That moment when you realize you really need to get your sh*t together...
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Cool Dr. Money
I’m Lil Jimmy but my boys call me J-Murder!
hardest thing to do is getting out of that comfort zone
Klyk21
Hate is Rising, Love is Dying....
Im here with you bro....im here with yousocial life and finances been stuck onfor a minute now fukk it tho
Zapp Brannigan
Captain of the Nimbus
They say that hell is being who you are at your peak in life meeting who you could have been if you pursued your dreams to their fullest extent.
Are you ready to meet that person? You want to meet this person in this life, or the next?
Are you ready to meet that person? You want to meet this person in this life, or the next?
Fixed
28 is not too late. There is no set age...you people really need to move past where society tells you that you need to be at.
That is part of the problem we have here, from the age of 15 on people start putting this incredible pressure on us that we need to figure out what we want to do with our lives soon or we will fall behind. HAVE to go to college at 18-19 if you want to stay on track. You HAVE to have kids by this age, marriage, house, cars, materialistic shyt that only ties you into more commitment.
BREAK the commitments and never settle. Everything is a contract...a lifestyle I refuse to live no matter what these days.
What contracts are most of us working with now?
Mortgage or Lease (Kind of hard to avoid)
Marriage, If divorced you are tied into a contract with your ex and the govt for alimony/kid payments
Cell Phone contract
Car Payment which requires insurance as well, gas if you don't have an electric
Credit card payments each month
I had the cable company out here try to tell me I needed to sign a 1 year contract to get internet and I was like
What are you offering me that makes this a deal for me? They were giving me nothing for free or at a discount...so why would I sign? I refused and a month later they softened their stance and got my service.
No wonder so many of us are broke and struggling to figure out what to do...your money is rationed out to multiple sources that by the time you need to go buy food or something you want you have to think about it.
That is part of the problem we have here, from the age of 15 on people start putting this incredible pressure on us that we need to figure out what we want to do with our lives soon or we will fall behind. HAVE to go to college at 18-19 if you want to stay on track. You HAVE to have kids by this age, marriage, house, cars, materialistic shyt that only ties you into more commitment.
BREAK the commitments and never settle. Everything is a contract...a lifestyle I refuse to live no matter what these days.
What contracts are most of us working with now?
Mortgage or Lease (Kind of hard to avoid)
Marriage, If divorced you are tied into a contract with your ex and the govt for alimony/kid payments
Cell Phone contract
Car Payment which requires insurance as well, gas if you don't have an electric
Credit card payments each month
I had the cable company out here try to tell me I needed to sign a 1 year contract to get internet and I was like
What are you offering me that makes this a deal for me? They were giving me nothing for free or at a discount...so why would I sign? I refused and a month later they softened their stance and got my service.No wonder so many of us are broke and struggling to figure out what to do...your money is rationed out to multiple sources that by the time you need to go buy food or something you want you have to think about it.
That kind of thinking in the bold is the problem. Food is FIRST!! then Shelter, Utilities and then clothing.
People want to blame society for thinking how society thinks and then get mad when it's not working. If you see society is all fukked up, why not think differently? You don't HAVE to buy cable. You don't HAVE to have a car payment. You don't HAVE to have a credit card bill either. Some things are necessities to live and others just aren't and people value the "others" over necessities and then complain when that doesn't work. Change your way of thinking but don't get mad at society.
Great thread. Keep 'em coming.
I reached that point brehs.
Woke up feeling like mad sh1t needs to change.
Health
money
mentality
relationship
Mad sh1t.
Kinda late being as though i'm 28but hey at least it happened. I aint tryna go out like
I had the moment when I was 25 and while I wished it had happened when I was younger just think of all the people who NEVER have that "moment"
I'm my own worst critic. I'm 28 too and I've putting a lot of effort into refining my whole persona. Even how I think, speak, what I say, and how I respond to people is changing. fukk what society says, I'm not on their time. I don't know what complacency feels like.
HacksawJimThuggin
All Star
I can relate because I recently went through something similar after being at a crossroads for months. I'm a partner in a small law firm and just opened my own business last week, so my plan is just now starting to come to fruition.
Putting a plan down on paper is a great start. Not only identifying deficiencies in your life, but coming up with a logical solution. It's easy to say "damn, I need to stack some paper", but sitting down and actually putting yourself on a budget and exploring additional avenues in which you can create a revenue stream for yourself is a whole different thing all together.
