starting to think empathy is overrated

[BaldingSoHard]

I went through this a few months back and I'm just now finally getting out of the bubble of hatred. Don't let it consume you man, anger for everyone is more destructive to you than anyone else.

Empathy is the most important human emotion in my opinion. If everyone possessed it in its truest form, there would be very little conflict. And even if there was conflict, it would be resolved quickly.

Understanding however that most people do not possess it to an extent where they are constantly applying it is important. This means you can treat people accordingly and give empathy to those who deserve it. Always be empathetic, but reserve action to those who are important. The rest, just let it go. You can understand their situation, feel sorry for them, but realize that they ultimately aren't worthy of your respect. It doesn't mean you hold contempt, just that you respect yourself and your time.

Bill Cosby had a quote that went along the lines of " I don't know the key to success, but I know the key to failure is trying to please everybody".

Release the hatred for the world bro, and focus on the love for the important things in your life. Career, family, health, friends and ultimately living the best life you can.

Good luck breh, and don't let people's perceptions of you being a big ass black dude get you down. Jealousy is a viral thing

This
Is
The
shyt

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Some of you need to pick who you show kindness to better and slow your roll. Being uncaring and turning off your emotions towards people won't get you anywhere in life and it's not the answer to feeling like you've been rejected by society.

Having this attitude could lead to you missing out on special people that could turn your outlook around. I read a lot of post on here with people complaining about people starting conversations with them, they hate every body, and they seem to brag about being anti-social. That's the wrong path to take.

 

[blase_chic]

Polishing a sinking ship

That's the conclusion I've come to.

 

[Dont@Me]

So the solution is to either be successful and succeed which I don't feel like I have the mental stability to achieve, or to hang it up and end this shyt because of this torturous cycle of being ruled by my emotions and sensitive to every little energy i come across. I don't know if I can be conditioned to ignore and block these energies. This quality has always followed me since birth and I don't know if I could change.

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

So the solution is to either be successful and succeed which I don't feel like I have the mental stability to achieve, or to hang it up and end this shyt because of this torturous cycle of being ruled by my emotions and sensitive to every little energy i come across. I don't know if I can be conditioned to ignore and block these energies. This quality has always followed me since birth and I don't know if I could change.

You don't want to kill yourself I know that much.

If it's affordable or within your budget, please see a therapist.

 

[GodsPerspective]

This
Is
The
shyt

I appreciate it breh

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

Bible basically says humans ain't shyt too. Give it a try.

 

[nkb97]

I hear what you're saying.

But, IMO, you're looking at it wrong.

Having the ability to make people comfortable... to get them to lower their guard and be genuine in your presence... that's a gift. I know because I've cultivated the same gift.

Be careful with what you said, though, about The only answer is to capitalize off their ignorance and insecurity. That might seem like the way to go in the short term but ultimately it will lead to a life of empty relationships, and you will eventually manipulate and hurt someone who genuinely cares about you, only to find that you were searching for that genuine connection in the first place. Again, I've been there.

I'm gifted!!

 

[Coolin']

I’m 5 years late, but agree 100%.

 

[Hater Eraser]

Very empathic here. Hard to accept but everybody ain't as aware or cares to be made aware of others experiences and feelings. It's difficult, naturally being considerate of others when it's not reciprocated. This world will turn yuy heartless and cold if you let it.

" I wonder if the Lord will forgive me or bury me a G
I couldn't let my adversaries worry me
And every single day it's a test, wear a bulletproof vest
And still a nikka stressin' over death
If I could choose when a nikka die, figure I'd
Take a puff on the blunt, and let my trigger fly
When everyday it's another death, with every breath
It's a constant threat, so watch yo' step
You could be next if you want to, who do you run to?
Murderin' nikkas, look what it's come to
My memories bring me misery, and life is hard
In the ghetto, it's insanity, I can't breath
Got me thinkin', what do hell got?
'Cause I done suffered so much, I'm feelin' shell-shocked "

 

[Hater Eraser]

So the way I look at it is empathy brings perspective. As black men in society we hold a monopoly on power and dominance. This causes a sense of insecurity and inferiority in the minds of others.

With that said, worrying about other people's feelings is useless, but learn to see it as a fault on their part not yours. They're the ones who aren't enlightened. They're the ones of stress out about your presence, the fault is with them and not yourself.

You don't have to be an a$$hole or be super caring to be empathic, you just have to understand and see the bigger picture at play. If people want to be scared let them. Just focus on being the best you.

" I survived reading guys like you
I'm surprised y'all think you can disguise y'all truths
I seen eyes wide as they about to shoot
You can be a hairpin off and you can trigger your roots
I wave to these haters, don't give me dap
You know the world can see just how phony you act, bruh
Y'all body language is all remedial
How could you see the difference between you and I?
My crash course was much tougher
Around friends who kill they friends
Then hug they friends' mothers
And show up at the funeral, complete with blank stares
Invisible ink, I had to read things that wasn't there
Memories may sneak down my cheek
But I could see a side eye in my sleep

Ready for it, deep breath, fill up the void
Eyes open them up, check out the coins
Still stinging from tears, they try to see you
I'm ready for earth, ready for real
Solipsistic admit it, I see you there
So it seems, so you seem
I can't tell if you're image or just the flare
In my dreams, in my dreams "