The dad that stepped up realizes he's just an ATM story time

[3rd Ward Swangin]

I thought this dude was in a polygamous situation?

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

I've heard this exact story before.

He's a good actor tho

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

I just know i could spin some wild, wiiiiiild ass into the next great viral video if only i aint have this pesky ass shame holding me back.

My shyt would find its way to the coli within the hour too. Get ur first plat before u even post ur first thread and not even be able to claim it brehs

 

[Vandelay]

Doing all this for a step child is wild...but homie ain't even married to the mom? fukk outta here, this story don't add up.

 

[MajesticLion]

A lot of these people pushing these fables would be pastors of whatever sort, except for the pesky requirement of all the reading involved.

 

[Piff Perkins]

People keep peddling obviously fake #content for #engagement and we fall for it every time. And it’s always gender war shyt, or single parent shyt. Brain poison.

 

[MoveForward]

shyts fake but the premise is real. As a matter of fact, when you’re not with the child’s mother anymore you become an atm. Your relationship with your kid(s) becomes very transactional and women play on that sh*t because they know men (especially black men) don’t want that dead beat label, so we give give give until we nothing else.

I’ve given my bm $2k this month and she told me that I do the bare minimum…

 

[Serious]

Spoiler: text

My step-daughter will be getting married on August 3rd. The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother's life (I say her mother because we aren't married, though we've lived together for 10 years) for the past six months.

My step-daughter graduated last December from University. I paid for her to go to college, though it was a state school, it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school.

From time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend's fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her.

The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave them a list of 20 people that I wanted invited, you know, since I was paying for everything. They told me that was no problem and they'd take care of it. So I let these people know they'd be getting an invite and they should save the date. Saturday, I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn't invited. He told me that he got an announcement, but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat (along with probably six months of mail) and showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad's name and her mom's name and not mine.

This led to a pretty big fight with my GF, as I found out that NONE of my list of twenty "made the cut" for the final guest list because "250 people is very tight." I was pissed, but not a hell of a lot I could do because the important people in my life had already been offended. My GF said "if some people didn't rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in." But that is an ultimate slap in the face in my opinion. So, I was boiling on Saturday.

Yesterday, we had a Sunday dinner with the future in-law's family and us and a surprise guest, the "Real Dad." At this little dinner my step-daughter announced that her "Real Dad" was going to be able to make it to her wedding and that now he'd be able to give her away. This was greeted with a chorus of "Oh how great" and "How wonderful"s.

I don't think I have ever felt so angry and so disrespected. I was shaking. I took a few seconds to gather my composure, because I honestly wasn't sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or both. Once I was sure I'd be able to speak I got up from my chair and said I'd like to make a toast. I can't remember exactly what I said but the gist of it was this:

"I'd like to make a toast." The sound of spoons against glasses ring in my years. "It has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years." Awe, how sweet. "At this point in my life I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom, because they have opened my eyes to something very important." Confident smiles exchanged. "They have showed me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was." And now a glimmer of confusion and shock begins to spread on the faces in the room. "Though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen." I finished my drink. "You all can let yourselves out."

Is this selfish? I'm supposed to shell out 40 - 50 grand for a wedding that I can't invite anyone to? That I am not a part of? I'm so done with this crap. I'm done with my step-daughter, I'm done with my GF. I transferred the money out of our joint account last night. (she has not had a job since she moved in with me) This morning I called all the vendors I had written checks to for deposits to refund my money. At present it looks like I'll lose around 1500, for the venue, but the other vendors have been great about refunding.

Even @General Mills aint take this many L’s

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Spoiler: text

My step-daughter will be getting married on August 3rd. The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother's life (I say her mother because we aren't married, though we've lived together for 10 years) for the past six months.

My step-daughter graduated last December from University. I paid for her to go to college, though it was a state school, it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school.

From time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend's fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her.

The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave them a list of 20 people that I wanted invited, you know, since I was paying for everything. They told me that was no problem and they'd take care of it. So I let these people know they'd be getting an invite and they should save the date. Saturday, I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn't invited. He told me that he got an announcement, but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat (along with probably six months of mail) and showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad's name and her mom's name and not mine.

This led to a pretty big fight with my GF, as I found out that NONE of my list of twenty "made the cut" for the final guest list because "250 people is very tight." I was pissed, but not a hell of a lot I could do because the important people in my life had already been offended. My GF said "if some people didn't rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in." But that is an ultimate slap in the face in my opinion. So, I was boiling on Saturday.

Yesterday, we had a Sunday dinner with the future in-law's family and us and a surprise guest, the "Real Dad." At this little dinner my step-daughter announced that her "Real Dad" was going to be able to make it to her wedding and that now he'd be able to give her away. This was greeted with a chorus of "Oh how great" and "How wonderful"s.

I don't think I have ever felt so angry and so disrespected. I was shaking. I took a few seconds to gather my composure, because I honestly wasn't sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or both. Once I was sure I'd be able to speak I got up from my chair and said I'd like to make a toast. I can't remember exactly what I said but the gist of it was this:

"I'd like to make a toast." The sound of spoons against glasses ring in my years. "It has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years." Awe, how sweet. "At this point in my life I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom, because they have opened my eyes to something very important." Confident smiles exchanged. "They have showed me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was." And now a glimmer of confusion and shock begins to spread on the faces in the room. "Though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen." I finished my drink. "You all can let yourselves out."

Is this selfish? I'm supposed to shell out 40 - 50 grand for a wedding that I can't invite anyone to? That I am not a part of? I'm so done with this crap. I'm done with my step-daughter, I'm done with my GF. I transferred the money out of our joint account last night. (she has not had a job since she moved in with me) This morning I called all the vendors I had written checks to for deposits to refund my money. At present it looks like I'll lose around 1500, for the venue, but the other vendors have been great about refunding.

VERBATIM

 

[fact]

Is this the one where she supposedly wouldn’t invite his side of the family or a friend of his, or some variation to the wedding that “he was paying for”, because if it is, they been trying to get this one off for at least a decade now, it’s a bullshyt story

I didn’t even open the link in OP, and I knew it was the same story from Reddit, smh, this is exactly how narratives and misinformation gets out there, it’s a big ass game of telephone, with different actors taking up the helm of “step father” like once or twice a year. It ain’t any one itt’s fault, but once folks know it’s fake, they should probably stop being “angry” on the step fathers behalf, because it’s bullshyt.

 

[WheresWallace]

I was on IG “fyp” and I came across this chicks who has 2 kids. The first kid is from another guy before she married her husband.

She put up a Father’s Day post that said something to the effect of “I want to give a shoutout to my daughter “daughters name”. Before “husbands name” met you he had no idea what fatherhood was about…blah blah blah. Thank you for being who are blah blah blah and teaching “husbands name” how to a father. Happy Father’s Day”

Non of this is verbatim but this was the general message. I read that with the and just had to laugh and the ultimate dismissal and disrespect.

Your man takes in you and the illegitimate baby you had. He married you and he gives you another baby. He did all that and you cant shout the man out on Father’s Day??? I mean, the day was designed for you to say thank you to the niigga.

 

[number21]

Why is this nikka posting this?

 

[CrushedGroove]

I gotta write me something scandalous so I can get that Coli platinum edition

 

[J Money]

Why do people make videos of themselves basically watching other video?

Mothafukka you might as well just link me to the original video!

 

[Claudex]

Very disrespectful.


Not to mention why in the world was he doing all that for a GIRLFRIEND’s daughter?

Kind man for sure, but naw…

So that the relationship would't go south with the woman he found to be his woman, 'til death do them apart or some shyt like that.
Mother and daughter are a package after all, right brehette?