TheFemalePerspective
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I was explaining this concept in another thread to a poster, then I figured I'd make a thread on it since I've seen many guys make this mistake. I always laugh when I see the quick little gem threads on how you should get a woman.
The question every man wants to usually know about girls is: Why does she like me more when I ignore her? I hope that by the end of this post, you'll have a better idea of why, and in the future you'll make better decisions about who you should ask out for a date.
Girls dating 'bad' boys is not exclusive to the black (or any) community -- it's something that majority of young girls are attracted to, because at that stage, the dopamine chemicals released in their brain is activated much quicker when they experience high and low levels of emotion. A 'nice' guy often only gives them one emotion, whereas the bad guy is able to give them a variety of emotions; raging from extremely good, all the way to intense anger. The young girl confuses this with 'love' because of all the chemicals being released in her brain. This isn't a 'black girl' thing, it's a young girl thing.Thankfully, many girls grow out of this stage, but some stay addicted to the highs and lows.. forever.
Whenever I see guys talking about trapping those types of girls, I truly feel sorry for them. They're spending hours going after someone who is mentally unstable. Someone who suffers from chemical imbalance isn't a great catch.

So, the next time you think.. "Oh yeah, I've got this one... I ignored her quite a bit, played a few mind games, and now she's mine.

Just keep in mind.. that she's suffering from a chemical imbalance. Have fun with the mentally unstable chick that's yours now.

The question every man wants to usually know about girls is: Why does she like me more when I ignore her? I hope that by the end of this post, you'll have a better idea of why, and in the future you'll make better decisions about who you should ask out for a date.
Girls dating 'bad' boys is not exclusive to the black (or any) community -- it's something that majority of young girls are attracted to, because at that stage, the dopamine chemicals released in their brain is activated much quicker when they experience high and low levels of emotion. A 'nice' guy often only gives them one emotion, whereas the bad guy is able to give them a variety of emotions; raging from extremely good, all the way to intense anger. The young girl confuses this with 'love' because of all the chemicals being released in her brain. This isn't a 'black girl' thing, it's a young girl thing.Thankfully, many girls grow out of this stage, but some stay addicted to the highs and lows.. forever.
Whenever I see guys talking about trapping those types of girls, I truly feel sorry for them. They're spending hours going after someone who is mentally unstable. Someone who suffers from chemical imbalance isn't a great catch.

So, the next time you think.. "Oh yeah, I've got this one... I ignored her quite a bit, played a few mind games, and now she's mine.

Just keep in mind.. that she's suffering from a chemical imbalance. Have fun with the mentally unstable chick that's yours now.

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