Stoic individuals with girlfriends... how do you do it?

[Solo ✧✦✧]

by choosing someone that likes how you actually are? I don't know how dudes can be in a relationship with women that complain about their personality and try to change them into something they're not.

 

[fdsfa]

lol, didn't read, ignored.

but u still read it

 

[Tombstone]

dang dude who hurt u ? u ok?

you a cac?

 

[fdsfa]

About a year and few months. I don't know, but when I'm with her I try to act as cool as possible because I know normally when I'm with my nikkas I act differently in almost a goofy obnoxious kind of way, but I don't want to be like that with her because it would possibly piss her off.

seems like her energy does something to you , are you kind of shook of her ? i think she just wants you to be your true self around her, maybe sit her down and share some stuff with her about how you feel about certain things

id suggest have a bubble bath together

 

[Selfish]

seems like her energy does something to you , are you kind of shook of her ? i think she just wants you to be your true self around her, maybe sit her down and share some stuff with her about how you feel about certain things

id suggest have a bubble bath together

My true self is an obnoxious troll who plenty of people mainly chicks said it was too immature. If she was with me like I am truly our relationship wouldn't go as far. I know it is I just tend to relax myself when I'm with her because I know it's dumb.

But I think the main issue here is me trying to plan stuff like what to do on the next date and stuff rather than enjoying ourselves and the time we have now.

 

[Turbulent]

If you were like that while getting with her then don't change. She's just looking for something to complain about. If you changed your style while being with her, that's why she's complaining. What you described doesn't sound like stoic to me. Usually women like the stoic type. Makes them feel safe and secure. So

 

[Nymbus]

You sound anxious and reversed not stoic this is a big difference

Yeah girls like that Stoic stuff... Balances them out usually

 

[fdsfa]

My true self is an obnoxious troll who plenty of people mainly chicks said it was too immature. If she was with me like I am truly our relationship wouldn't go as far. I know it is I just tend to relax myself when I'm with her because I know it's dumb.

But I think the main issue here is me trying to plan stuff like what to do on the next date and stuff rather than enjoying ourselves and the time we have now.

balance is key my friend , you can be an obnoxious troll and normal at the same time but you must be aware of how it effects people around you , i use to troll my ex alot and she let it be known that it was annoying so i kind of knew when to swtch it on and off, sometimes, overplanning your day to day activities can make you a neurotic, stressed out person who feels like you would have been better off if you hadn’t planned anything in the first place. I’ve found that people experience planning stress when they don’t understand the role that spontaneity plays in the process of implementing their plans for the day. Instead of embracing change as part of the process, they get irritated at themselves or others whenever something doesn’t go exactly according to plan, I recommend setting a limit on how much time you invest in planning and just go with the flow, you been together long enough now its been a year let your mind rest.

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

I think you're confusing stoic and boring. Dump her ass, btw, she is trying to change your nature. Next time she says you're boring tell her she's too active and care free. If she can handle the criticism maturely, trust her assessment, you might be boring and that's a problem.

 

[The Burger King]

Being "stoic" means that rather than stressing about your problems, you find a solution to them. And if you can't fix a certain problem, you accept it for what it is and move on. That doesn't sound like the person you described in your OP.

But at the same time you're saying she's frustrated because she can't "figure you out", which is good from my experience.

You need to explain your situation better, OP. :cashier:

 

[Thingsfallapart]

Tell her to either deal with it or move the fukk along. After a year and some change its too late to be trying to change some fundamental shyt about a person.

 

[Ferrum Phos]

There's nothing wrong with being aloof.

Find someone that likes you for you, and not for who they can change you into.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

Nobody who is actually "STOIC" in nature will come online to disclose this type of shiit.



Actually... nobody in an "ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP" would do that.




Fukkin' choads man i swear.

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

@MrSlyyy does OP share that girl?

He doesn't know what stoic means and is inevitably bound to share that girl, if not already doing so

 

[Derekjackson2]

Orgasms give her plenty orgasms then she won't care if you don't talk