The Awkward, Black Boy Nerd and Why He Deserves a Chance

[Arishok]

Imma just cut @MarsPunka off. There aren't any black nerds. Black female nerds = the ugliest, most overweight, most desperate women in the black community that are so thirsty they'll accept the nerds and lames because that's all they can get. That's what she's really tryna say, so I'll say it for her. The Moniques, the Countess Vaughns, the Preciouses. That's the kinda women she's talking about. Nah. No thanks. Most black lames arent unattractive. They just don't live up to the hypermasculine standards of the black community. You clean them up, put them in a suit, put money in their pocket and they don't look too bad. So why should they get with the absolute worst looking black women. All that hyper masculine thug shyt doesn't fly in other communities. So the cute average girls over there don't see him as lame or undesirable. He's saw as normal. And you'll get some cute non-black girls liking you eventhough the cute black girls thought you were too lame and too square. That's why them nikkas hopping the fence like their lives depended on it. You're like some janky local business man trying to sell someone an inferior product for $100 and try to convince them to stay loyal to local businesses (black love) when a superior product is online for $40. Go get a black nerd that looks like Monique or Marty Khan when you can get a cute slim non-black chick. Yea no thanks.

What makes you think I think black female nerds are ugly, overweight, and desperate when I identify as a black female nerd

 

[onelastdeath]

This thread is still going?

 

[Mr Rager]

I'll start off by saying yes, it is rough being a black "nerd". We often get overlooked by the opposite sex, and get ridiculed by our black peers for not behaving a certain way. But this chick is confusing a "nerd" with a "simp". Let me explain:


Jay-Z, Notorious B.I.G., Tupac, Nas and countless other Hip Hop artists reinforced gender stereotypes by portraying themselves as hyper-masculine men who took charge of their destinies.

First off, we all used to watch these guys on TV and hear them on the radio, but some of us weren't mentally feeble enough to confuse entertainment with real life. She starts the article off by blaming MEN for her confusion about what makes a guy worth being with. Didn't bother to mention the women dancing in the videos that made guys feel like they had to act "hyper-masculine" to attract women.

By consuming these images as a teenager, I shaped my perception of masculinity; therefore, when it came time to date, I was drawn to the emotionally-stunted Thug instead of the awkward, Black Boy Nerd.

Sweet, sweet, deflection. Like I said, we all watched the same videos and heard the same songs growing up. Blame hip hop, straight out of the Cac playbook.

We were taught as little girls that if a boy liked us, he showed it by being a jerk. It stands to reason, like the book “He’s Just Not that Into You” explores, that that particular belief causes us to mistake guys’ bad behavior for affection

This is a fatherless statement. I have sisters, and our parents always told them if a guy respects you, he likes you. Again she's blaming everyone but herself for making bad decisions in men.

I wasn’t attracted to the nerdy Ernest Bakers/Steve Urkels of the world; Mr. Nice Guy in the form of a Black Boy Nerd didn’t cause my heart to go pitter-patter. He was “nice” not dangerous and somehow I perceived that as a weakness instead of strength..

Here is where one of my biggest problems is. Black "nerd" men are not all Steve Urkel types
You can be into science, math, science fiction, fantasy games and other nerdy activities without being Urkel-ish. Many black men have been into pokemon, DBZ and video games without being socially inept. At least she finally took some self responsibility for equating being "nice" with being weak.

Who was he aside from smoldering good looks...The awkward, Black Boy Nerd is a rare creature; he isn’t the epitome of masculinity,

Only "thugs" are physically attractive right
You can't watch anime then go to the gym right


But ultimately I think he’s more willing to take a chance on something meaningful instead of the Thug/Bad Boy type who manages to elude commitment.

So the truth finally comes out. She's not concerned about a man that is an independent thinker and is comfortable in his own skin, she is worried about being alone and not having a committed man. I bet if she found a "thug" willing to commit to her, this article wouldn't exist.

I’m not saying Black Boy Nerds can’t hurt us, but I do think they’re worth getting to know.

