The Awkward, Black Boy Nerd and Why He Deserves a Chance

[Blackout]

Do you want the woman in the OP? No? Then why would you care what she thinks or wants. You guys make your dating lives more difficult by dwelling on women you claim you don't want anyway. I don't get it, LOL.

I care what she thinks because maybe she will get these younger women to mature earlier so we can have less of them become victims of playas.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Yet myself and countless nerdy black men have met black women who cringe upon hearing anime, video games etc. and have to put in extra effort to convince them to look past that therefore put in more effort and have more game than you.

It is what it is.

This is not why you are having trouble, and I'll leave it at that.

 

[Neil Tyson]

 

[Blackout]

This is not why you are having trouble, and I'll leave it at that.

Oh it is why many nerdy black men have to put in more effort but you wont admit it because you never want to admit any faults.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Can we dig deeper on this. What are nerdy interest?

I went to a nerdy school for computer engineering
-I build servers for fun/money
-I write short stories and poetry
-I do digital art as my biggest hobby
-I write java applets and powershell scripts to make my work life easier
-I listen to classical music when I code

Are these nerdy interest?

No women I have ever talked to has seen these as a turnoff. Maybe its because its not ALL that I do, I also go to basketball/football games, go out to eat, go out to party, go to concerts, etc.

I dunno what to tell you. Maybe one day a girl will come up to me and say "You like to draw? ewwwww fakkit "

You can articulate yourself and are in shape, to most women you would be that unicorn. A man that is in shape, getting money, artsy and all that. You got dem choosing off jump because of your build all the rest is just icing.



Also I'd consider that geeky, not really nerdy.


But if you replace that with

I read comic's
I play video games competitively
I attend con's and dress up
Im hard core into sci fi and fantasy.
I play magic weekly.


It goes from looking like a mature list of past time things to a childish one. (which technically it would be lol)

 

[Neil Tyson]

I know myself well enough that I can't fake being a thug to save my life. I never do it to black women either. Stop this slander.

@TooLazyToMakeUp1

 

[bcrusaderw]

Oh it is why many nerdy black men have to put in more effort but you wont admit it because you never want to admit any faults.

Attractive men don't have problems finding partners whatsoever. What makes a man attractive charisma, status, money, power, looks, confidence, etc. If you don't have anything that makes you attractive to the opposite sex then you will struggle. That is a fact of life for everyone. Get over it, and get used to it.

 

[Gold]

occupation? no. but it's kind of overwelming to not understand anything they are talking about when it comes to work or school, i hate feeling dumb especially because i used to be really smart. hobbies, maybe, i just cant with the hours and hours of certain videogames or computer games ever again. super smash brothers, i dont mind watching that one, but all the shooting games i just cant.

Ok I hear you, but to me that has less to do with being a nerd and more to do with being a shytty boyfriend.

You can replace "super smash brothers" with any "Hobby that I do around my gf that she doesn't find interesting".

I never invited my ex over for her to watch me customize wmic command scripts in powershell.

 

[VFib]

Oh it is why many nerdy black men have to put in more effort but you wont admit it because you never want to admit any faults.

You put in more effort because you feel you have to compensate. Just be yourself.

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

You have to get rid of this 'they don't want me anyway' attitude that you have. I think the aura you give off is the reason for your women troubles. Who wants to be around someone who doesn't have confidence in themselves? Just because they don't like your comic books doesn't mean they won't like you. I have no interest in these PS5 game consoles or whatever the F is out, but I have dated guys who liked that stuff.

contradict much? Why the fck would I wanna date someone who I can't share interest with or at least get them to try some of the things I like? I keep saying women always want you to accept their ways and flaws but aren't willing to share your interest.

 

[Gold]

You can articulate yourself and are in shape, to most women you would be that unicorn. A man that is in shape, getting money, artsy and all that. You got dem choosing off jump because of your build all the rest is just icing.



Also I'd consider that geeky, not really nerdy.


But if you replace that with

I read comic's
I play video games competitively
I attend con's and dress up
Im hard core into sci fi and fantasy.
I play magic weekly.


It goes from looking like a mature list of past time things to a childish one. (which technically it would be lol)

Well I think that comes down to finding someone you have those things in common with...

OR just knowing that "i cant attend cons and magic tournaments every week if I want to be with this girl"

Sacrifices

 

[Blackout]

Attractive men don't have problems finding partners whatsoever. What makes a man attractive charisma, status, money, power, looks, confidence, etc. If you don't have anything that makes you attractive to the opposite sex then you will struggle. That is a fact of life for everyone. Get over it, and get used to it.

Yet when a woman has a choice between two men she finds attractive and refuses to pick one because of his nerdy intersts then that shows that it's more than simply attraction because the black nerd in question would already be attractive to her.

Nice try

 

[VFib]

contradict much? Why the fck would I wanna date someone who I can't share interest with or at least get them to try some of the things I like? I keep saying women always want you to accept their ways and flaws but aren't willing to share your interest.

Show me where I said this. I'll wait.

 

[Gold]

Yet myself and countless nerdy black men have met black women who cringe upon hearing anime, video games etc. and have to put in extra effort to convince them to look past that therefore put in more effort and have more game than you.

It is what it is.

Well... don't bring up video games and anime when you meet someone.

If you bring up that stuff on day one women will assume that it defines you instead of just being a hobby/past time

If it does define you... then find someone who feels the same way about it

 

[JudgeJoeForilla]

Attractive men don't have problems finding partners whatsoever. What makes a man attractive charisma, status, money, power, looks, confidence, etc. If you don't have anything that makes you attractive to the opposite sex then you will struggle. That is a fact of life for everyone. Get over it, and get used to it.

It's not that simple. Maybe attractive black men who don't have thuggish qualities have no problems dating other races of women. But the reality is that for about 95 percent of black women(which is just an estimation based of regional observation[and I don't live in the actual ghetto lol]) a man without a thuggish demeanor is a deal breaker. You know the stereotypical black male that the media shoves down the throats of our youth. Yep these are the men that bw prefer and what's worse is he doesn't even have to have money. He can be an employed good for nothing ass wipe but he's still better than the "square" aka the p*ssy vacuum.