The idea of "improving yourself" before you approach women is foreign to some men.

[Mandarin Duck]

I had a job a few years back and a co-worker of mine asked if I had a girlfriend.

I told him "No I'm trying to work on myself right now and safe up some money"

He literally hit me with the

As if to say
"What does any of that have to do with getting women?"

It's funny how some of us have these male versions of How Stella Got her Groove Back playing in our heads as motivation to get something that other dudes don't even think twice about

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Because some men don't have to do anything to get women. They just need to have a pretty face and exist.

 

[International Playa]

Sometimes putting women on a backburner to focus on your goals is a good idea.

But many dudes use it as an excuses not to improve their social skills with women

 

[Koba St]

Because he’s right?

“Improving yourself” before approaching women is just an excuse as to why you’re too chicken to approach them now. And what exactly is your metric of improvement before you approach? Six pack? Own house? Millionaire?

 

[Commish]

OP..

I have a Facebook friend who posted an article that said there was a poll made where women said that they preferred men with "Dad bodies" rather than men with a six pack.

So, perhaps your coworker feels that you should be out there getting women regardless of your physical stature/build or financial situation??

I say that you should do what you think is best for you! If you are looking to attract a specific type of person and feel that you need to look a certain way and have to be at a certain financial level in order to attract them, then by all means handle your business!

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Because he’s right?

“Improving yourself” before approaching women is just an excuse as to why you’re too chicken to approach them now.

Even bums with felons get women ..your right


But hard to get quality women being a bummy ass dude
Most of the time

 

[Bumblebreh]

Because some men don't have to do anything to get women. They just need to have a pretty face and exist.

A pretty face will not get you far without having an attractive personality.Looks are more orientated towards women but as men we have to have other things that make us stand out and be attractive.The thing about looks is that women will either be turned on or be put off as a good looking man can bring out a womans own insecurities.And hence in why good looking men can be stereotyped as being players or "too pretty".Women are either hot or cold when it comes to good looking men.
If you are repping handsome gang and you are on tinder.Be prepared to be shyt tested and be bombarded with bs.Women want that guy but they act funny when that guy can have options.Women hate competing with other women when it comes to men.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

It all depends on the kinda woman you want. Some women have higher standards than others.

 

[Neuromancer]

The idea of improving oneself should have nothing to do with women or men, just the individual.

 

[Wildhundreds]

A girlfriend and a girl im just fcking is worlds apart...

 

[ViShawn]

Working on yourself and leveling up is critical in the game!

 

[KneeGrow.]

You sure he wasn't hitting on you

 

[Umoja]

Because he’s right?

“Improving yourself” before approaching women is just an excuse as to why you’re too chicken to approach them now. And what exactly is your metric of improvement before you approach? Six pack? Own house? Millionaire?

I don't think there is a right and wrong. Divorce rates are high, the number of failed relationships higher.

The change in people's circumstances likely plays a role. It boils down to whether you are willing to take a risk that will likely result in a L.

 

[Bumblebreh]

OP..

I have a Facebook friend who posted an article that said there was a poll made where women said that they preferred men with "Dad bodies" rather than men with a six pack.

So, perhaps your coworker feels that you should be out there getting women regardless of your physical stature/build or financial situation??

I say that you should do what you think is best for you! If you are looking to attract a specific type of person and feel that you need to look a certain way and have to be at a certain financial level in order to attract them, then by all means handle your business!

Women get put off by a man who is seen as very "high maintenance" or "pretty" because they want to be with someone who is not more attractive and not having to compete with when it comes to looks.And they hate the reality of other women trying a thing because women will try it with a man who is already in a relationship as non single men are seen as being more valuable.
And hence n why average men who are not bummy and antisocial will have it easy.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Some men can go out looking like a bum and still feel confident while some men need to dress sharp and feel like they look their best to feel confident.

It's actually stupid for people to expect men to constantly care about talking to women if the man is already not confident and comfortable with his position in life. As long as you're actually putting in work towards improvement it's the best thing to do.