Gee thanks for deeming us worthy of your attention

Instead of mysterious and laconic, he’s nervous and available—and to me, it’s adorable...sweet available guys who are interested in getting to know me instead of wasting my time.

Notice how she mentioned a man being "available" twice. This isn't an article about a man that is a "nerd". This is about a man who will go out of his way to give her attention, commit to her, and accept her annoying habits as "cute". This isn't an article about black male and female "nerds" enjoying each other's company, because she didn't once mention what a female "nerd" like herself brings to the relationship. This is an article about her finding a simp who likes watching Harry Potter.

 

[Arishok]

That's why you gotta join beard life breh.
Ever since I started growing this shyt out, I could trade pokemon cards with brehettes and they will still fukk with me.

.....damn i look like I need some sleep

If you look like this, I can't see you having a problem with women nerd or not

 

[el_oh_el]

So you think it's bull shyt just because I said quality bm will not and are not deserving of the blame for black women's choices? That's not bull shyt it's the truth and when someone chooses a bad partner that's on them. I honestly don't see how women in 2016 can continue to be "woo'd" by lies from a man after all the bull shyt complaining bw have done over the decades. When someone makes a bad decision it's there fault. The bm black women chose to be with are at fault for the things they do but are not at fault for her decision.

I agree that quality black men should not be to blame, but they aren't in this conversation cause they will be there for what they are supposed to do.
Expecting women as a collective to wake up is also not gonna work cause you have young women raised by foolish single mothers and absentee fathers that's gonna get wooed by the same young dude that was also raised by a foolish single mother and absentee father..rinse and repeat

 

[Mr Rager]

This narrative is tiring. If you're a "unconventional" black man, then cook with the ingredients in your kitchen.

Well said

 

[havoc]

Because some men cannot sit by and watch their brothers bleed to death. Figuratively.

The Coli have you believe that all nerds have great moral conduct and can't do any wrong. Date a nikka because his a nerd and not give fukk about his personality and what he can bring to the table, brehettes.

 

[Yesterday]

What I've come to learn about black women is that they're not mad that black men don't provide what they need, what they're mad about is that the types of black men they want don't provide what they need. But instead of fixing their decisions they hold the black race accountable.

Its like a chick who only dates serial killers getting mad that the nuccas she dates just won't stop killing rather than trying out other men

 

[CinnaSlim]

@CinnaSlim @Sassy @MarsPunka and other self proclaimed nerds... how many times have been run through by aint shyt thugs

What do you mean by "run through" and "ain't shyt"?

 

[Arishok]

The Coli have you believe that all nerds have great moral conduct and can't do any wrong. Date a nikka because his a nerd and not give fukk about his personality and what he can bring to the table, brehettes.

Also, if you ain't a nerd and can get women, you're a thug/playa

 

[Neuromancer]

The Coli have you believe that all nerds have great moral conduct and can't do any wrong. Date a nikka because his a nerd and not give fukk about his personality and what he can bring to the table, brehettes.

Why'do you quote me?

 

[Shadow King]

63 pages in 13 hours

 

[old_timer]

yall really wilding out up in here

i'm gonna need to fall back for a minute

 

[onelastdeath]

The Coli have you believe that all nerds have great moral conduct and can't do any wrong. Date a nikka because his a nerd and not give fukk about his personality and what he can bring to the table, brehettes.

Date a bum ass nikka for his personality even though he literally can't bring anything to the table. As in you go to sleep hungry on most nights

This is the only thing that BW need to catch up on. White women take that "nerd" see a future and adjust. Have kids, stay at home mom with security.

Black women fukk with that no hoper, till they get pregnant and they're fukked.

This is not all BW by the way, but a fairly good percentage.

You can mold a man with money into what you want him to be. It's been done. Women do it all the time.
You can't mold a broke ass nikka into a nikka with money.

It don't work like that.

Meaning it's easier to get the finished product you want if the right pieces are already in place.

 

[havoc]

Also, if you ain't a nerd and can get women, you're a thug/playa

This shyt is hilarious and stupid at the same damn time. There is no grey area with these dudes' opinion. They are stereotyping their own brothers who can get women with no problems.