At the end of the day you either believe you shouldn't hit women (unless you're LIFE is in danger/threatened) or you don't. When I hear SAS I hear a whole bunch of beating around the bush (no pun intended) and ultimately get the impression that he has a warped view of what it means to be a victim of violence. A woman cannot say anything to a man to justify her getting hit, period. Just as a child or elderly person cannot verbally "instigate" a fight with a grown person - because they are physically not a threat, therefore there is no justification in beating the shyt out of them unless they pull out a weapon on you for instance.
Ray Rice is a world class athlete, over 200 pounds, and has impressive strength levels. There is literally nothing a woman could do to him to physically threaten him, without a weapon. There is NOTHING his fiance could have done to justify getting knocked the fukk out, end of story. If you disagree with that, I believe you have a warped view of women.