Surgeon who makes $280K asks if she should marry her struggling actor boyfriend who made $23K last year.

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280k seems light for a surgeon? Thinking more 350-400 avg.
It's her first job, so the $280K breakdown is probably:
$30K for last 6 months of her final year of training. Fellowships end in July.
$250K for however long she worked during the year after finishing fellowship.

My wife is a surgeon and that first real paycheck is god send, but those student loans come due at the same time.
 

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Do you though? Even in the clip they mentioned that successful people tend to be around each other and date/marry each other. Lawyers marry doctors, engineers marry COOs, etc. There's a misconception on this forum that rich men are out here marrying peasant girls and librarians like it's 1860. The majority are marrying equally or similarly successful women (financially). Or marrying women from rich families. Sure some rich men marry lower/middle/etc income women but that's not the majority.
And that’s why we say that women who don’t pursue education and great careers are setting themselves up to be sitting on the outside looking in. The only men telling women education isn’t important are low income or low class dudes.
 

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So basically she's not attractive enough to get the man in her pay bracket, excuse me, above her pay bracket, that also has the looks.

It is what it is.

She should marry him. This way she can raise sons and daughters that are good with school, and money, but also have the looks of Dad
 

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So basically she's not attractive enough to get the man in her pay bracket, excuse me, above her pay bracket, that also has the looks.

It is what it is.

She should marry him. This way she can raise sons and daughters that are good with school, and money, but also have the looks of Dad
That would be the rational way to view this pairing if she actually walks in with those intentions. Lol
 

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Luke Cage breh was a struggling actor living off his wife in the beginning and things worked out in the end

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:mjgrin:
 

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Do you though? Even in the clip they mentioned that successful people tend to be around each other and date/marry each other. Lawyers marry doctors, engineers marry COOs, etc. There's a misconception on this forum that rich men are out here marrying peasant girls and librarians like it's 1860. The majority are marrying equally or similarly successful women (financially). Or marrying women from rich families. Sure some rich men marry lower/middle/etc income women but that's not the majority.

Find them in school
 

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In all seriousness

He told you he doesn’t want to work!!!

Right there Ms Surgeon thats a red flag!!

Secondly, he told u that you should pay for the mortgage because you got it

Right there Ms Surgeon thats a red flag!

It’s not what u imagine :mjlol:

Snap out of imaginary tales and open your eyes to reality

These women can have all the education and degrees in the world but when it comes to losers they can’t figure out what is wrong

This is woman number 1.2 million who can’t figure out the man u fukking isn’t shyt and won’t be shyt
 

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I think you are giving too much credit. You really think dudes are thinking about all that? :pachaha: nikkas be lookin at that ass and thinking bout that grip :russ:.

If she was thinking about all that she wouldnt even be in this position. Her issue is that her dynamic is not one that is socially acceptable. She obviously wants to be with him. But she is concerned about the looks at the hospital gala, and how other women are gonna look at her. She called these people looking for an angle to support what she wants to do and got the exact opposite.
I think the issue is it just being socially acceptable
I have seen plenty of stories like this
where the woman is the breadwinner and a man is chasing a dream business, becoming an athlete, or music
It's really about if you can handle them not making it, 500k is enough for a family
Its really about what you think is acceptable
Its always funny that a man is a bum but men regularly do this with women
its just a social construct :manny:
 

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Women are fairly new to these high paying roles that put them in the position of being the provider. They need to realize that when you make enough to hold down the finances you can decide what you want out of your partner and it doesn’t need to be money like it does for most other women. fukk what everyone else has to say, decide what you want and stay convicted with that.

She’s on the fence cuz she went after the boy toy with no ambition and now she’s feeling embarrassed talking about and bringing him around her peers. High earning men don’t care about the opinions of others so they wife up the model who can’t earn as long as she checks other boxes. She needs to decide what boxes she wants her man to check, not what others think he should check.


That is a big misconception, yeah there are some wealthy guys that will marry a victoria secret model, but the majority of wealthy men will marry a middle or an upper middle class women. The except are the men that are worth 50,100 million plus.


If she gets pregnant she will have to take time off work, now is he going to provide, or will he submit and be a stay at home husband?
 
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