ok check this...one of my nikkaz and his wife has an agreement where as long as his wife cooks and clean the kitchen every night he'll clean the rest of the house. Now thing is their having problems cause now the female feels some type of way cause she notice that she working and coming home and cooking and cleaning kitchen everyday but he only really cleans on the weekends cause during the week as he says the house doesn't need that much cleaning.i told the nikka if she agreed she can't get mad now and no renegotiating and on some real shyt i don't see whats wrong with that agreement.whats y'all thoughts and would any of y'all agree to that type of an agreement?
Splitting house duties...
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I made the agreement to cook every night and buy groceries/meal plan, but he has to wash the dishes/pots each night. We made this cause I cook better and this gives us both equal free time.
Scust@only cleaning on the weekends. Most households need a few mins of picking up things, making the bed, 1 load of laundry etc. on week nights so that weekends can be devoted to actual fun and relaxation.
Scust@only cleaning on the weekends. Most households need a few mins of picking up things, making the bed, 1 load of laundry etc. on week nights so that weekends can be devoted to actual fun and relaxation.
i think that's what might be the problem now that you say it yeah i mean the regular straightening up during the week is about all he do all week i guess but they should still have time for fun and things on weekends they crib aint but so big he should be able to clean the whole crib in at least an hour or two and he said thats why he made the agreement cause he hates dishes and not that good of a cook but don't mind doing all the other things
lol @ no re negotiating...like its a legally binding contract or some shyt.
i wash my own clothes...and ill take out the trash. everything else the female gotta do. fukk i look like washin dishes n shyt.
i wash my own clothes...and ill take out the trash. everything else the female gotta do. fukk i look like washin dishes n shyt.
damm my dude wash your own clothes and take out trash….yeah your single
What is wrong with talking and compromising? Who can't compromise on chores?
We not talking about core values like fidelity, raising kids, financials,.... we talking about chores
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What's wrong with a rotation? This month we swap. Next month we swap back...
I'm single so I do all of it by myself... they should be grateful that they have someone to share chores with...
We not talking about core values like fidelity, raising kids, financials,.... we talking about chores
...What's wrong with a rotation? This month we swap. Next month we swap back...
I'm single so I do all of it by myself... they should be grateful that they have someone to share chores with...
What is wrong with talking and compromising? Who can't compromise on chores?
We not talking about core values like fidelity, raising kids, financials,.... we talking about chores
What's wrong with a rotation? This month we swap. Next month we swap back...
I'm single so I do all of it by myself... they should be grateful that they have someone to share chores with...
damm dude when you do get someone she gonna hit you with the same thing you just posted and you gonna realize you just compromised yourself into a whole lot of "damm my dude I'm doing this on a sunday….fux it football today"
Maybe she should stop complaining and being upset that she choose the harder chores and do what she agreed to do.What is wrong with talking and compromising? Who can't compromise on chores?
We not talking about core values like fidelity, raising kids, financials,.... we talking about chores
What's wrong with a rotation? This month we swap. Next month we swap back...
I'm single so I do all of it by myself... they should be grateful that they have someone to share chores with...
Then maybe she should stop complainingand being upset that she choose the harder chores and do what she agreed to do.
Sometimes you fail to see the forest for the trees... There is nothing wrong with being wrong... Especially when you are willing to reflect and correct...
They have to find a balance that fits BOTH their lifestyles... and if it means sharing the burden, what is wrong with that?
Yeah thats great and all but it sounds like she picked cooking which she thought was going to be easier and now she trying to renege.
Yeah thats great and all but it sounds like she picked cooking which she thought was going to be easier and now she trying to renege.
So why can't she revise her role in the home?
That's why you marry an OCD neat freak. Whatever you do, it's not the right way and they take over
"Bae, what are you doing? You scrub clockwise. Here let me show you."
*starts scrubbing demonstration*
"Okay..yeah....ok..yeah. Got it"
*starts scrubbing exactly like she did it*
"No. You have to take the scrub and......You know what? Just move out the way, I got it"
Plus....
When she's running around the house doing the homely duties in some tights and a T
"Bae, what are you doing? You scrub clockwise. Here let me show you."
*starts scrubbing demonstration*
"Okay..yeah....ok..yeah. Got it"
*starts scrubbing exactly like she did it*
"No. You have to take the scrub and......You know what? Just move out the way, I got it"Plus....
When she's running around the house doing the homely duties in some tights and a TLike a child throwing a tantrum when they dont get what they want. Go ahead and cave in right
Like a child throwing a tantrum when they dont get what they want. Go ahead and cave in right
Saying, "hey baby, this kitchen work is stressing me out to the max...what do you think about me doing the laundry, bathroom, and bedrooms this month?" is throwing a tantrum like a child?
Y'all gotta stop being unreasonable... sometimes folks need a break... if you wanted reprieve from something and you went to your partner looking for it, you would expect some sort of understanding...