The idea of "improving yourself" before you approach women is foreign to some men.

[Mandarin Duck]

Didn't see this.

Parents most likely. Your parents should let you knoe that female validation isn't the be all and end all. That should be paramount. Society reinforces it. At the end of the day we as males must come to a realization that we should have purpose outside of sex and chasing tail. I also think white supermacy having reduced the notion of black men or our sole means of Masculintiy to sexuality plays a part. Mainly we have stop putting so much value on getting women and sex.

My parents aren't why I have low self-esteem

It's the constant interactions with women that aren't interested in me.

Being told I'm too ugly to date someone.

Being told someone would date me if I were more attractive.

You come on here and see how it is for men.

Sex is more than just the physical act.

It's feeling normal. Feeling like you belong in society because you see so many people around you participating in normal healthy relationships and you don't.

Y'all don't understand what it feels like to have women be disgusted by you.

 

[Neuromancer]

My parents aren't why I have low self-esteem

It's the constant interactions with women that aren't interested in me.

Being told I'm too ugly to date someone.

Being told someone would date me if I were more attractive.

You come on here and see how it is for men.

Sex is more than just the physical act.

It's feeling normal. Feeling like you belong in society because you see so many people around you participating in normal healthy relationships and you don't.

Y'all don't understand what it feels like to have women be disgusted by you.

I'm sorry to hear this fam. I won't pretend I know exactly what that feels like. But no one should be made to feel that way. Have you seen a therapist? I would if I were you.

 

[Neuromancer]

Being told I'm too ugly to date someone.

@skeetsinternal @Cat piss martini help this man.

 

[Neuromancer]

@DarianaGrande where do you live?

 

[Neuromancer]

@fckyoupayme make Op feel loved.

Being told I'm too ugly to date someone.

Being told someone would date me if I were more attractive.

I

 

[Worthless Loser]

Y'all don't understand what it feels like to have women be disgusted by you.

That's because they are too busy making fun of people who aren't like them or giving pointless, useless advice that works for people other then the person it's intended for. This forum's culture doesn't mesh well with that type of situation.

I feel your pain. Some of the things you've said I've said here before as well.

You'll have to accept it. Your happiness will have to come from your own self-interests. Good job and financial stability, hobbies, traveling, friends, things that make you happy. Once you focus on that and enjoy yourself, you will have less time to focus on your appearance and shortcomings.

Wish you the best.

 

[Neuromancer]

That's because they are too busy making fun of people who aren't like them or giving pointless, useless advice that works for people other then the person it's intended for. This forum's culture doesn't mesh well with that type of situation.

I feel your pain. Some of the things you've said I've said here before as well.

You'll have to accept it. Your happiness will have to come from your own self-interests. Good job and financial stability, hobbies, traveling, friends, things that make you happy. Once you focus on that and enjoy yourself, you will have less time to focus on your appearance and shortcomings.

Wish you the best.

I wasn't trying to make fun of OP. And I hope he can focus on things that make him happy so loneliness doesn't sting so much.

 

[fckyoupayme]

@fckyoupayme make Op feel loved.
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You already gave the best advice of seeing a therapist. I feel for him tho

 

[Mandarin Duck]

That's because they are too busy making fun of people who aren't like them or giving pointless, useless advice that works for people other then the person it's intended for. This forum's culture doesn't mesh well with that type of situation.

I feel your pain. Some of the things you've said I've said here before as well.

You'll have to accept it. Your happiness will have to come from your own self-interests. Good job and financial stability, hobbies, traveling, friends, things that make you happy. Once you focus on that and enjoy yourself, you will have less time to focus on your appearance and shortcomings.

Wish you the best.

This forum doesn't understand it and most forums dealing with this topic are racist so i don't really want to go on there.

That's why I was asking if there was a black version of those forums before my thread got bushed.

I want to talk to other black men about this and not to bash women.

That becomes old.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

The reason the idea is ridiculous is becuz we should always want to improve ourselves no matter what. Your not a finished product till your in the grave. Truth be told your interactions with the opposite sex and people in general can actually help you become a better person

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Truth be told your interactions with the opposite sex and people in general can actually help you become a better person

This couldn't be further from the truth.

When you spend time around people you realize how disgusting, horrible, self centered and pure evil they are.

We are the only living beings on the planet who make people suffer for our own enjoyment.

I use to always wonder how PETA could care for animals more than they did humans, but once you actually see human beings for who they truly are it makes perfect sense.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

This forum doesn't understand it and most forums dealing with this topic are racist so i don't really want to go on there.

That's why I was asking if there was a black version of those forums before my thread got bushed.

I want to talk to other black men about this and not to bash women.

That becomes old.

How old are you?

Asking seriously as I’m a nikka who’s been there and I’m here to help

 

[13473]

You're a woman.

This doesn't apply to you.

y not.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

y not.

Because you don't go through what we go through.

This thread is about men who can't get women and have to result to "improving yourself" for any attention.

Not some women who has chosen to not have sex or be in a relationship for whatever reason.

 

[FLATOP]

Getting on your purpose does not mean "improving yourself before talking to women"

The fukk?