Most of these women (swirlers and divesters) are of the belief that the white man and any non black man can do no wrong.
If a white dude calls a black woman a bytch or disrespects her hair, they'll say "he must have black (male) friends he learned that from". If they can't find any proof that he has black friends, they'll say he learned it from listening to ASAP Rocky or Blueface.
None of these men can be on some fukk shyt by their own accord. Even seen some of them rationalize that a single mother with a non black isn't as bad as it is with black men. Keep in mind that some of them don't care if a black man is in his child's life. The fact that he made her a mother without a ring automatically makes him filth.
If a white dude says he prefers his own women, some of them will claim that it's because they've been indoctrinated to only finding beauty in white women. Yes, many of them actually say this. Ignoring the fact that these same dudes be extra thirsty for asian women.
That's why so many of them are convinced that they're being stood up by a black man. It allows them to feel better about the situation while simultaneously keeping these same men on that godly pedestal. They'd rather not look at it as a "men of all races are shytty" to women. Much easier for them to accept.
"character over color" sounds nice. Too bad they're not following that message.