Obviously realizing you need to get your shyt together is the FIRST step, but actually taking that first step and putting whatever plan you may have came up with into action is by FAR the hardest.
You'll usually get some type of bullshyt from your boys about how you're "not on the scene" anymore or you been ghost; dudes on Twitter crackin jokes about how you're too good now to tweet about $200 dates and shyt; but fukk all that, the bars, nightclubs, bytches, and bottles will still be there when you get your life in order and bread lookin proper.
Another tough part is actually being realistic about the goals that you set out for yourself... there's a fine line between selling yourself short and expecting too much too soon; so you gotta find that middle ground to where your ultimate goal is actually worthy of achievement, and at the same time, not so outlandish that you might become discouraged because you didn't reach some lofty expectations that were essentially unattainable in the first place.
The good thing is though, once you put your plan in motion, shyt seems to almost go along on its own (assuming you stay disciplined). You signed up for a gym and started going every morning. Now you're starting to see some results, so it encourages you to eat better, ultimately doing wonders for your health, as well as your wallet because you're not eating out as much. Because you're taking care of yourself, your physique looks better and you got more confidence, so the hoes come flockin. So things end up compounding.
I can't speak for anyone else, but the key for me is staying on a strict schedule. Going to the gym at the same time every morning, eating meals at the same time every day if you can, etc. It lets you better manage your time and not get distracted on some "damn, I feel like I just sat down to watch Unsolved Mysteries, how the fukk did 4 hours go by just now?!" shyt.
Honestly, it sounds corny as fukk, but surrounding yourself with positive, driven people is so key. Most people got a crabs in a bucket mentality, as it's easier to TALK about what you or someone else can't do while smoking an L on the couch than actually putting a plan together and making moves to achieve it. Your blog is poppin so I'm sure you come in contact with people who are successful in the same arena, so I'd do all that I could to pick their brains and try to create a lane for yourself. But being around people who have already gone through whatever obstacles you're eventually gonna stumble upon, and made it through all that to become successful is inspiring and serves as the carrot on the stick when you start to feel doubt and think you might be in over your head.
Hope this helps.
Putting a plan down on paper is a great start. Not only identifying deficiencies in your life, but coming up with a logical solution. It's easy to say "damn, I need to stack some paper", but sitting down and actually putting yourself on a budget and exploring additional avenues in which you can create a revenue stream for yourself is a whole different thing all together.
Obviously realizing you need to get your shyt together is the FIRST step, but actually taking that first step and putting whatever plan you may have came up with into action is by FAR the hardest.
You'll usually get some type of bullshyt from your boys about how you're "not on the scene" anymore or you been ghost; dudes on Twitter crackin jokes about how you're too good now to tweet about $200 dates and shyt; but fukk all that, the bars, nightclubs, bytches, and bottles will still be there when you get your life in order and bread lookin proper.
Another tough part is actually being realistic about the goals that you set out for yourself... there's a fine line between selling yourself short and expecting too much too soon; so you gotta find that middle ground to where your ultimate goal is actually worthy of achievement, and at the same time, not so outlandish that you might become discouraged because you didn't reach some lofty expectations that were essentially unattainable in the first place.
The good thing is though, once you put your plan in motion, shyt seems to almost go along on its own (assuming you stay disciplined). You signed up for a gym and started going every morning. Now you're starting to see some results, so it encourages you to eat better, ultimately doing wonders for your health, as well as your wallet because you're not eating out as much. Because you're taking care of yourself, your physique looks better and you got more confidence, so the hoes come flockin. So things end up compounding.
I can't speak for anyone else, but the key for me is staying on a strict schedule. Going to the gym at the same time every morning, eating meals at the same time every day if you can, etc. It lets you better manage your time and not get distracted on some "damn, I feel like I just sat down to watch Unsolved Mysteries, how the fukk did 4 hours go by just now?!" shyt.
Honestly, it sounds corny as fukk, but surrounding yourself with positive, driven people is so key. Most people got a crabs in a bucket mentality, as it's easier to TALK about what you or someone else can't do while smoking an L on the couch than actually putting a plan together and making moves to achieve it. Your blog is poppin so I'm sure you come in contact with people who are successful in the same arena, so I'd do all that I could to pick their brains and try to create a lane for yourself. But being around people who have already gone through whatever obstacles you're eventually gonna stumble upon, and made it through all that to become successful is inspiring and serves as the carrot on the stick when you start to feel doubt and think you might be in over your head.
Hope this helps.