I want to say this is weird but my dad was on some similar shyt. While he didn’t do this exact thing, he basically beat into our heads that sex was bad and if we had sex we should just drop dead.
only me and my sisters though. Our brothers could do what they wanted.
Same in my household. I was heavily monitored & threatened while my brothers got the obligatory "Don't be ripping, running, & being a fool out there. I'm not raising any of your kids."
I often think that my upbringing is a huge reason why I didn't want/have any kids.
I just hope that he is putting as much or more energy into cultivating her mind, personality, & validating her (fathers set the example). I hope he isn't sending her the message that she is the total sum of her twat. B/c the moment she gives it up to the wrong guy, who only wanted sex, she's going to be in for a kick in the head/emotional turmoil. She's gorgeous and in many instances, beauty grants favoritism, etc. But it's crucial to be of substance too and possess healthy self-worth.
I'm conflicted because I feel like his intentions are good, method (SM) is raggedy. He's not doing anything that she won't find herself thanking him for later on. I know that I was grateful for my parents when I saw how rough some of my peers looked - rough w/3 teeth in their heads.
Some of these comments gave me a chuckle - "Men want pure women."
That same man risks it all for different "sluts".
-"My son can sow his oats."
This is extremely short-sighted. Kids affect men's life trajectory too. Most babydaddies regret having kid(s) with their babymommas. Sad.
- It's mindblowing that chics are foregoing sex for sucking peen or getting done in the butt. That's worse than sex IMO and I'd just pass.