Cant deal with a lazy trifling nasty childish dude. It ain't even about chores and gender roles but just having pride in where u lay. Me and my bf's arguments early on when we started living together were about cleanliness. I have furniture that is real wood, Amish made. And I'm a neat freak. My home is my haven. It will look good, smell good and feel good.
Pick up after urself. Wash ur dishes. Put a load of laundry in the washer machine and dear GOD, stop letting mold and bacteria and blk ass rings set in around the tub. Don't leave wet towels on the polished wood furniture.
My mom and dad were meticulous about cleanliness. So am I. After the first couple of arguments, he's started helping out more. When I'm off in the summer, I'll take care of it all. When we're both working, we both contribute. I think the first time I saw him putting Ajax in the tub made me cream...