Tamron Hall: “Just Because I Married A White Man Doesn’t Mean I Don’t Love Black Men”

[Antwon Mitchell]

 

[Antwon Mitchell]

Once again, women don't choose men based solely on looks.

So I guess you'd married an ugly man then if that's the case..

You keep saying it's about "assets" when it comes to these wenches picking old white geezers, but when it comes to black men that's not the case...

So what are you really saying here? Because I'm not understanding your point.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Nobody cares B.

Way back in the early days of the coli, there was a huge thread on her dating an old white dude.

 

[HarlemHottie]

So I guess you'd married an ugly man then if that's the case..

You keep saying it's about "assets" when it comes to these wenches picking old white geezers, but when it comes to black men that's not the case...

So what are you really saying here? Because I'm not understanding your point.

Please show me where I said that. Thanks.

 

[Lifejennings]

How can you hold hands & lay with the Devil and say "just cause i do this doesn't mean i dont love god

Mental illness

 

[OneTimeforTheMind]

Good for her. One of the millions of black woman out here.

 

[WonderCheeks]

She’s a high wage earner who found another high wage earner. Neither of them had children before their marriage. I would like to say I’m holding on for a black man but as I make more and am exposed to more I’m finding myself surrounded by fewer black men. Even in the community I live in (Oak Cliff, Dallas) most of the SINGLE men who come to volunteer for some of the same causes as me and have similar professions are white men. I put off having children so trying to find a childless mate that I have a lot in common with and have similar earning power is hard. I don’t even require a degree because there are plenty of black men in Dallas without degrees who out earn me and own homes and have investments. It’s just that when you don’t have kids and he has a few it can be hard to really mesh. Men with kids want women with kids because they can relate. There aren’t many single, childless black men left in my age group. I’m also attracting the older divorced men who want to have fun now that their children are grown, and that’s not fun for me.

I love black men, black men will always be my preference, but my avoiding having children and being in a community full of men with children means I’m going to be the odd woman out. Why die alone if there is someone out there for me, he may not be the same color, but if everything else falls into place economically why not?

 

[Rell Lauren]

She’s a high wage earner who found another high wage earner. Neither of them had children before their marriage. I would like to say I’m holding on for a black man but as I make more and am exposed to more I’m finding myself surrounded by fewer black men. Even in the community I live in (Oak Cliff, Dallas) most of the SINGLE men who come to volunteer for some of the same causes as me and have similar professions are white men. I put off having children so trying to find a childless mate that I have a lot in common with and have similar earning power is hard. I don’t even require a degree because there are plenty of black men in Dallas without degrees who out earn me and own homes and have investments. It’s just that when you don’t have kids and he has a few it can be hard to really mesh. Men with kids want women with kids because they can relate. There aren’t many single, childless black men left in my age group. I’m also attracting the older divorced men who want to have fun now that their children are grown, and that’s not fun for me.

I love black men, black men will always be my preference, but my avoiding having children and being in a community full of men with children means I’m going to be the odd woman out. Why die alone if there is someone out there for me, he may not be the same color, but if everything else falls into place economically why not?

You don't like Black men. You don't need an excuse to swirl. Do you. If you're insecure about your decision then you shouldn't be doing it.

 

[Lilbeast]

She’s a sell out

 

[NegaDuck]

She’s a high wage earner who found another high wage earner. Neither of them had children before their marriage. I would like to say I’m holding on for a black man but as I make more and am exposed to more I’m finding myself surrounded by fewer black men. Even in the community I live in (Oak Cliff, Dallas) most of the SINGLE men who come to volunteer for some of the same causes as me and have similar professions are white men. I put off having children so trying to find a childless mate that I have a lot in common with and have similar earning power is hard. I don’t even require a degree because there are plenty of black men in Dallas without degrees who out earn me and own homes and have investments. It’s just that when you don’t have kids and he has a few it can be hard to really mesh. Men with kids want women with kids because they can relate. There aren’t many single, childless black men left in my age group. I’m also attracting the older divorced men who want to have fun now that their children are grown, and that’s not fun for me.

I love black men, black men will always be my preference, but my avoiding having children and being in a community full of men with children means I’m going to be the odd woman out. Why die alone if there is someone out there for me, he may not be the same color, but if everything else falls into place economically why not?

This is a really good post. I understand your pain.

I live in Plano, and I'm a "high earner", with a house, investment property, investments and all that, but I have custody of my 2 kids and can't WAIT until they go to college so I can be 100% free again

In my late 30s, I don't want anymore kids, and meeting women (no matter what race) in my age range that don't have kids AND don't want any in the future is damn near impossible and I don't want to date a woman with kids because my kids will always come before theirs I'm my mind, and that's not fair.

All that said, I know I'm going to end up with a black woman, because though I date every race, it's always that true understanding missing when I date out.

Wishing you luck in your love search

 

[WonderCheeks]

You don't like Black men. You don't need an excuse to swirl. Do you. If you're insecure about your decision then you shouldn't be doing it.

I’m currently dating a black man, nice try. If this doesn’t work out I’m open to other races. I’ve always been. I want a man who is going to treat me well and can stand on his own two feet. Black, white, purple, whatever. I want a childless, economically viable man. Just like many black men want childless women, I can want a childless man. Black is my preference, if I can’t get one in black I’ll keep going.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

I can’t imagine giving a damn...

 

[Rell Lauren]

I’m currently dating a black man, nice try. If this doesn’t work out I’m open to other races. I’ve always been. I want a man who is going to treat me well and can stand on his own two feet. Black, white, purple, whatever. I want a childless, economically viable man. Just like many black men want childless women, I can want a childless man. Black is my preference, if I can’t get one in black I’ll keep going.

Nice try nothing. I'd never throw away an entire race of men because you have bad experiences or can't find what you want in your local area. That's like me saying Black women aren't shyt because most of the ones I encounter on a daily basis are the exact opposite of professional, broke and don't have shyt going for themselves. See how that works? As I said, if you have to make a defense for why you have to date outside of the race, you're the problem.

 

[Ya?]

Nice try nothing. I'd never throw away an entire race of men because you have bad experiences or can't find what you want in your local area. That's like me saying Black women aren't shyt because most of the ones I encounter on a daily basis are the exact opposite of professional, broke and don't have shyt going for themselves. See how that works? As I said, if you have to make a defense for why you have to date outside of the race, you're the problem.

The gas lighting on this site is so interesting. You are not opposed to date interracially but want to wag your finger at a bw who is open to date interracially. The truth of the matter too many black women feel like they have to be apologetic with opens up the door to losers like you to tell BW how they should feel about the men that they choose. Do you apologize to BW for every nonblack chick you have found attractive or approached ?

You dudes are real bold. Get out of here, the same way no BW has any control over your attraction towards nonbw neither can you control @WonderCheeks or speak for what she is experiencing in her dating dynamic or her attraction. Everything else you said is typical gaslighting COLI poster tactic.

Eastern European and Scandinavians are the best looking white women.

For some it is. For me it isn't. If you look good, you look good. Nothing more to it. I'm from NYC which is the melting pot on Earth. I've come across people of all colors that broke my neck from needing to get a second glance.

 

[Neuromancer]

This seems like some guilt involved.