The happily married or in a relationship thread. (Positive posts only)

[BaldingSoHard]

Been married 10 plus.

Getting a little stale.
The kids are the glue....and the sex...and her cooking.
I am weary of her personality and resentment...and insecurity. Thought she would grow out of it.
She is tired of my work hours and being a home mother...and my general apathy for her whining...er feelings.
I am intelligent and worldly...she was in awe once...but never caught up in either category. Those two traits are now irritating to her.
She dislikes my mamma and that nikka that nutted in her. I don't care for them either...but she ain't supposed to cosign.
She has developed a coping mechanism that is degenerative to a healthy communicative relationship.
She likes Empire.

but

We can laugh at other peoples problems and laugh at how sane we are, and lucky to have each other. The alternative is a shallow IG thot for me, and nikka that get his eyebrows arched in skinny jeans for her. So we make it work by talking shyt, sharing a bottle of Remy and make up smash.

Sounds like the 11 year relationship I ended this year, minus the kids, sex, cooking.

 

[Reactor1804]

Me & Wifey been married for 2 years. Rarely fight, treats me like a king, and we're on the same page as far as goals in life. Never thought I'd be in the Happily Married Gang but it happened. No complaints here

 

[Super Future Luther King Jr.]

Yes I want strange p*ssy but it aint worth messing up what I have here.

FUCCIN FACTS

x

I left my girl who was perfect for me bc I wanna fukk other bytches

FACTS, and I know you're not trolling because so many guys have been there...Leave the chick that was down for you in ever way imaginable for the random hoes with the strange at the clubs. I hope you can learn from this thread breh, I wish the best for you

Been married 10 plus.We can laugh at other peoples problems and laugh at how sane we are, and lucky to have each other. The alternative is a shallow IG thot for me, and nikka that get his eyebrows arched in skinny jeans for her. So we make it work by talking shyt, sharing a bottle of Remy and make up smash.

You know...you said a lot in your post breh but this right here is what matters. Hope the best for y'all

Wait what this side of coli ?

Right? This side of the Coli feels REAL to me. Refreshing

All of us that are telling you how great our marriages are will probably be just as quick in telling you that the person we're with doesn't meet every last one of our expectations of the idealized mate in our mind. However, the perfect mate will try to meet these expectations to the best of their abilities, and their perfect partner (ie: you) will appreciate that they want to at least understand what it is that you desire and are doing their best to fulfill it. One of the biggest parts of a successful relationship is being to leave your egos at the door for the betterment of the team.

This whole post was facts but this shortened version is the TRUTH

Breh

15 years together here
My husband is truly my best friend in the world.
Plenty of challenges over the years, kids, stepkids, exes court
Him almost dying getting major surgery me having emergency surgery deaths of my mom and both our grandmothers. 2 big ass relocations multiple deployments and a 2 year stretch where we lived on opposite coasts. To name a few.

I love our life.
Typical Saturday here we got up early and just sat on the porch and talked for awhile. He did some car fixing and maintenance I cooked and fed him and now I'm here with my coli fam while he's getting his Cod on with his gaming brehs.

I would do it all over again no questions asked.

Keeping communication open is key. You can go to sleep mad, it sucks but it doesn't hurt in the grand scheme. I'd say just don't let stuff linger, talk things out if you have an issue AS SOON as you have an issue. You'll look back on it as hurdles when it's all said and done.

FACTS

Half of what people beef about is everyday stuff like 'she talking with an attitude' type stuff. Once you learn to not take things personal then you can each be yourselves without having to worry about them getting mad because you said something with half an attitude cuz your day sucked.

FACTS

You don't know what life really is until you love someone more than yourself...

FUCCIN FACTS

X

My wife


I think I'm but she luh me.
I almost fukked this relationship up.....

I have been here breh, keep you head up and treat her how she's treated you, be grateful for that second opportunity

Marriage or being in a relationship is work that most couples don't wanna put the effort in to do or maintain or stabilize it
They just end up quitting too easily nowadays
Or some care too much what others think bout their relationship they act out and cause it break

My situation We went our separate ways for awhile but remained friends and took care of the kids properly she got them some days I did
We both needed this which we realized then later on a personal medical event happened our kid that also made us realize the mistakes we did and needed to fix and brought us back together
Now we're happier and thriving and have really learned what was needed to be better couple better husband and wife

ALL FACTS and congrats on the reconciliation breh

What I’ve learned is that no one is the key to your happiness. Be happy and content with who you are and the love will come. No one can bear the burden of loving you and trying to get you to love yourself.

FUCCIN FACTS

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Sounds like the 11 year relationship I ended this year, minus the kids, sex, cooking.

 

[Neuromancer]

I originally meant for this to be a surveillance thread. But I'm glad we got some positive vibes off it.

 

[Super Future Luther King Jr.]

Bumped cuz this is a beautiful thread



Read my wife this whole thread awhile ago and she with the quickness

GMBrehs

 

[Super Future Luther King Jr.]

I originally meant for this to be a surveillance thread. But I'm glad we got some positive vibes off it.

 

[Neuromancer]

I wanted to see who would post in here gave me insight to why people have their various stances.

 

[Super Future Luther King Jr.]

I wanted to see who would post in here gave me insight to why people have their various stances.

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm probably gonna use my data to avoid certain folk. Notice even though some folks aren't with anyone they are well wishers. These are the positive posters.

 

[Rekkapryde]

@beaniemac
@MeachTheMonster
@Rekkapryde
@beanz
@Theraflu
@Juicy

Come spit game to us single folk about married life

Choose wisely breh. And again....don't fukk with someone who isn't going in the same direction you are in life (and that goes BOTH ways)

My wife has the following qualities
- not an attention whore (doesn't do much social media; only joined FB because of family members and friends and doesn't post shyt on hers)
- selfless (does a lot of volunteer work; creates hygiene packs for the homeless every Christmas)
- churchgoing (different strokes for diff folks but I appreciate the fact that she values moral/character/etc and that's what she gets out of religion)
- will sacrifice anything for our kids (constantly reads my kids books to create homework quizzes for my oldest, reads with them, volunteers at his school, just values education highly)

Our 12 was last month and still going strong. Of course there are times when shyt aint gravy, but you learn to work through shyt together. And while she does hold down her corporate job (6 figure club for her...I'm not there yet ), she makes time for everything else holding down the fort which can be hard since I'm on the road during the week for my job 85% of the time.

Aint no flawless broads out there breh, but just get someone who loves and respects you and is LOYAL. You'll be aite if ya do that.

 

[Super Future Luther King Jr.]

I'm probably gonna use my data to avoid certain folk. Notice even though some folks aren't with anyone they are well wishers. These are the positive posters.

okay I'm tracking breh, dope way to look at things

 

[Neuromancer]

okay I'm tracking breh, dope way to look at things

We need more positive folks and less negative people in our ciphers.

 

[Tanahashi Coates]

I originally meant for this to be a surveillance thread. But I'm glad we got some positive vibes off it.

Damn breh. I dunno how I feel about that

 

[Neuromancer]

Damn breh. I dunno how I feel about that

Read my later posts. If I offended you my apologies.

 

[Stir Fry]

Let's make a list of common traits that these relationships seem to share. Feel free to add or subtract from it.

Communication (listening is more important than talking)
Transparency
Shared Goals and Values
Willingness to compromise
Selflessness
Anti drama/attention
Family and friends not involved in issues that arise
Partner stays in corner when chips are down
Ability to put aside egos for the good of the team