You slander that man's name and slip this little "professionals marry professionals" in every chance you get. The only uneducated women he thought had a chance were beautiful, stunning even. Are you really gonna lie and say that professional men don't value beauty? Some men want a 'partner,' others want a 'help-meet'.
@Gloxina, Do you not have professional men in your own family married to sahw/m's?
So, here’s the thing— I truly understand both sides of the debate.
I have highly educated professional women in my family who have
truly achieved greatness, but they were stressed because their spouses were not at the same level which caused some tension, especially since they were still performing traditional duties outside of work. Woman to woman-
they would not recommend.
I have power couples in my family who outsource household duties to hired help/services. True intellectual equals and we sit and pick their brains endlessly because they are always involved with major things that are happening.
I have seen the traditional family unit where the hubby was abusive and the wife had to leave with her life and the clothes on her back. The professionals (yes plural) he married later had their own, so when they discovered how ain’t shyt he was they were able to fight in court with their own money, get what they were supposed to get and move on into their own McMansions that they could afford with their careers.
I’ve also got traditional couples where somehow the guy really is an angel and the wife is a horrible homemaker. Now,
IIIIIIIII would give a man a peaceful home and well mannered children in that set up (and yes I’m judging because I love the men in my family lol). But what I will also say is that these wives are also the least stressed out of everyone so they got something right from my perspective so I ain’t judging completely
Last, but not least, I’ve had the example of SAHW who have calm, healthy marriages and homes who pour their all into their families, and you can see it in how wholesome and secure the children are. They are great examples.
(I have a big extended family so I mean it when I say I’ve seen it all).
The key thing is
when you lock into these unions. That’s the piece of info that some skip when talking about being a SAHW.
And the fact is, you still have the best chance to meet the type of guy who can provide this life in college. Even if you don’t plan to have a career outside of the home, you still want to be able to fit into certain circles and contribute to conversations with his peers and colleagues when you attend events, so ladies still need to have an education and at least some work experience (or volunteer in a space related to their field of study/expertise).
So, being a SAHW is still a goal for many (and yay for the ladies whose hubbies can make that happen!), but going to college is still a key way to encounter the right kinda guy…which is why I said the men who tell women education isn’t important are either low income or low class. They’re encouraging young women to avoid the one place where they will have the best chance of meeting men who are/will be of a certain caliber.
Basically,
@HarlemHottie , you got it right. But at a certain point a lady having your results/lifestyle may not be feasible.
Liar. His goal was increased black marriage rates ungirded by class consciousness. He explicitly loved Spelman woman and felt that like should be matched with like in matrimony. His SOLE exception was for young ("coachable") BEAUTIFUL women.
