u aint shyt bytch@ScoopNScore thanks 4 the shoutout !!!
It's rally nice to be a female poster and get respect from my fellow male posters. Thank you to all the male posters who show me respect here as well.
and i want ya 
we can do it the easy way or the hard way 
u forgot urself
also @Rawtid and @DarlingNikki also make laugh :diddy:
cant forget about @Phoenix_Knightly23 dats my german brehette
@MekaCatt aint rly bout the jokes but when she isi be seein u lowkey partaking in the fukkery
@Elle Driver @honestly? also keep a breh laughin
and its a cpl females in particular that only post in the female thoughts thread but whenever i go in it they get me
forgot about @SiickCurllyGurl
and @BillCosbyAteMyHomework
shytt, id say most females on this forum got a good sense of humour. perhaps yall nikkas is just mad
btw i know i just named like all the female postersi wasnt tryna cape i swear
What Im saying is money isn't high on your list of priorities, saying it doesnt matter at all is being dishonest. So why you aint smash this clown yet?
In all honesty yes, because unless it's an arranged marriage then why even waste time snooping about? I think you're giving yourself too much credit to even mention the words: "wait until we get closer to marriage" as if the building up of marriage is something that is so simple that you can even plan ahead.
cause Steve Harvey said 90 days. Lmmfao!!What Im saying is money isn't high on your list of priorities, saying it doesnt matter at all is being dishonest. So why you aint smash this clown yet?
I didn't say it was my business but it's important and you need to know from the jump if the person your dating has sound financial principles. Nahhhh you don't wait until you're close to combining finances with someone to find out they suck with money. That's stupid.
Take advice from a man thats been divorced brehettes.
Tbh this argument is invalid on both sides, I've never been married and I'm assuming that you're not married.
But... what if he has everything else you're looking for.
I think if you see 'potential' in a man, it's ok to date him while he's broke.
If you always wait for the 'perfect' package to come around, you'll be...
I admit that sometimes I do date 'down,' but that's because, I'm only interested in a God-fearing brother who has all the personality qualities I'm looking for. I really don't enjoy being the more 'dominant' one in the relationship, and I've noticed that when I do date 'down' I'm making most of the decisions and basically sitting in the drivers seat.... but what should a sister do? Finding your equal (financially speaking) or someone who earns more isn't as easy as it sounds when you're looking for a specific type of brother.
i agree that the numbers aren't in your favor, but when the women aren't even looking for right men; it nullifies your point. i mean all of this really goes back to grade school, that's the potential i'm talking about. there's a lot of black boys that start off extremely well in school, but because of shame they receive; many of them switch up to become whats popular. i know that's weak on our behalf, but we're talking about boys who just want to be liked. if some how girls could just popularize the average decent black male (who isn't a comedian, thug, underachiever, etc) it would turn out much better for black women in the long run. not to mention, women are just fukked in the head. most of us realize at an early age, we have more success treating you like shyt, then we do treating you like a so called queen.
and you date down because you like being in the drivers seat. you have no faith in black men in the drivers seat. this is like some deep seeded shyt passed down from our traditional powerless in america. i don't fully blame women either because most black men don't know what the fukk leadership entails. like i look at all these dumbass threads on coli about how how to bag a girl. but i notice you'll never see a thread on here about how to actually keep a woman. like nikkas wanna be masters of fukking a chick, but rookies at keeping her.
im just sick of it, cus both genders are on bullshyt. black women dont feel like their collectively our women at all, rather combatants out to challenge and damage us. and nikkas have decided wholesale that they refuse to provide and make life easier for the GOOD women in our race, cus we all know thats tricking and simping
I agree with some of your points; for instance, it's true that young black men are shamed and directed in the wrong direction from a young age. However, it goes far beyond 'black' women or simping. The black community as a whole are systematically targeted to make them believe that they're best at entertainment, as opposed to gaining academic achievement. But that's another topic, and I don't want to digress. Let's get back to the dating world; girls dating 'bad' boys is not exclusive to the black community -- it's something all young girls are attracted to, because at that stage, the dopamine chemicals released in their brain is activated much quicker when they experience high and low levels of emotion. A 'nice' guy only gives them one emotion, whereas the bad guy is able to give them a variety of emotions; raging from extremely good, all the way to intense anger. The young girl confuses this with 'love' because of all the chemicals being released in her brain. This isn't a 'black girl' thing, it's a young girl thing.Thankfully, many girls grow out of this stage, but some stay addicted to the highs and lows.. forever.
Whenever I see guys talking about trapping those types of girl, I truly feel sorry for them. They're spending hours going after someone who is mentally unstable. Someone who suffers from chemical imbalance isn't a great catch.
And no, I don't like being in the driver's seat.
I'd happily give that to my husband.
Anyway, even if I married someone who didn't earn as much as me...
I'd let him think he had the driver's seat.
I know how much 'power' means to you guys.
