of being unmarried from a woman's life.
If you expect your man to propose to your ass at some point, keep it real. Say, "I want to have a little something something if we ever divorce and not just be left with zilch for all the years I spent with you." Or say, "my family and girlfriends look at me funny because I don't have a ring on my finger." If you want a back-up plan or care so much about the opinions of others, it's cool - just be real about it.
Personally, I think the idea that marriage is for everyone is one of the worst things that happened to humanity. It's an outdated, irrelevant legal agreement that I would agree to do for a woman I love - but then again, I don't see myself falling in love with a woman who gives a shyt about marriage
true what u said especially about the illusion of stability...imho marriage isn't the next step in a relationship but the beginning of the end
Huellz Santana
Shocking
i think so. i was at a wedding last night. it was a small affair and the people really loved each other.
the first time i knew both people personally. the preacher was going thru the bible and they were doing their vows... all I could think was "This is some serious grown up shyt rgiht here."
when done right, marriage is definitely the next step. but if either person in the relationship isn't ready to be selfless and commit their life to another person then it shouldn't happen.
too many people getting married for the wrong reasons and ruining the image of marriage.
the first time i knew both people personally. the preacher was going thru the bible and they were doing their vows... all I could think was "This is some serious grown up shyt rgiht here."
when done right, marriage is definitely the next step. but if either person in the relationship isn't ready to be selfless and commit their life to another person then it shouldn't happen.
too many people getting married for the wrong reasons and ruining the image of marriage.
what was omitted? people act like marriage is the beautiful God sanctioned Union of one man and one woman that love each other and want to be with other with the rest of their lives.a lot of relevant stuff was omitted to make this point. but, whatever
the bible says you want 50 wives? sure go for it if you aren't a church leader just make sure to take good care of them. almost makes a wife sound like a pet.
people like to idealize and romanticize what marriage is based off modern attitudes on it when historically marriage doesn't and hasn't really ever represented that to our species.
Marriage has mostly been two things to us
1. a way for men to herd together and control the women they lust after
2. a way for families to come together and merge money
modern marriage isn't and doesn't have much of anything to do with a relationship. its about forming a binding legal contract with another person to merge money, assets, and liabilities for strategic purposes. you think most people that enter marriage consider that? or do you think they've been conditioned to believe Marriage is what you do when you love someone and have been with them a while and think you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
basically we've turned marriage from its disgusting roots into a business type decision but people still look at it emotionally. signing a life long (supposed) contract off pure emotion is a recipe for disaster.
a wedding is a ceremony that's mostly for show. isn't even necessary to get married. you don't need a show and a pastor you can just go to city hall and sign some paperwork.
you think if those two people decide to end it they can walk up to that pastor and say ok we want out divorce us? nah you find out just how irrelevant that Pastor and ceremony were when you try to end a marriage because its going through legal avenues to be ended.
marriage is not your relationship. i wish people would get this because they mix both together. marriage is a binding legal contract its like two people merging and becoming one legally for strategic purposes (like a buisiness merger). marriage in modern times is entirely legal and your relationship can end but you can still remain married to keep the legal benefits of the contract.
It depends on the relationship and the people in it
Sensing now this thread is just gonna be a bunch of dudes bytching about something that supposedly doesnt concern them though. Hondo out
Sensing now this thread is just gonna be a bunch of dudes bytching about something that supposedly doesnt concern them though. Hondo out
Huellz Santana
Shocking
breh they did this in their living room with about 5 witnesses. it was the total opposite of a show
winb you make some good points at times but one day you'll realize you cant have a blanket philosophy that covers ALL situations.
really at the end of the day its DO YOU. aint nobody forcing anybody on this board or in this country to get married. all these victim ass husbands couldve said no. where's the self-accountability when it comes to these failed marriages?
So you don't think becoming one legally is something that shows love. What is funny is not getting married and staying with someone for years is more of a business decision then getting married. People don't want to get married because they don't want to lose something true freedom money.
Marriage ceremony is the celebration of the union, not the union, pls find where anyone here said otherwise
You ol "make up points to argue against" ass nikka
daboywonder2002
Superstar
i dont understand people who get married with no intentions on having kids.
You had the same exact union before you got married if you were in a committed relationship. Marriage means nothing to the actual relationship. It really only has legal ramifications.
Or maybe you can explain what dynamic does marriage add to a committed relationship that wasn't there before the marriage?